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post #441 of 625
I'm subbing I really need to be here. I will try to catch up, but am not sure I can, I think I'll join in from here on.

This month has been particularly bad. I even thought I may be pregnant, but alas, I am not. I have symptoms starting right after O until I start AF, they are affecting my relationship with DH I am so critical and bitchy, and I pick fights. I need to be left alone a great deal (but don't necessarily think that is wrong) BUT when anyone 'bothers' me (read, my DH) I can't tolerate it

I am ok with my kids, a little more short tempered, most of it goes to my lucky DH.

I will be reading and contributing
post #442 of 625
Thread Starter 
Hey Mama, welcome!

I remember you from Single Parenting I believe...

I can COMPLETELY relate to the PMS coming out at your SO.

It's funny for me how my DP has been a lot more tolerable : )
post #443 of 625
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Originally Posted by mystic~mama View Post
Hey Mama, welcome!

I remember you from Single Parenting I believe...

I can COMPLETELY relate to the PMS coming out at your SO.

It's funny for me how my DP has been MUCH more tolerable now that I am on meds....a lot of it was me....
Yes, I remember you from back before you met your DP and I met my DH, long time ago.

It is funny, much of this PMS didn't surface until DH was a part of my daily life. Before then if I needed space, I could take it. The kids don't affect me in the same way.

I think that it may be a sign of perimenopause for me (am afraid) someone told me there was that connection, and I am the right age. That would explain my difficulty conceiving Come to think of it, the 2 times I did manage to get pregnant (ended in m/c) were the months where PMS was not bad at all.

I am going through it right. now. DH's every action is getting on my last nerve. I am ultrasensitive.

I am actually taking some meds right now. I didn't make the decision lightly. I will share at a later time. I am also trying 5htp, and when I remember, flower essences work great! (but I tend to forget about them ) cal/mag. I am taking prenatals still from the last pregnancy. I also take maca, but I missed it the last couple of months (hmm, I wonder if the fact that it is out of my system is why it is so bad this month?)

Anyway, I am glad you are all here

G'night
post #444 of 625
Thread Starter 
ovulation is frustrating this month.
post #445 of 625

Thank God for this thread...

I came on here searching for something like this because I don't know where else to turn......I apologize I haven't had chance to read much of anything in the thread yet except the first page..I'm just glad I found it.

Nobody understands any of this and most people think it's just PMS and/or a joke, but I am utterly convinced I have PMDD, I have felt I have it since I heard about it 2 years ago. But I have no one to talk to about it.

I'll make this as brief a run down about me, myself and the evil PMDD as I can..

I was put on birth control at 15 because of severe mood swings and very heavy periods. I constantly switched to different ones because they never seemed to work, but hovered around Yasmin most of the time. I didn't come off it until last year when I found out I was pregnant at 22.
The last year/18 mo was absolute bliss without a period...and then it came back one month with a vengeance, disappeared again, came back...ugggg

I have been reading a book on the FAM but because my period isn't totally back it's really hard to calculate but I have figured out how to tell when I *think* I'm ovulating which I am pretty sure has been the last few days. I've been waiting and waiting for AF to start but nothing...it almost feels like my uterus is in a battle against my hormones because my 13 m/o is nursing constantly again battling her teething, so my whole body is confused on whether to have one or not

Last month however it seemed my hormonal 'swings' were the week after my period but now it seems as though it's the week/2 weeks before!? I find it hard to tell whether or not I'm being insane or if I'm just completely drained right now. DD is 13 m/o and is one of those not-the-easiest-of-sleepers. I'm in the Breaking Point Mama's support thread in the Night time parenting section..hopefully that says enough.

DH drives me absolutely berserk..he gets the worst of it, DD is too young but she still gets some because she is the reason I am so sleepless most of the time.

My marriage is young, a year and a half and we have always been a 'volatile' couple where we feel extremely strong emotions towards each other in love and arguments, but this is causing a huge barrier between us..I can't communicate to him, I don't want to half the time, every time he does and says anything I snap at him. I snapped at my mother through email out of nowhere.

I'm no longer on any kind of medication, I don't want to be either, I wanted to use the FAM but I am still breast feeding, a lot and will be for a while. I eat as best as I can, we only eat organic meat, no dairy, I cook almost everything, we don't have access to many organic anything and the soil here is cr*p. I was taking prenatal but have been slacking, I also take a probiotic.

I don't know what else to do. Last time I brought this up to a Dr. they brushed it off like it was just pms and always prescribe me birth control. I live on a base so the Drs here aren't the most natural-minded.

