Wife Swap?

[mommy68]

Is there a thread going for this show already? I couldn't find it.

Last night's show on VHI was really disturbing. It was likely a repeat but it was the one with the mom from Buffalo, NY that switches with the mom from Miami, FL that has a husband who is a model? I could NOT believe what the Miami mom told the other mom to spend her money on. She told her to fix up areas of her house and didn't give any money to any of them to personally use for themselves, except for their 19 y o daughter. The mother got pissed and so did I. The Buffalo mom gave them a trip to Disney and money for the dad to go to culinary school. The Miami mom should have given her the same type of gifts in return.

I laughed so hard when Miami mom told her they needed to use several thousand dollars for a trip, preferably to Rome?? Who the heck just says I want to go to Rome, especially when they aren't rich or have relatives from there? ugh. Terrible show. She could have told them to just use it for a trip of their choice which I'm sure they did and she could have given them more
$$ for the trip.

I kept hoping they would have a clip at the end showing where they made the other mom change it. Hopefully the show let them spend the money the way they wanted in the end.

[Elecampane]

I think the show you are talking about may have been Trading Spouses, not Wife Swap. TS is the one where the traded spouses get to specify where the money goes. I think on Wife Swap they just get money no strings attached.

Yes, I am sickly fascinated by both shows and do watch whenever I get a chance. I definitely prefer Trading Spouses. I don't know if they are really bound by the person's directions for spending the money or not, I've often wondered about that.

[FondestBianca]

I sort of get some sick pleasure from the train wrecks on these swapping shows. I find it funny how almost every time the families act as if they didn't know what they were getting into when they signed up for the show. Like they didn't assume they were going to be paired with a family who has opposite values and living conditions.

I do however get pretty annoyed when the dads down right refuse to do ANYTHING the new mommy outlines when it's her turn to make the rules. Sometimes the new mommies go a little far and insult the way the other family lives but for the most part there is something to be learned from their new rules in both opposing families.

Oh and I boil at the bratty teens that cuss out the new mom and pit their dads against them. Finally near the end of the switch the dads grow some (insert slang term for male anatomy here) and tell their nasty kids to show some respect and grow up.

I find that in most episodes there is something each family can draw from the other that makes a positive improvement in their lives. Even if it's learning to appreciate their own spouse because the new one is so horrid.

[mommy68]

Originally Posted by Elecampane

I think the show you are talking about may have been Trading Spouses, not Wife Swap. TS is the one where the traded spouses get to specify where the money goes. I think on Wife Swap they just get money no strings attached.

Yes, I am sickly fascinated by both shows and do watch whenever I get a chance. I definitely prefer Trading Spouses. I don't know if they are really bound by the person's directions for spending the money or not, I've often wondered about that.

Okay, maybe it was Trading Spouses. It was on VH1.

[kay4]

I love wife swap and trading spouses!!!

[MadameXCupcake]

Originally Posted by kay4

I love wife swap and trading spouses!!!

Me too!
My husband hates it though.

[mandib50]

i watched wife swap last night and was shocked when the one family sat down with their little kids (probably around 8 and 6) and made up cards explaining to their kids what they gave up in their lives to have them: sports car, friends, sex and time with each other then then the parents said something along the lines of that's okay, we love you anyway.

way to make your kids feel good about themselves

[angelpie545]

Originally Posted by mandib50

i watched wife swap last night and was shocked when the one family sat down with their little kids (probably around 8 and 6) and made up cards explaining to their kids what they gave up in their lives to have them: sports car, friends, sex and time with each other then then the parents said something along the lines of that's okay, we love you anyway.

way to make your kids feel good about themselves

Ick. That's just horrible.

[Elecampane]

Originally Posted by mandib50

i watched wife swap last night and was shocked when the one family sat down with their little kids (probably around 8 and 6) and made up cards explaining to their kids what they gave up in their lives to have them: sports car, friends, sex and time with each other then then the parents said something along the lines of that's okay, we love you anyway.

way to make your kids feel good about themselves

I was horrified at this too! DH thinks that the comment about not having sex as often (as before kids) was edited in after the fact, and that they didn't really say that to the kids, but still, if those kids watch the show they will hear it anyway.

[FondestBianca]

Originally Posted by mandib50

i watched wife swap last night and was shocked when the one family sat down with their little kids (probably around 8 and 6) and made up cards explaining to their kids what they gave up in their lives to have them: sports car, friends, sex and time with each other then then the parents said something along the lines of that's okay, we love you anyway.

way to make your kids feel good about themselves

I was left stunned by that one. I mean, I understand explaining to children who might seem self entitled that parents work very hard to enable them to have the lives and care they have but, telling them all the things they lost out on by becoming parents??? no way! When they brought up things like, "we can't have a sports car because we have you" and the dad saying, "we had to give up being able to have friends because of you guys." wow, just wow. now the next time they do something that causes their parents to be upset with them they will be thinking to themselves, "when mom and dad get mad at us it's because they wish they never had us and could have sports cars, friends, and sex instead". Poor kids. And for the record I didn't think those kids seemed to entitled anyway. Aside from the destruction for the car seats (which I would have throw down some serious punishment for) they didn't seem bratty or have the attitudes of spoiled children at all.

At the beginning of the show I was pretty impressed with the maturity of little boy when he said, "my mom treats me like I'm better than the other kids my age. I don't want to be treated that way. I just want to be a kid." They must be doing something right for him to understand such a grown up concept.

