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post #21 of 138
I had always thought that I would wait until my daughter was twelve to have her ears pierced, but she started asking to have them done when she was six. I told her that it hurt (she's not good with pain) and could get infected, but that if she still wanted it, she could have it done for her seventh birthday. She did.

It hurt, one ear got infected... it wasn't fun to deal with.

I wish we had waited.
post #22 of 138
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Originally Posted by skkhebert88 View Post
wow i have to say i wasn't expecting to get all the same reply. i wasn't reall expecting that answer at all. to wait until she asks. well something new 2 consider! thanks
Please wait. I have known adults who were angry that they were pierced as infants, because they would never have chosen to be pierced if they were given the option.
post #23 of 138
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Originally Posted by kamilla626 View Post
Please wait. I have known adults who were angry that they were pierced as infants, because they would never have chosen to be pierced if they were given the option.
I would be one of them! Mine were done before I was 2 and I have had multiple infections and just overall problems like it is very difficult to get earrings in my ear (I don't attribute that to having it done early in life) plus I never got the option of saying yes or no. I don't wear earrings, EVER, and I don't think they look on my ears. I try to hide my ears anyway because they are REALLY tiny.
post #24 of 138
I think it's far better to wait until a. she can ask for them and b. she can care for them daily by herself. The only reason most people want earrings on a baby, IME, is so you know she's a girl. Which is silly, at baby stage, the baby won't get offended if you misinterpret her/his sex.

Personally, if my daughter wants hers pierced I'm going to wait and do it as a coming of age sort of thing. Maybe when she gets her first period. Something special if she wants to do it.

I got mine done when I was 11, but I haven't worn earrings in years.
post #25 of 138
We got my DD's ears pierced when she was 6 months old . . . at the mall. No problems with infection, inflammation, etc. Never had a problem with her trying to tug on them, take them out, etc.

This will be my only post regarding this topic. So if someone wants to debate me or flame me- I'm not interested.

Thanks!
post #26 of 138
I did it, I love it, I'm not embarassed. I had both girls done at 8 weeks. Easy, painless, forgotten. Easy to clean this early, the girls grew up with them "being a part of them", and never mess with them.

As far as rituals, I can't remember getting my ears pierced, it's not a moment in my past I look back on, I do not think it's anything my girls would either.

I highly recommend it. Good luck!
post #27 of 138
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Originally Posted by SandraS View Post
Easy, painless, forgotten.
For them, or for you?
post #28 of 138
For both! That's what rocks!!! Not to mention how adorable they are! They will love them in 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years, just like I did and do.
post #29 of 138
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Originally Posted by kamilla626 View Post
Please wait. I have known adults who were angry that they were pierced as infants, because they would never have chosen to be pierced if they were given the option.
Yep. I was made to get mine pierced when I was 5. My body totally rejects piercings. The holes in my ears still ooze pus and they've been pierced for 22 years. Please wait.
post #30 of 138
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For both! That's what rocks!!! Not to mention how adorable they are! They will love them in 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years, just like I did and do.
There are many adults who are angry that their bodies were modified without their consent. You can't know for sure that your daughters will love them as adults. Although, I hope for their sake that they do.
post #31 of 138
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Originally Posted by SandraS View Post
For both! That's what rocks!!! Not to mention how adorable they are! They will love them in 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years, just like I did and do.
I'm not flaming you, but you don't know that. You just don't.
post #32 of 138
I would wait. And like others have said, go to a professional piercer.

My mom had my ears pierced when I was 5 months. While I love earrings, I still would have preferred the choice. Each other time I got pierced (2nd and 3rd holes, cartilage, navel, industrial) as well when I decided to stretch the holes has been a mark of time for me. Each was a special event but I can't remember my first experience with a mall piercing gun (ACK!) and I honestly shutter at the thought anyway. It somewhat taints my love for piercings.

Not saying that your daughter will feel the same but who's to say she won't? Let her have the choice.
post #33 of 138
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Originally Posted by SandraS View Post
They will love them in 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years, just like I did and do.
How could you possibly know that?

i hope they do, but I still maintain that it is not our right to choose for our children. Luckily earring holes are small and not very noticeable if they choose not to wear earrings I suppose.
post #34 of 138
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Originally Posted by SandraS View Post
For both! That's what rocks!!! Not to mention how adorable they are! They will love them in 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years, just like I did and do.
I agree with PP's... there is no way you could possibly know that...