Ok, I"m going to read some of this loooooong thread now...thank god i'm not alone.
post #446 of 625
LeoneLover13
post #447 of 625
oh i´m so glad i found this. no idea how bad it is. on top of everything y have a DIU implanted 3 years ago, so it can get worse.

i have to read back!
post #448 of 625
Thread Starter 
LeoneLover13 & paakbaak

glad you found us & I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I understand how confusing and frustrating it can be.

blessings and peace to you on your journey of healing
post #449 of 625
wondering...i see lots of you are on meds, but is everyone taking the pill or any form of it? anyone find any help in something more natural?
post #450 of 625
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wondering...i see lots of you are on meds, but is everyone taking the pill or any form of it? anyone find any help in something more natural?
I was hoping to find out about that. It seems many in here have figured out their own vitamin routine with the b-complex's etc. but I haven't a CLUE where to start with that. I do not want to go on the pill again and I am not taking anti-depressants.
post #451 of 625
what a horrible week to top off a bad month. my kids got sick with H1N1 at halloween. DS and i got sick a week later. we were all sick for 3 weeks. then it was time to get ready for thanksgiving and my mom's 80th birthday party. of course my 15 year old cat got really ill. still is. and of course my period is due on monday and i am always so weepy and overly emotional the 2 days before my period despite the meds. i took extra yesterday along with more DIM. maybe it helped, i don't know. maybe it was that DS took the kids out for the afternoon and i could be alone in my insanity of getting ready for my mom's party.

now i have give meds, fluids and force feed the cat before i leave to drive 75 miles to my mom's for her party.

ugh.
post #452 of 625
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by umami_mommy View Post
what a horrible week to top off a bad month. my kids got sick with H1N1 at halloween. DS and i got sick a week later. we were all sick for 3 weeks. then it was time to get ready for thanksgiving and my mom's 80th birthday party. of course my 15 year old cat got really ill. still is. and of course my period is due on monday and i am always so weepy and overly emotional the 2 days before my period despite the meds. i took extra yesterday along with more DIM. maybe it helped, i don't know. maybe it was that DS took the kids out for the afternoon and i could be alone in my insanity of getting ready for my mom's party.

now i have give meds, fluids and force feed the cat before i leave to drive 75 miles to my mom's for her party.

ugh.

wow mama, that is so much to deal with! I'm sorry....I have been thru those times when everything seems to happen at once...I'm sorry.

One thing that helps me is when I try and feel compassion for myself and validate that yes this is hard! and *anyone* would struggle with it...that sort of helps me to surrender and go with it and never forgetting that it will pass and just letting go as best I can...

hope all calms down for you soon mama.

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I was hoping to find out about that. It seems many in here have figured out their own vitamin routine with the b-complex's etc. but I haven't a CLUE where to start with that. I do not want to go on the pill again and I am not taking anti-depressants.
You got to start somewhere I guess...look at your nutrition, your lifestyle and find where you may be lacking, B vitamins are common...

Add things one by one can be good.

I also said I would Not take Anti Depressesnts and I am taking Fluoxetine and it is funny for me to honestly say that I like it, it helps and I was working w/ a natureopath for 5 months and all my time working on it on my own and I did not get help enough to get me through it...

it feels like w/the meds that I am now free'd up to be able to deal with some deeper stuff.....going to counselling and taking care of some deep house cleaning.

I am glad I took the leap.


blessings mamas
post #453 of 625
I'm posting before reading any of this thread.

My doc thinks I have PMDD. She suggested med right off the bat.
I just changed docs (pcp) and am wondering whether to bring it up with her or find a gyn. Opinions?
post #454 of 625
Has any of you mamas tried wellbutrin for PMDD? I'm off the cipralex for the second cycle and it just doesn't work without meds. Cipralex made me gain weight. Thank god I stopped after three months and "only" gained 10 lbs.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I've been doing supplements for two years and nothing works.

And welcome Beloved!
post #455 of 625
DanishMom I am on Wellbutrin for general mood improvement. While it has been generally helpful, it in an of itself did not relieve the crazy mood swings associated with PMDD. I needed an SSRI to help with that. Have you considered trying something like Prozac, Zoloft, Paxil or one of those SSRI's?
post #456 of 625
yeah, everything i have read had been pretty clear that only certain kinds of antidepressants work with PMDD.

i have been taking a low dose of zoloft on days 5-28 and it's been really really helpful. i see the difference immediately. if i forget to take it, i see that too.

a low dose means almost no side effects, but i have been losing weight so maybe that is from the zoloft. most likely it's from the fact that with my mood under control i am doing less emotional eating.
post #457 of 625
Thread Starter 
I'm curious what a low dose is?

I can understand Danish Mom asking about wellbutrin, I did some reading on it myself..I've seen some weight gain with the fluoxetine so while it works for me pretty well, that part of it I am not happy with.

also wanted to let you mamas know that I went through and edited many of my posts after discovering there are some women at another board who are spending their energy gossiping, saying critical, and mean things about mamas/posts on MDC. I need to request that you not quote this paragraph.

take care all
post #458 of 625
i take 25 mg of zoloft.
post #459 of 625
Thread Starter 
oh okay. I'm at 15 mg and so far experiencing the weight gain DanishMom is worried about.

I might try another med if I keep gaining switching sounds like a pain.
post #460 of 625
I did have quite a bit of weight gain with fluoxetine, especially when I was at a higher therapeutic dose. When I take a higher dose again, I notice it affects my weight. I don't like it but don't really feel like monkeying around, trying to find another med.

It's too bad about those who are quoting and posting stuff from MDC on other boards and saying mean or critical things. I wonder if it is those who have not gone through what we have gone through, and cannot understand the world through a perspective that is not their own.

We all have to do what is right for ourselves, we have to live in our bodies and walk in our shoes. We are all unique in our experiences, histories, physiology, body chemistry, beliefs, values, etc.
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