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post #201 of 250
Just curious

- of you pagans who cover do you also dress plain or modestly? or is your covering separate from the rest of your style?
post #202 of 250
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Just curious

- of you pagans who cover do you also dress plain or modestly? or is your covering separate from the rest of your style?
The covering is seperate from the rest of my dress. I do not go out of my way to dress conservatively, nor do I go out of my way to dress (how do I put this politely?) in a way that is solely meant to create desire. I've still got my baby belly, and when I get rid of it, I'm sure I'll dress differently. The cover style I use lends itself to clothing styles from dressy to casual. My covering serves a couple puroses. Firstly, it is a symbol of the divine feminine. Secondly, it' protection fron stray psychic energy.
post #203 of 250
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Just curious

- of you pagans who cover do you also dress plain or modestly? or is your covering separate from the rest of your style?
I would say I incorporate it into my style. I do not dress plain( I ware bright colors, patterns , modern styles). I do dress modestly. I ware jeans no shorts, long shirts( but that is more to cover baby belly when i lose it that may change) cover my chest. I do where short sleeves though in the summer but no tank tops. As some one else already said, I cover for two reasons First it is a symbol of the divine feminine. Second, it's protection from negative psychic energy.
post #204 of 250
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Just curious

- of you pagans who cover do you also dress plain or modestly? or is your covering separate from the rest of your style?
I find that my style tends to lean towards modesty - I prefer long skirts, and layered tops, but I will go out with arms & cleavage showing, too.
post #205 of 250
I came across this Idea in the "covered Girls" section on here we can post examples of our clothes. Here is a example of the kind of clothes I ware daily( these are not actually my clothes but were as similar as I could find) http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/app so we can see what we are all doing. You can just create your own by clicking create then post a link to us here. I look forward to seeing what everyone else is doing.
post #206 of 250
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I came across this Idea in the "covered Girls" section on here we can post examples of our clothes. Here is a example of the kind of clothes I ware daily( these are not actually my clothes but were as similar as I could find) http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/app so we can see what we are all doing. You can just create your own by clicking create then post a link to us here. I look forward to seeing what everyone else is doing.
Those clothes look familiar! Glad to know someone else has the same taste I do! :
post #207 of 250
Loving Old Navy, today got knee length tunics for 4.69 and nice trousers for 15.00
post #208 of 250
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Just curious

- of you pagans who cover do you also dress plain or modestly? or is your covering separate from the rest of your style?
Totally seperate... I don't equate covering my hair/head with modesty, and there is nothing in particular that would make me "stand out" from the average American college town crowd in terms of clothing or attitude. I'm a snarky/cause/graphic t-shirt and jeans sort.

I belly dance, have tattoos, was a member of a RHPS floor show for years, attend SCA and pagan gatherings/rituals that are certainly not known for "modest dressing" , etc.

Head covering for me is a tool... it helps me shut out unwanted energies while conserving my own.
post #209 of 250
I've been covering periodically, and finally made a fianancial commitment and ordered some pretty stuff from Garlands of Grace. As a wife and a mother, I don't find many examples in modern media or my social circle. Ancient wives in most societies covered their hair. Hestia, Juno, and queens of the domestic sphere are early always potrayed with covered hair... and that's the example I am drawn to personally.
post #210 of 250
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I've been covering periodically, and finally made a fianancial commitment and ordered some pretty stuff from Garlands of Grace. As a wife and a mother, I don't find many examples in modern media or my social circle. Ancient wives in most societies covered their hair. Hestia, Juno, and queens of the domestic sphere are early always potrayed with covered hair... and that's the example I am drawn to personally.
give us a review of your items when you get them!
post #211 of 250
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As a wife and a mother, I don't find many examples in modern media or my social circle. Ancient wives in most societies covered their hair. Hestia, Juno, and queens of the domestic sphere are early always potrayed with covered hair... and that's the example I am drawn to personally.
I'm drawn to those examples as well.
post #212 of 250
Just got my "garlands of grace" today. Gorgeous. I'm impressed with the workmanship.
I bought the "cecily" in black. The ties are a little short, but I can see myself wearing it a lot.
Katherine's casual band: Very simple. The cream looks nice. Like a headband. I'll probably wear it around the house.
Stretch cecily in nutmeg: The color is a little "pinker" than it looked in the picture, but the lace is great.
And I got a stretch "meg" in rich brown, with lace along the front. It's a snood, with elastic in the back. Very quick and easy if you want a little more coverage. My multiple ear piercings detract from the simple elegant appearance, but I like it.

