Imagine a line. If you are white woman, you are at the front of the line looking forward. The women of color are in the back of the line. If you are a queer woman of color you are at the very back.
Now imagine how it feels to have a person in the front of the line say, "I am raising my child color blind."
Those people in the front of the line don't have to look back an see color. They can OPT not to.
The women who are standing in the back of that line see what is in front of them. They have to answer the questions their children ask about why they always have to be at the back of the line. They see people who have always been in front of them, historically. Their children are born and see that the white people are always in front of them.
I think we all as white women raising bi racial children, as I am, or raising white children, owe it to the people behind us in line, who have been there for SO long...and treated SO poorly...to teach our children and our selves to turn around in that line and see people. And then we owe to to the people behind us to make some room at the front of the line, to move back a little ourselves and give room to people who have been marginalized for too long...
Lets not let the convenience of the "front of the line" let us hurt the people behind us ANY MORE.
yes, it can hurt to turn your innocent child's face around and let them see what the world really looks like. But if you raise them to always see that, then it will be a fact to them, the way it HAS to be a fact to those little kids in the back.
And yes, I can't opt out of "turning my kids around" because they are not white. and whether or not people perceive them as white or brown, they know that they are not just white. that they have a father they love as well as an entire extended family that is not white.
but I think in the long run, hiding the fact that so many are stuck in line behind the white kids in the front does no one any service.
Holy History, Obama made it to be PRESIDENT! This is a HUGE deal.
My kids and I will revel in our HAPPINESS and HOPE and HISTORY together.