And just because she is your daughter... DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS YOU AND SHARES ALL THE SAME LIKES!

SHE IS HER OWN INDIVIDUAL!!!


Baby or small children ear piercing hits a nerve big time with me. I personally feel earrings do not look right on small children or babies. I do wish some parents would keep more of an open mind before making decisions for their children just to decorate them.

My DSD's Mom pierced her ears when she was a baby and was so sad that she ripped them out. She couldn't wait to get them done again... She took her on her 4th birthday, WITHOUT even consulting my DH, by the way...

And so I had the ultimate joy of cleaning a screaming 4 y/o's ears on the days we had her so they wouldn't get infected... this was HORRIBLE! Not to mention the pain of hearing DSD cry out in pain, but to have to involuntarily be a part of something I am SOOO against.


No ear piercing for our own DC until they ask for it AND are old enough to clean them themselves.

*gets off soapbox*
post #35 of 138
I always put stick on earrings on my daughter. She liked them and they looked cute. She still dosen't want her ears pierced at 10.
post #36 of 138
I wish people would keep an open mind about why some infants and children may have pierced ears
post #37 of 138
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For both! That's what rocks!!! Not to mention how adorable they are! They will love them in 10 years, 20 years, and 30 years, just like I did and do.
I hope for your sake that you're right. Its impossible to know that piercing an infant's ears in painless. People assume that if it hurt, babies would cry. There's tons of parents who think the circ they had done on their son didn't hurt because he didn't cry either. Its absolutely untrue.

I don't think earrings on an infant are cute personally and I would never modify my child's body without their informed consent.
post #38 of 138
My daughter is 7. As girly and "princessy" as she is, she still has not asked about getting her ears pierced. I rarely wear my earrings because I'm in the Army and they are not allowed in uniform, and I just don't put them in to lay around after work. I will put them in if we are going out or something and I remember to get them in before we leave (and can find a matching set). But I don't think it has crossed her mind. She can get it done when she has been asking for it for a few months (so I know it is not a spur of the moment, will regret tomorrow) and shows that she can take care of it herself. Then I will find a piercing shoppe (not in the mall) and take her to get it done. Correctly. Right now, we have to prompt her to remember to brush her teeth, so...

Rules for pierced ears in my house:
1. Owner of ears responsible for the care of the ears
2. Ask before borrowing someones earrings. Clean before returning.
3. Little studs are fine, but, please! what's the fun of having earrings if you can't wear snake fangs once in a while?!?

ETA: Rule #4: It is up to the owner of the pierced ears whether or not he/she wants to wear earrings that day. (unless for some reason he/she cannot)
post #39 of 138
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Originally Posted by mama_b View Post
Yep. I was made to get mine pierced when I was 5. My body totally rejects piercings. The holes in my ears still ooze pus and they've been pierced for 22 years. Please wait.
This is my problem. My mom LOVES earrings and thinks they "rock" but do I ? No. Why? Because I am my own individual who happens to NOT like earrings AND my body has problems accepting the jewelry, hence the multiple infections and trouble with them.
post #40 of 138
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Originally Posted by ZuZu's Mom View Post
We got my DD's ears pierced when she was 6 months old . . . at the mall. No problems with infection, inflammation, etc. Never had a problem with her trying to tug on them, take them out, etc.

This will be my only post regarding this topic. So if someone wants to debate me or flame me- I'm not interested.

Thanks!
i suspect there are lots of stories out there closer to this than the "pus-oozing" "blunt object through a jagged hole" kind of horror stories that get dragged up around here.

we got our dd's ears pierced about 3 weeks ago.......drum roll.....at the mall. we clean them religiously, she doesn't mess with them, they are completely healed -- no redness or swelling or anything like that. if she decides to not wear earrings when she gets older, she can take them out. no biggie.

in fact when my best friend heard that we got dd's ears done she told me about how she was always jealous of the girls who had gotten it done as babies, b/c theirs were completely healed already and never got infected, whereas the girls who were just getting it done in 2nd or 3rd grade couldn't stop messing with the earrings and were constantly getting infections.
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