some of you here may know me. But I see a lot of the old faces are gone and there are a number of new people I do not know.
Scott adn I long term family plan has alway been to adopt. We did choose to have our biological children first, due to age considerations. However we have been reading about, talking about, praying abut and planning on adotion since before we were married.
Well Chalres is one now, and so we are serious into thinking about where to go next.
So we have to get the financial life in better order, something we should be doing anyway, but humans tend to need good motivation. so we are not as ready to move on it now, as i wish we were.
The point of all this -- .... how do you choose which "adoption path" to follow?
We know we will not pursue an domestic infant adoption
at this time, we have also crossed off the foster to adopt system. THAT might become an option for us when the boys are older. But not now while they are so young and innocent. I was a foster mom for years, and worked in the system years more -- i know the dedication of being a foster family and the reality of a foster to adopt adoption -- and THAT is not something we are in a place for right now, for a lot of reasons.
DH has specifically stated he would rather not seek a new born.
so we are thinking about and pray about
1. in 2 or 3 years doing a toddler or preschooler adoption -- as i have said before a special need, most likely one hearing related.
2. when the boys are 8 and 10 or so .. doing an older child adoption -- India or some place, looking for a child about 6 or 8 so they are still younger, but close to the age of the boys. (that would be i like 7 years)
3. in 5 to 8 years pursuing a sibling adoption of 2 or even 3 kids ... if Charles is 9 we might get a match were all the kids are younger than him (personally if we disrupt birth order or artificial twin, i would be more at ease doing it NOW or in 2 or 3 years than in 5+ years, i do not want to unseat Theo as oldest, but to insert a child between them i would be OK with).
it is so hard to "choose".
I really feel that being able to "do" a older child adoption or a sib set adoption is of value as those are less frequently perused adoptions paths.
but I will admit --
-- i find it hard to think about waiting for 5 to 8 years to grow my family more.
Guess I am just thinking out loud, any wise thoughts to share with me?
Aimee
Scott adn I long term family plan has alway been to adopt. We did choose to have our biological children first, due to age considerations. However we have been reading about, talking about, praying abut and planning on adotion since before we were married.
Well Chalres is one now, and so we are serious into thinking about where to go next.
So we have to get the financial life in better order, something we should be doing anyway, but humans tend to need good motivation. so we are not as ready to move on it now, as i wish we were.
The point of all this -- .... how do you choose which "adoption path" to follow?
We know we will not pursue an domestic infant adoption
at this time, we have also crossed off the foster to adopt system. THAT might become an option for us when the boys are older. But not now while they are so young and innocent. I was a foster mom for years, and worked in the system years more -- i know the dedication of being a foster family and the reality of a foster to adopt adoption -- and THAT is not something we are in a place for right now, for a lot of reasons.
DH has specifically stated he would rather not seek a new born.
so we are thinking about and pray about
1. in 2 or 3 years doing a toddler or preschooler adoption -- as i have said before a special need, most likely one hearing related.
2. when the boys are 8 and 10 or so .. doing an older child adoption -- India or some place, looking for a child about 6 or 8 so they are still younger, but close to the age of the boys. (that would be i like 7 years)
3. in 5 to 8 years pursuing a sibling adoption of 2 or even 3 kids ... if Charles is 9 we might get a match were all the kids are younger than him (personally if we disrupt birth order or artificial twin, i would be more at ease doing it NOW or in 2 or 3 years than in 5+ years, i do not want to unseat Theo as oldest, but to insert a child between them i would be OK with).
it is so hard to "choose".
I really feel that being able to "do" a older child adoption or a sib set adoption is of value as those are less frequently perused adoptions paths.
but I will admit --
-- i find it hard to think about waiting for 5 to 8 years to grow my family more.Guess I am just thinking out loud, any wise thoughts to share with me?
Aimee
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