[umsami]

Originally Posted by mandib50

i watched wife swap last night and was shocked when the one family sat down with their little kids (probably around 8 and 6) and made up cards explaining to their kids what they gave up in their lives to have them: sports car, friends, sex and time with each other then then the parents said something along the lines of that's okay, we love you anyway.

way to make your kids feel good about themselves

OMG, I saw that too. I was in-shock. I really felt for those two kids. Perhaps the other family was a little more lax regarding the eldest's schoolwork, but I think their kids will grow up a lot happier.

I felt bad for the teachers. Parents who meet with them twice per week regarding their kids? Much easier to give the kids As than deal with the parents.

I could not believe it when the Dad told Wife-Swap Mom to re-do the hair because the comb marks were not perfectly straight.

And here's a star for all of you for reading this thread. You may participate in family movie night this week. :P

[newmommy27]

Can we have popcorn at the movie night as well...I promise to work extra hard at gymnastics this week

QUOTE=umsami;12568896]OMG, I saw that too. I was in-shock. I really felt for those two kids. Perhaps the other family was a little more lax regarding the eldest's schoolwork, but I think their kids will grow up a lot happier.

I felt bad for the teachers. Parents who meet with them twice per week regarding their kids? Much easier to give the kids As than deal with the parents.

I could not believe it when the Dad told Wife-Swap Mom to re-do the hair because the comb marks were not perfectly straight.

And here's a star for all of you for reading this thread. You may participate in family movie night this week. :P[/QUOTE]

[mandib50]

Originally Posted by Elecampane

I was horrified at this too! DH thinks that the comment about not having sex as often (as before kids) was edited in after the fact, and that they didn't really say that to the kids, but still, if those kids watch the show they will hear it anyway.

hmmm ... i actually saw that part twice and the first time i thought they edited it in but when i watched the second time he actually said it to the kids! at least, that's what it looked like the second time around.

[tapmilkmom]

I love both of these shows! They are like a train wreck I can't help but watch..... a loose tooth I can't help but touch......


The one with the social worker mom. Yeah, wow. "They need to know that appearance is very important. They need to leave the house looking like someone cared enough about them to worry about their appearance. These are all the things we give up for you (friends, sports car, sex, etc.)"


I was APPALLED and wondered if her state licensing board could possibly hear about this and say something. It is horrifying to think that a licensed clinical social worker could not only harbor these attitudes, but act them out in ther very own family to their obvious detriment!

[mommy68]

Originally Posted by Elecampane

I was horrified at this too! DH thinks that the comment about not having sex as often (as before kids) was edited in after the fact, and that they didn't really say that to the kids, but still, if those kids watch the show they will hear it anyway.

Yeah, I see comments made like this on a lot of these "family" reality shows. I wonder if these people realize that their children will grow up and watch the shows one day.

[LavenderMae]

Originally Posted by mandib50

i watched wife swap last night and was shocked when the one family sat down with their little kids (probably around 8 and 6) and made up cards explaining to their kids what they gave up in their lives to have them: sports car, friends, sex and time with each other then then the parents said something along the lines of that's okay, we love you anyway.

way to make your kids feel good about themselves

I watched that one too. I can not believe they thought that was at all okay. They CHOSE to have children and to place the burden of all that onto children you chose to bring into the world is just disgusting.

I thought the other mama could be a member here though and even her kids' names seemed familiar.

I do like both shows for their entertainment value, train wreck about sums it up.

[Elecampane]

If you have some time to waste, I recommend checking out the wives' Household Manuals online, here.

Fascinating stuff. I never would have guessed that the YoYoMom had a six month old too! I wonder why they cut that out? And I don't mean to be judgmental but can you imagine leaving your six month old for two whole weeks? I don't think I could do it...

[Cherie2]

Originally Posted by Elecampane

I think on Wife Swap they just get money no strings attached.

Do they even get any money on Wife Swap?

[choli]

Originally Posted by mommy68

Is there a thread going for this show already? I couldn't find it.

Last night's show on VHI was really disturbing. It was likely a repeat but it was the one with the mom from Buffalo, NY that switches with the mom from Miami, FL that has a husband who is a model? I could NOT believe what the Miami mom told the other mom to spend her money on. She told her to fix up areas of her house and didn't give any money to any of them to personally use for themselves, except for their 19 y o daughter. The mother got pissed and so did I. The Buffalo mom gave them a trip to Disney and money for the dad to go to culinary school. The Miami mom should have given her the same type of gifts in return.

I laughed so hard when Miami mom told her they needed to use several thousand dollars for a trip, preferably to Rome?? Who the heck just says I want to go to Rome, especially when they aren't rich or have relatives from there? ugh. Terrible show. She could have told them to just use it for a trip of their choice which I'm sure they did and she could have given them more
$$ for the trip.

I kept hoping they would have a clip at the end showing where they made the other mom change it. Hopefully the show let them spend the money the way they wanted in the end.

Hmm. I guess it takes all sorts. I'd be majorly ticked to be told to spend money on a trip to Disney, whereas I'd be thrilled with the opportunity to expose my kids to another country and culture.

[CheapPearls]

I like watching the shows and yelling at the tv. DH hates it so I don't watch it very often. I did catch last week's though.

Whoa, I didn't know they had a 6 month old! : Where was the baby the entire time? Maybe they sent the baby to be with extended family? And nope, I wouldn't be able to leave my 6 month old, breastfeeding or not, for 2 weeks. How heartbreaking. (I'll have to read the entire manuals for last week's family later when I have time...)

The therapist (was she a social worker or just a therapist?) mom was scary. She looked frantic all the time like the entire world would collapse on her if something wasn't perfect. And I wonder why they didn't just homeschool their kids since they seemed to spend a whole lot of time at the school.