Cabin fever. Support please!

[MommaFox]

So, Mal's been here a month, but it seems like he was always with us. I've had a fun babymoon, but here's the rub: I miss DS #1! I miss being able to bounce off and do things with him without a second thought. I miss just me and him time. I know I should be happy, but I just feel trapped. Because if Mal's not sleeping or nursing, he's screaming like he's on fire. Please let me know I'm not alone

[mamanurse]

I haven't felt well enough pp yet to leave the house much, but I plan on doing it next week. Me and dd1 (almost 3) will go to the Children's Museum and possibly the Zoo in good weather. I'll just take dd2 in a pouch or sling. Does Mal not tolerate leaving the house?

If you can't leave, maybe you could do some fun activities with ds1 like bake cookies or a cool craft. Just some thoughts...

to you and I hope your stir craziness improves

[Mamja]

Well, I don't know where you live, but I've been taking Carolyn out for walks in her stroller. It puts her right to sleep, gets her some fresh air, and gets me some exercise. Even just going outside briefly feels good and makes me feel less cooped up. I want to get in as many walks before the snow comes.

[MommaFox]

He goes outside just fine, as long as he's sleeping or nursing. I love my sling becuase without it I'd get even less done than I do now. I think he's got some sort of radar that tells him I'm thinking about taking a shower or mopping the floor. We've got about 48 hours of nice weather left here, and as totay's the dreaded election day, there's no school. I'm gonna try to get to the park sometime. Thanks!

[Changed]

I totally understand. My 3 year old and I were always out and about...my little buddy. I feel so sad sometimes that he's not getting as much from me.

[77sugaree]

How does your little one do with Dad or Grandparents?
I took the kids to the park with my mom on Sunday. She held Harper while he slept and I got to climb, slide and swing with Jax. Great bonding time for Grandma and Harper and fun play time for me and Jax. And the fresh air was good for everyone. :

[mkmb129]

This is how I'm feeling, too. I miss my ds so much. The baby is always nursing/sleeping on me. I'm having trouble feeling that over-whelming love for her because I'm feeling so badly about not having time for ds. I know it'll pass soon.. but right now things just don't feel good.

[audsma]

I know what you mean. I'm going stir crazy (although less so since I'm in control of my house since my folks left this morning) and missing my DD. I carried her downstairs to her bath last night-- haven't been able to really pick her up since July-- and it felt good to have my first-- my five year old girl-- in my arms again.

[nccrunchymama]

I've been having this problem too, but I didn't recognize it until about a week ago. My mom came to visit for the day, and she took dd1 to play at the park while I went to vote (early). Then I met them at the park with baby in the mai tai. It helped to get out of the house, but I needed to play with dd1, too. So, a couple days later, I strapped baby on, got her to sleep and then dd1 and I went outside with a box of sidewalk chalk. Even though it wasn't as physical as we wanted, it was outside and interactive.

During those rare times when baby does lay down to sleep, I try to play with dd1 for a little while before I try to catch up on all the things that are falling behind. At this rate, I may never catch up, but my little ones and I need time together more than I need to get the clean laundry off the couch.

So we've been out with my mom once, and with dh a couple of times. I still haven't had the nerve to go anywhere by myself with both girls, but I'm going to do that tomorrow. We're only going to LLL, but I figure I have to start somewhere and there will at least be other mamas who will understand and help if I have a crisis. Once I get past that hurdle, I won't feel nearly so confined.

I hope you figure out a solution that works for you soon

[myrmom]

Do you have a swing?? Have you tried a swing at home...Keir loves to be held all the time as well...but definatly likes the swing as well...it gives me time to do things with my other two.

As for going out, just put keir in one of my carriers and we go for walks or to the park.

Good luck....I remember feeling that when I had my second...trust me it does get lots better!! hugs mama!!