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[coco4cloth]

Hey ladies I haven't checked in for awhile. I was doing good on AD for about 2 months but now I feel like I'm back to where I was. This is a hard time of the year anyway for me because I think I suffer from SAD too. I feel so defective and helpless lately. Add the holidays and family issues I feel like I want to just run away. My period ended yesterday. I was miserable the first few days before I started and now I'm just plain depressed. I am going to make myself get on the treadmill today and start eating good. I feel so only. I feel bad for my family. Sometimes my husband drives me crazy for no reason. It's nothing he does its just me My son who is 9 years old caught me just sobbing in my room. How do you explain this to children? I am sooooo over this shit. I want to be normal, I want to have a sound mind and body.

[mystic~mama]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time mamas, I know your pain...Don't forget it will pass and your families love you and that we are *All* flawed human beings

The feelings towards your DH's remind me of the internal family systems model and the part of the protector as it is called comes out to protect a vulnerable part of a person and I wonder if during this very sensitive time if there may be things triggered by your partners that you may not realize and that your protector may come in and get angry at the one stirring up the vulnerable feelings or exile as it is called in IFS.... I've posted about myself being triggered by my DP....the IFS and AD's have both been very very helpful in my journey.

blessings

[DanishMom]

Originally Posted by mystic~mama

I'm sorry you are having a hard time mamas, I know your pain...Don't forget it will pass and your families love you and that we are *All* flawed human beings

The feelings towards your DH's remind me of the internal family systems model and the part of the protector as it is called comes out to protect a vulnerable part of a person and I wonder if during this very sensitive time if there may be things triggered by your partners that you may not realize and that your protector may come in and get angry at the one stirring up the vulnerable feelings or exile as it is called in IFS.... I've posted about myself being triggered by my DP....the IFS and AD's have both been very very helpful in my journey.

blessings

Hi there Mystic. Your thoughts sound very interesting and is something I can relate to. Do you care to elaborate - please....

Much love,
Anne

[Surfacing]

[mystic~mama]

hey mamas,

here is a web page which explains the IFS model and the different types of parts.

http://www.wisdomresources.net/IFS.html

when we are in relationship these parts come out and interact with each other and being in an intimate relationship can very much be a catalyst for triggering these parts and giving you a chance for healing...

I highly recommend a therapist that is experienced in this as well as knows the work of John Gottman. We are on our 3rd therapist and we are finally really making some real progress.

blessings

[mystic~mama]

hi mommies

how are you doing?

Surfacing & Danish Mom, did my last post help you get more info on the Internal Family Systems approach?

Still on the AD and it is working great for me. Still have ups and downs esp around ovulation but it is mild comparatively.

DP likes to joke that I have "lost my touch"....I feel good that he is saying this : )

Hawaii was beautiful, I was just pre ovulation when the trip began so we had to work out some kinks, it helped bring some stuff out in both of us and brought us closer...I think when "you" are in a grounded place with yourself you can use those times of the month as a stepping stone for your growth.

hope all is well for you all

[DanishMom]

Originally Posted by mystic~mama

how are you doing?

Surfacing & Danish Mom, did my last post help you get more info on the Internal Family Systems approach?

Still on the AD and it is working great for me. Still have ups and downs esp around ovulation but it is mild comparatively.

DP likes to joke that I have "lost my touch"....I feel good that he is saying this : )

Hawaii was beautiful, I was just pre ovulation when the trip began so we had to work out some kinks, it helped bring some stuff out in both of us and brought us closer...I think when "you" are in a grounded place with yourself you can use those times of the month as a stepping stone for your growth.

hope all is well for you all

Hi Mystic. I'm on 40 mg fontex and doing really really well in terms of PMDD. No weight gain on fontex as compared to cipralex. No sexual side effects either. I also take wellbutrin to reduce fontex side effects.

Relationship wise I'm doing ok. There is a lot of learning and growing on both sides. Loved the article. Makes so much sense so thanks for posting. Sorry about the short paragraphs - I got another herniated disc in my neck and the pain is insane. Take care mamas.

