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post #41 of 58
Hi-

I'm almost done interviewing now. I am so nervous! I feel like all the time off has left me forgetting the most basic of things. Mommy brain has not been easy, and it feels like it's not getting any better. I'm doing an SICU away right now, and while I've done more of this stuff than any of the other students, I'm having trouble even with progress notes. Yikes! I've got to do some major self-analysis to get all my ducks in a row for residency.

Anyone else working on their rank order list? Fun fun.
post #42 of 58
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Hi everyone I'm not a physician, I'm a dentist and a 2nd year periodontics resident. I have a 16m/o who was born 1 month into my first year of residency. I'm acutally not totally happy with my choice to do a residency with a baby. I wish I would have taken time off and/or not done the residency at all (not required for dentistry). Everyone kind of suggested some time off (ie not starting residency), but I didn't really listen, and now I wish I would have. I've still got 2 more years, plus a 1 year full time teaching committment to pay back a scholarship, so I feel like I will never get to be home I'm definitely taking off a year after all of my time is paid back and then I'm going back very part time (like 2 days/wk). I'm in a group of all single male residents and all male attendings, so that doesn't help much...
Hi there! I'm in general practice and work 2 days a week. It is fantastic! My DH is a periodontist and owns his own practice. We both feel that one small business owner in the family is enough - and there is plenty that I do to help out with his practice as well as taking care of the LO's so the two days is just right!

I had my DD in my second year of my GPR. Luckily we only had in house call the first year! And the director of the residency was nice enough that they let me take 8 weeks leave and not make any time up when I was done!

Would love to know where you got your doctorate and where you are a resident. The perio world is so small I am sure we must know some of the same people! If you ever want to chat - PM me.
post #43 of 58
Hello! I'm surprised to see this thread on here, but hoping to "meet" a few more mamas in a similar situation. I'm an MD, have been in practice for almost 3 years after a 4 yr residency and 1 yr fellowship (pathology/cytopathology). Thanks to my chosen career field, my schedule is really good -- I work 4 days a week, about 5 hrs each day. I still miss my LO when we're not together, though. It's been tough at times feeling like I'm not the best mom or the best pathologist, but I'm doing the best I can do. DS is still BF -- I pump 2 times a day when I'm not with him and he takes bottles then. We have a nanny, so she works with my flexible schedule and I don't have to deal with wasted time getting him to/from daycare, etc, so it is definitely a luxury that has been worth it for us.
post #44 of 58
3rd year resident in psychiatry here. Hi everyone!
post #45 of 58
Starting surgery internship next week. Fingers crossed that I chose the right program!
post #46 of 58
I'm a practicing neonatologist (MD, IBLCE) and I was excited to find this thread. Interesting how many students/residents have posted and how few attending physicians. I wonder if it is a function of age or a sadder reflection of how medical training changes us.

I found my balance by working a part-time position and learning to be unapologetic about my lack of ambition. I love what I do and don't need to add research, presentation, nothing. Just want to work, keep up with my field, and be with my family as much as possible.
post #47 of 58
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Originally Posted by RaeEllen View Post
I'm a practicing neonatologist (MD, IBLCE) and I was excited to find this thread. Interesting how many students/residents have posted and how few attending physicians. I wonder if it is a function of age or a sadder reflection of how medical training changes us.

I found my balance by working a part-time position and learning to be unapologetic about my lack of ambition. I love what I do and don't need to add research, presentation, nothing. Just want to work, keep up with my field, and be with my family as much as possible.
I love this -- learning to be unapologetic about lack of ambition. I'm the same way. I'm very happy just doing my work, and I enjoy it and keep up, but am out of there as soon as I'm done!
post #48 of 58
Thread Starter 

Survived intern year!

Hi all, logging on this evening for first time in over 1 year, I think that pretty much describes my intern year. But I survived!
post #49 of 58
How did you do it?? I'm in my fourth month of internship and am absolutely hating it. My first month was ok, but it's been downhill ever since. My program is toxic. I'm seriously considering quitting to be a SAHM- if it weren't for my loans I already would have. I'm feeling so bad about medicine right now that I can't remember why I wanted to do it in the first place. I'm starting to look for PGY2 spots at less toxic environments than I'm in now. But at this point, I don't know if I'll make it that long. I REALLY want to spend more time with my family, and REALLY would like to have another kid, and my career path really won't allow for either. Maybe I should just spend the rest of my life becoming my femivore ideal...
post #50 of 58
KTinNYC, any interest in becoming a shrink? I highly recommend psychiatry for family-friendliness. Psych is an easy match and takes a lot of transfers from other specialties. We had someone come into our PGY-2 class from a surgery internship last year.
post #51 of 58
Thread Starter 
Hi KTinNYC,
What type of residency are you doing? I think you said Surgery? I'm Internal Medicine. Intern year is just plain awful, it was the worst year of my life. I felt like my life was falling apart, and wanted to quit so many times. I had a major breakdown in the middle of the year. You are not alone.
Here's what worked for me:
-Lower your expectations. Like way lower. My mantra for intern year became:survival and just getting by. I took good care of my patients when I was at work and when not at work I spent time with my daughter or slept. I literally did not do anything else. I did not read or study, I did not clean my house, I did not send birthday cards to my nieces and nephews .
-Keep them (the patients) alive till morning
-what really helped me was to try to focus on the good things I had. That my daughter was lucky to have such a strong role model, that I was lucky to have both a rewarding career and a family.
-Talk to your co-interns about how miserable you are. I finally did and so many positive things came out of it. I think the worst part of intern year is feeling so alone so if you can find some support and reach out to others that may help.
Feel free to PM me! It is so tough!
post #52 of 58
Thread Starter 

Just had a feeling...so tested this morning and found out I AM PREGNANT! Hurray! In other news, I start a month of q3 call in the ICU on Monday. This should be very interesting....

post #53 of 58

Congrats medmom7! 

post #54 of 58

bumping for Triinity

post #55 of 58

Thanks for bumping joy.gif

 

I´ll come back later!

(Does anyone know of cool blog from mothers in medicine?)

post #56 of 58

So delighted to find this thread! I've been mostly lurking here at MDC and never came across any other mom-MDs.

 

Triniity, I highly recommend the group blog Mothers in Medicine.

post #57 of 58
Thread Starter 

Finding strength?

Currently 34 weeks along and on an extremely busy and challenging inpatient service. Am not getting a day off this week. Feels like every muscle in my body is aching, terrible heartburn, very tired, and also having difficulty controlling anxiety. Spending any free time I have at home with my daughter. Husband doing best he can but it is hard on him too to have to manage the house on his own while I am gone so he doesn't have a whole lot of support left in him by the time I get home. Not sure how I am going to make it through the next 4 weeks on this service. Looking around and inside for source of strength and not finding much :(

post #58 of 58

hang in there medmom! i just had my second kiddo 6 weeks ago and work full time as an ob/gyn (luckily am able to take a proper 12 week maternity leave this time around). we do physically and emotionally demanding work so it's important to take care of yourself!  what i tell our residents when they ask for advice is to put themselves first whenever possible - most things are not a true emergency and can wait 5 minutes while you eat, pee, or make that phone call home to say goodnight to your kid - but if you don't just do it yourself, no one is going to tell you to.

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