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post #1 of 138
Thread Starter 
I am a first time mom of a 6 1/2 week old little girl. I am debating on wether to wait until 6 months or later to pierce her ears. I have heard that some do it at 3 months. And others say to wait till they have a coulple of shots. Is 3 months to early??
post #2 of 138
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I am a first time mom of a 6 1/2 week old little girl. I am debating on wether to wait until 6 months or later to pierce her ears. I have heard that some do it at 3 months. And others say to wait till they have a coulple of shots. Is 3 months to early??
Uh, oh! Watch out, this is one of those red button subjects here (the other is your mentioning of shots, another hot topic around MDC!).

I see this is your first post. Be prepared, there might be a few replies that are a bit hot.

Ear piercing is something I haven't had to deal with other than personal experience. I wasn't allowed to have mine done until I was 16. Mom said she'd take me back and have my nose pierced if I did my ears. This was back when girls just didn't have pierced noses (at least, in Western culture).

My opinion is to ask, first, why do you want to do this? I can't see any good reason to pierce any part of a child's anatomy. They haven't given you permission to do so, nor have they asked for it. Myself, I don't think babies look cute with jewelry.

So, my answer would be to wait until she is old enough to ask for the piercing and old enough to care for them herself.

As to shots, whoa, head over to the Vaccinations Forum for more on that!!

By the way: WELCOME!!
post #3 of 138
Way too early, I'd say. I'd wait until she's old enough to ask. And even then, you'll need to find a reputable piercer who will pierce a young child. Those piercing guns used at the mall aren't very sanitary and punch a ragged tear with a blunt object. Ew.
post #4 of 138
I would wait. A few reasons for this - when she's older she may not want her ears pierced, and she wouldn't have the choice to have this undone. Also, there's a lot of care involved in it, and infection is a risk. I had my ears pierced at 12, and even with good care, they got infected. I had to get them re-pierced twice, and even now I have problems with them.
post #5 of 138
Why not wait until she is old enough to give consent to having her body painfully and permanently altered.

Dd just had hers done at 6 ys old. She was so exited to pick out some earrings and have it done. She made me go first though lol. So now I have my ears pierced too!
post #6 of 138
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Originally Posted by BunnySlippers View Post
Why not wait until she is old enough to give consent to having her body painfully and permanently altered.
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post #7 of 138
[QUOTE=BunnySlippers;12529181]Why not wait until she is old enough to give consent to having her body painfully and permanently altered.

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I agree. Not only would be giving her consent by asking to have her ears pierced, it is a choice the two of you can make together when she comes of age.

Welcome to MDC. :
post #8 of 138
I agree - I'd hate to see a LO go thru a painful experience just to look "prettier".
post #9 of 138
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Originally Posted by hedgehogs4 View Post
I agree - I'd hate to see a LO go thru a painful experience just to look "prettier".
Me too, although in some cultures/religions it's not just about appearances.

I suppose it depends on your reasons for doing the piercing. If it's just jewelry, wait until she is old enough to consent.
post #10 of 138
hi, welcome to MDC

here comes my soapbox

I don't care when or where in your body you poke a hole. Thats your business. Personally I wouldn't pierce anything until the kid asked to be pierced. *BUT* (heres where the soapbox comes in)

DO NOT PIERCE THINGS IN THE MALL

ever.

Ever never.

Mall place as soo bad, they use guns that basically are ramming a sharpish piece of metal through your flesh, the guns can't be properly sanitized, you shouldn't be piercing with studs with those stupid clamp backs, they are impossible to clean : the list goes on

If you feel you have to poke holes in yourself, go to a piercing studio. If you think piercing studios are "gross" or "creepy" you're wrong. You think people with piercings and tattoos are gross and creepy. The studios are inspected by the health dpt. the artists have licenses not 5 mins of training like the mall girls.

If you are going to do something do it right.
post #11 of 138
Infections

* Bacterial infections such as staphylococcus can occur as a contaminant. This is more common in those with Atopic eczema. Patients with heart valves need to be careful not to introduce bacterial infection into the blood stream and potentially infect the heart.
* When the cartilage is pierced a specific bacterial infection with a bacteria called Pseudomonas can occur.
* There is a risk if transmitting viral hepatitis from patient to patient through the instruments.
* Read more about bacterial infections.
I don't believe in piercing infants' ears. It is painful and unnecessary, and can have complicatios.

