What type of residency are you doing? I think you said Surgery? I'm Internal Medicine. Intern year is just plain awful, it was the worst year of my life. I felt like my life was falling apart, and wanted to quit so many times. I had a major breakdown in the middle of the year. You are not alone.
Here's what worked for me:
-Lower your expectations. Like way lower. My mantra for intern year became:survival and just getting by. I took good care of my patients when I was at work and when not at work I spent time with my daughter or slept. I literally did not do anything else. I did not read or study, I did not clean my house, I did not send birthday cards to my nieces and nephews
-Keep them (the patients) alive till morning
-what really helped me was to try to focus on the good things I had. That my daughter was lucky to have such a strong role model, that I was lucky to have both a rewarding career and a family.
-Talk to your co-interns about how miserable you are. I finally did and so many positive things came out of it. I think the worst part of intern year is feeling so alone so if you can find some support and reach out to others that may help.
Feel free to PM me! It is so tough!