I don't how well they will stay on. I usually have trouble with that.

I still haven't talked to DH about this covering thing. We usually talk about everything, but this is awkward for some reason. Can anyone relate?
post #213 of 250
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I still haven't talked to DH about this covering thing. We usually talk about everything, but this is awkward for some reason. Can anyone relate?
This happens to me when I'm dealing with a change in identity. Basically any topic that affects how I see myself as a person/who I am. I get worried that since this isn't the person dh first "fell in love with" that I'm risking rejection by changing. Even though I know it's silly, and dh and I have been together for 16 years now, it's an emotional response rather than something I "think".

Is something like this maybe at the root of your reluctance? Can you perhaps do a ritual or tap or meditate or dowse something that will help you better define how covering fits within your identity as a woman/pagan/partner? Then when you discuss it with your partner you'll have answers ready for possible questions... or be able to feel confident in describing your feelings surrounding covering?

I don't know... the kiddos are fussy today so my brain is fried...
post #214 of 250
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And I got a stretch "meg" in rich brown, with lace along the front. It's a snood, with elastic in the back. Very quick and easy if you want a little more coverage. My multiple ear piercings detract from the simple elegant appearance, but I like it.
Is the stretch only available via their etsy shop?
Please tell me how you like, as the "meg" is the one I have been eyeing.

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I still haven't talked to DH about this covering thing. We usually talk about everything, but this is awkward for some reason. Can anyone relate?
I can. XDH was EXTREMELY weirded out by my covering. At first, it was only at Mass, but it "leaked" into everyday life. He often talked about it with a female friend of his who, ironically, is a non-Muslim who wears a hijab. And he's ok with it...?
I think the akwardness comes from covering not being "mainstream" and can seem a bit "out there". For me, it took a lot of time examining myself and why I was doing it before I could talk to XDH about it. Once I had a good handle on my personal reasons, it made sense to him. Still weirded him out, but he kind of understood.
post #215 of 250
okay, something like a real review this time. I wouldn't recommend the stretch ones. The Stretch "meg" is nice, but the regular one may be just as good. i find the material a little awkward to keep on. I wear the regular cecily in black almost daily. It stays on very well, and is really cute and comfortable.

Still haven't talked to DH, and strangly enough, he hasn't noticed. It took him a couple years to comment on the fact that I started wearing skirts more though. So I guess that shouldn't surprise me!
post #216 of 250
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Growing up my mom painted the bathroom (only bathroom in the house, and it was a pretty striking color change) and my dad didn't notice. She waited a little over a month and when she finally asked him if he noticed a difference his guess was "new toothbrushes?". He was almost a textbook example of "absentminded professor" though.
post #217 of 250
just found this thread and it is fascinating!!! i have always been drawn to headcovering but haven't had a cultural reason to try. it's so stately, elegant, spiritual and practical. for many years i have been a big fan of wearing scarves and bandanas but haven't as much lately. when my great grandmother passed away we found out she had been collecting silk scarves by the trashbag full (not exagerating! multiple large sized trash bags of just silk scarves!) and i inherited many beautiful vintage ones.
i've been toying with the idea of making headcovering a part of my life. dd is getting a little grabby, my hair is very poofy, and i would like to have a daily ritual that is centering and grounding for my spirit and honors my feminine energies. i don't dress unmodestly (but who would in vermont winters while doing farm work?) per se, but do show a little cleavage occassionally for bf ease and to boost my womanly confidence if you know what i mean.
i'm fascinated by the religious and cultural traditions of women in other cultures.
post #218 of 250
i've noticed some negative reactions to headcovering also and don't know if anyone else has too. the other day while walking with dd in a sling i wrapped a pashima around her and over her head because it was cold and her hat wasn't staying on. several people gave us weird looks and one person even said "why are you dressing your baby like a terrorist?" i was livid!
post #219 of 250
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i've noticed some negative reactions to headcovering also and don't know if anyone else has too. the other day while walking with dd in a sling i wrapped a pashima around her and over her head because it was cold and her hat wasn't staying on. several people gave us weird looks and one person even said "why are you dressing your baby like a terrorist?" i was livid!
That's just terrible.
post #220 of 250
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"why are you dressing your baby like a terrorist?" i was livid!
some people are idiots. i dont even know how i would handle that with out a lot of
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