[Taradactyl3]

Ugh, I'm back. I was on sarafem days 14-28 for a while but it makes me so drowsy and kind of zombie like for those two weeks and honestly it only helped a little bit. So I am trying a month off of it and it's not that much different. It makes me feel a little hopeless. I've tried so many things and yet here I am still suffering these high ups and low downs. The only thing that helped much at all was going sugar free....but that is sooooooooo hard for me. I'm feeling today

[DanishMom]

Taradactyl3 - Hugs.

I would take it every day. The drowsiness should go away after 2-3 weeks. My second and third cycle on prozac was much better than the first. Good luck.

[Taradactyl3]

Prob is it was only written for me to take it 2 weeks a month. I guess I could ask my MW to up it....I don't know.

[mystic~mama]

Tara, it can take time to adjust to a med...you can find the right combination, and for your body to process it, also maybe you do need it all month long.

Anne,

sorry your in pain!

[Jannah6]

For a long time I've suspected that I might have PMDD. It's time that I get some help so that I can function,for myself and my family. I'm in NYC,does anyone have any recommendations for Dr's?

[mystic~mama]

hi Jannah, welcome,

I personally went with a Certified Nurse Practitioner....

first off, I wanted a womyn

second....I didn't want an MD...

also, a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner could be helpful as well

I'd recommend going to the tribal area for your state and posting there for rec's

~~~

an update about me:

things are going wonderfully in my life...I'm still doing a bit of experimenting with my med dose here and there...they are working great for me...

i still have a small storm during ovulation to contend with so of course life is not perfect....

but things are soooo good and I've been able to grow so much, like insanely much the past few months....I am pinching myself....

it is my personal journey of growth along with the help of the meds that has led me to where I am and I'm feeling like a beautiful colorful swallow tail butterfly bursting out of her cacoon!

blessings mamas

[umami_mommy]

glad to see i am not the only one who still has problems during her cycle. things are so much improved i really can't complain though.

[Surfacing]

That is so great to hear Mystic~Mama. If you reread your earlier posts and compare this one to how much you were struggling, the difference is very noticable. So glad for you.

[mystic~mama]

Originally Posted by Surfacing

That is so great to hear Mystic~Mama. If you reread your earlier posts and compare this one to how much you were struggling, the difference is very noticable. So glad for you.

hey mama....yes, I can remember the struggles I posted about and there is a very noticeable change with me, my counselor could see it just looking at me...

i hit a bump in the rode and that is just bound to happen

I'm reaching deep dark dusty corners within and that can really really hurt sometimes... I do feel a more grounded strength and an ability to get up and keep on going on more than I did before

DP still triggers me, that doesn't just go away...but how I respond is changing although it is challenging right now with our current circumstances.......DP is on the other side of the planet doing some wonderful conservation work.....which is great but it also messes with my abandonment issues and I just have to dig in, feel the pain and get on with the healing.........and for those of you reading...just know,,,,I had an extremely colorful pallette of colors for DP and I's last chat.....you fall and get upset and get back up and "just keep goin on.......take every knock as a boost and every stumbling block as a stepping stone................"

thank the goddess for my dear friends!

blessings

[umami_mommy]

hey MM, check out "journey of the heart." i think it will resonate with where you are right now.

[mystic~mama]

hey thanks umami! I got myself a copy....blessings

[mystic~mama]

hey mamas

well, even though Fluoxetine is helpful I am going to change meds to see about stopping the weight gain side effect...I cannot even believe what the scale reads, ugh

I am gaining muscle and feeling a lot stronger, working out ect... but the weight is not coming off at all and I know I am doing great with my diet and exercise so something has got to change

I guess i need to decide between Paxil and Zoloft....also my sex drive has dropped, it would be so great to find something that increased my drive...helped me lose weight and feel happy at all once!!

I'm going to start taking Shatavari for my reproductive system, that could help my libido and the ovarian tenderness I get...

any thoughts on the med switch would be WONDERFUL!!

thx mamas

love and light

[mystic~mama]

so I'm thinking Zoloft, after doing some reading....

I have an appt for friday! : )