Here are a few examples:

Inflammation

* The piercing through the cartilage can be associated with inflammation in the cartilage

Hematoma

* Blood clots can form because of local internal bleeding in the ear

Foreign Body Reactions

* Granulomas and foreign body reactions can occur to the gold in the rings or if small pieces of metal are left in the skin

Keloid Scarring

* This is common especially in darker skin.
* These are smooth, firm growing, unsightly scars that grow beyond the site of injury. They can be difficult to treat.
* Excising them usually leads to even bigger scars. These scars can be painful.
* Most often they are at their biggest behind the ear lobe.

Allergic Reactions

* By far the most common allergy in women is to the metal nickel. Gold is a much less common allergen. It s also possible to become allergic to the topical cleansers, antibiotics, and antiseptics that are used to prepare for the procedure. Check-out www.EczemaGuide.ca for more information.

Other Considerations

* Heavy rings will pull down and tear the ear lobe giving a split lobe. These need surgical repair if the person wants it fixed.
post #12 of 138
I personally wouldn't pierce someone's ears until they asked for it. Most places peirce baby's ears with a gun, that should never be used. A hollow sterile needle should be. Also, the child should take care of her ear herself. Its also painful, even as an adult.
post #13 of 138
It's her body, her choice. You should wait until she is old enough to ask for it before you permantely do something to her body that she may not want later on.
post #14 of 138
Thread Starter 
wow i have to say i wasn't expecting to get all the same reply. i wasn't reall expecting that answer at all. to wait until she asks. well something new 2 consider! thanks
post #15 of 138
Wait, wait and wait! Let her come to you and ask. I have two girls and there is no way I would have ever even considered this. To me if they want their ears pierced they can ask and we can make it a special day, just for her, and that will be quite a while as they are only 1 and 2 years old.
post #16 of 138
I waited until my daughters were old enough to ask, but I think a lot of posters here would still say they were too young. They were 3 and 18 months when they asked. The older wanted hers done and of course her little sister has to do everything she does. We never had any problems during the healing process and apparently the actual piercing wasn't too painful because neither cried and they both said it didn't hurt. My son also has one ear pierced. He was 6 when he asked for it.
post #17 of 138
We decided to wait until dd was older- 8 years- and let her decide if she wanted it done.
We didn't base it on when she asked. She asked about it when she was 5 or 6 years old. We offered non-pierced earring alternatives.
I chose age 8 because it is the time when a girl moves toward puberty. I felt it was an appropriate time for dd.
If she did want it done at that age I had planned that I would get mine done again at the same time to share the experience.
She's 8 now and decided against it. It's her body, her choice.
post #18 of 138
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Originally Posted by Eliza_Douchehammer View Post
I waited until my daughters were old enough to ask, but I think a lot of posters here would still say they were too young. They were 3 and 18 months when they asked. The older wanted hers done and of course her little sister has to do everything she does. We never had any problems during the healing process and apparently the actual piercing wasn't too painful because neither cried and they both said it didn't hurt. My son also has one ear pierced. He was 6 when he asked for it.

My dd was 18 months when she asked, I made her keep asking (multiple times a day, every day) for a year before I gave in... I still have no idea why it was (still is, she LOVES her ear rings, she is 6 now) such a big deal for her, I NEVER wear ear rings, and neither do any of the women she really sees on a regular basis.
post #19 of 138
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Originally Posted by Cinder View Post
My dd was 18 months when she asked, I made her keep asking (multiple times a day, every day) for a year before I gave in... I still have no idea why it was (still is, she LOVES her ear rings, she is 6 now) such a big deal for her, I NEVER wear ear rings, and neither do any of the women she really sees on a regular basis.
We made DD1 keep asking for several months before allowing her to have it done, but after seeing how well she reacted we let DD2 get hers done after only a month of asking. I have 2g plugs in my earlobes but I never change them or anything so I don't really understand their fascination with having pierced ears.
post #20 of 138
A good piercing shop, the kind of place where you'd trust the piercers to do a good job on such a permanent modification to your child's body, will not pierce a child who cannot ask for it themselves.

It was a amazing bonding experience to take my 8yo daughter to get her ears pierced. She felt like such a grown-up young woman to have her earrings, and they healed nicely. When she sleeps on them "funny" she knows exactly why it hurts, and why it will be OK.
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