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post #41 of 138
It's not so much the potential for medical complications that bothers me; it's the idea that the child hasn't consented to having their body modified, and wouldn't necessarily choose to be pierced if they had a say.
post #42 of 138
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Originally Posted by fancyoats View Post
i suspect there are lots of stories out there closer to this than the "pus-oozing" "blunt object through a jagged hole" kind of horror stories that get dragged up around here.

we got our dd's ears pierced about 3 weeks ago.......drum roll.....at the mall. we clean them religiously, she doesn't mess with them, they are completely healed -- no redness or swelling or anything like that. if she decides to not wear earrings when she gets older, she can take them out. no biggie.

in fact when my best friend heard that we got dd's ears done she told me about how she was always jealous of the girls who had gotten it done as babies, b/c theirs were completely healed already and never got infected, whereas the girls who were just getting it done in 2nd or 3rd grade couldn't stop messing with the earrings and were constantly getting infections.

I woudn't say all small children are free from infections... DSD has already had an infection because she is constantly picking her nose then playing with her ears.

DC should show a maturity to handle the responsibility for taking care of themselves and a piercing that could cause infection.
post #43 of 138
We have not pierced DD's ears. She is five now and I would let her if she wanted to, but she is not interested.

I got mine done when I was 8 years old. It was my choice - I had to beg my mom for weeks after my cousin got hers done. (Mom's rule was that we had to wait until we were 12.) They let me do it though. I never had any problems with them until a couple years ago after I worked at a lab that made retainers and I bent nickel-containing wires all day long for a year. Now anytime I wear earrings, my ears feel "itchy" in the holes.

I'm not upset I chose to pierce my ears at an early age (I was the only girl in my 2nd grade class - it wasn't that common back then). But I am upset I chose to work at that job for so long and not just because of the nickel.....but that's another story.
post #44 of 138
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Originally Posted by kamilla626 View Post
It's not so much the potential for medical complications that bothers me; it's the idea that the child hasn't consented to having their body modified, and wouldn't necessarily choose to be pierced if they had a say.

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post #45 of 138
This issue has already come up in my family. DD is 2 months old. MIL and SIL have asked when I am going to have her ears pierced. Since I am aware that all my SIL's have had their infant daughters' ears pierced, I chose my words carefully and just said, "When she's old enough to ask."

They still flipped out and thought I was looking down on them for piercing their baby girls' ears. It's not that I was looking down on them; I would just rather wait until DD is old enough to want to have them done.

Plus, I can't imagine doing anything to my precious babe that would cause her even the slightest bit of pain.
post #46 of 138
Not my body not my choice. I think it's wrong to modify a childs body for looks. Simple as that.
post #47 of 138
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Originally Posted by SandraS View Post
I did it, I love it, I'm not embarassed. I had both girls done at 8 weeks. Easy, painless, forgotten. Easy to clean this early, the girls grew up with them "being a part of them", and never mess with them.

As far as rituals, I can't remember getting my ears pierced, it's not a moment in my past I look back on, I do not think it's anything my girls would either.

I highly recommend it. Good luck!
Bolding mine.

How many have the same thing to say about RIC? It's the exact same thing, I don't care who you are or where you are coming from.

Not my body, not my choice to permanently modify without a well founded medical reason.
post #48 of 138
My sister had my nieces done at six months and because her ears weren't done growing they are completely uneven. One hole is on the bottom of the lobe. She's fourteen and wishes her mother would have waited.
post #49 of 138
I wouldn't say when they are old enough to ask.

My daughter has been asking since she turned three, maybe a little earlier. There's no way I'm piercing a 3 year old's ears.

My answer right now is that she can do it when she's 8. I just picked that age out of a hat. I want her to understand what she's doing and be able to take care of her own ears. That's when she can get them done. It may be 6 it may be 10 depends on how she matures.

I'm SO glad to hear that I am not alone on this issue! Another reason to love this group.
post #50 of 138
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Originally Posted by Contrariety View Post

How many have the same thing to say about RIC? It's the exact same thing, I don't care who you are or where you are coming from.

Exactly! How many times do we hear "I would rather do it now when they won't remember it". Such a sad world we live in.
post #51 of 138
I would wait.

I wanted to do DD1's ears when she was a baby, and DH flipped out. Now, I'm REALLY glad. Not because of any noble, self choice reason (which I think are completely valid), and not because of health reasons.

Now that DD1 is almost 7, she REALLY REALLY wants earrings. She has asked for over a year, and I have been quietly working on my DH, who wanted her to wait until she was 12. He has agreed that we can do it for her 7th birthday. I am SO excited, because it will be a very special thing for the two of us, all by ourselves, to go do. It will be a very big deal that she will probably remember. Personally, I am assuming I will need to do alot of the initial care.

My own mother is dead, but a memory that has been quite vivid for me in all our familial earring debates is how I got my ears pierced when I was 6. It was a surprise birthday present. I remember my mom standing beside me, looking cheerfully worried. (As a mom, I now know she was helping me be brave.) It was a big deal. I am glad DH put his foot down, and DD will be old enough to remember.
post #52 of 138
I read the first few replies, but not the 2nd page, so apologies if this has already been mentioned.

My DD had some eczema and pulled and pulled at her itchy ears a lot at around 9 months to 1 year. I had not even thought about piercing her ears (figured she can get them done if she wants at age 10 or 12 or so), but I saw another baby with her ears done and I just shuddered to think what my DD's ears would have looked like if I had done them at 6 months. . .
post #53 of 138
I would never inflict pain upon a small child or alter a small child's body against his/her will for purely cosmetic purposes.
post #54 of 138
Her body, her choice. This is not a life or death issue; its cosmetic. I'd wait until she was old enough to want a piercing and responsible enough to care for it.
post #55 of 138
Wow, I must be horrible. My DD had hers done at 3 months. I don't see an issue with it, she never touches them. Shes half Cuban and for my husbands side of the family, it was a big deal.. But, shes alive, healthy, fine.. And I'm not regretting it.
post #56 of 138
I don't think you are horrible to pierce your daughters ears as a baby. I couldnt do it myself, mainly because I have done piercing, both gun and needle, the gun is totally yucky, but if you are going to do a baby's ears, using a needle would be very difficult as with a gun you can do both sides at the same time if two people are doing it. I don't know, I just don't think it is worth the effort and pain to go through with it. to each their own.
post #57 of 138
My partner is a professional body piercer, he's been in the industry for about 17 years now and has put his foot down that our daughter will not be getting her ears or anything pierced until she is old enough to sign for herself which is 16, and it will be him or somebody that he recommends to do it.

Modifying the body of a minor without their consent is wrong. (religious/cultural views aside)

Piercing guns are extremely dangerous because it is a blunt object being rammed through your flesh. They cannot be properly sterilized, they would melt if ever put into an autoclave.

People who pierce with guns have not been properly trained, often times the holes are uneven. Most importantly, they have no clue about cross contamination and blood born patheogens. Hepatitis can live on a dry surface for AT LEAST 15 days, TB can live on a dry surface for AT LEAST 45 days.

Ok, I'm off my soapbox..

My mother took me to get my ears pierced when I was 5-ish, I remember it hurt and I didn't want the second one pierced, but the woman tricked me and quickly did the second one. I had infection after infection because of those butterfly backs they use because they can't be cleaned properly. At 12 I got a second set of holes pierced, the woman who pierced them was an old lady who is a hair dresser at the flea market... She "sterilized" her piercing gun with Windex, because "Windex kills bacteria and disease," but gave me a blank look when I asked her if Windex really does kill disease, then why don't they just inject people who are HIV positive with Windex, and then there wont be anymore HIV and AIDs. She put on a pair of gloves, then moved her hair out of her face and remembered that the cash register was open, so closed the drawer and pierced me before I could say I changed my mind. I regret not waiting until I was a bit older and able to go to a tattoo shop to get pierced properly by a professional.

Sorry for the novel.
post #58 of 138
I have 2 girls and both of them have there ears pirced. They both got their done when they were turned 6 months old. We had No problems with it and my childern both forgot about the pain 2 seconds after it was done. We did choose to wait until after the first set of shots.
post #59 of 138
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Originally Posted by vegmamadeb View Post
Wow, I must be horrible. My DD had hers done at 3 months. I don't see an issue with it, she never touches them. Shes half Cuban and for my husbands side of the family, it was a big deal.. But, shes alive, healthy, fine.. And I'm not regretting it.
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I don't regret it as well and do not have an issue with it
post #60 of 138
I remember it being a HUGE deal for me. I was allowed when I was 10 and it was a big production. We went to the department store (1982) and I got to pick out the earrings and it was such a responsibility. It was a passage...I was leaving behind 9, finally double digits (10).

I still remember it like it was yesterday, it was so important for me. I would never rob my child of that. All of my friends had theirs done when they were a baby and none of them had that great experience. In fact, they all took theirs for granted, were very unappreciative of them. I was in awe of my earrings for years!


eta....man if the next one is a girl, we are going to the tatoo parlor!!!! windex????
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