Anyone hoping for twins? - Page 2

[calmom]

i used to want twins when i wsa younger. one of my good friends had twins (which gave her six kids!) and watching her with them was such a reality check for me. i mean, she's very blessed and they're beautiful and ocnnected in this amazing way but it was SO MUCH WORK!

[AnnR33]

NO!!!!!

God help me, the idea scares the crap out of me!

[Vortexing]

I'm definitely in the 'no' category. They run in my family, but there aren't a lot of women in my fam to judge by, so I'm not sure how high my risk really is. The last time I was open to the idea if it happened to me, but this time, it's a definite no - I do not want 3 kids. I'd have to quit my job and career and that would not be good for the family as a whole (since long term I'll be the main provider).

I think the idea of twins is very widely appealing, but I don't think the reality of twins is, particularly if you're the type to post on this board... I don't mean this in any derogatory way, one way or the other, but what I mean is that *for me* if I intended to schedule a c/s and formula feed for a singleton, perhaps it might be a little easier to handle mentally since I wouldn't be losing my chances to have a homebirth, have a hard time bf'ing two simultaneously, and go crazy trying to do lots of AP stuff for two newborns. I'd be very disappointed in myself, even though it's just really freaking hard to treat twins like I treated my DD. That darn mama guilt.

[chrissy]

I can't help it- I kind of hope for twins. I don't know why, except that it's double the lovey, sweet, brand new babe. I know in my brain that it would be exceptionally hard, but somehow my heart still thinks it would be so wonderful.

That said, I'm sure I'm not having twins. None run in my family, I'm only 34, and we didn't use any fertility drugs, oh, and no twin feelings.

[ArtsyHeartsy]

Originally Posted by Vortexing

I think the idea of twins is very widely appealing, but I don't think the reality of twins is, particularly if you're the type to post on this board... I don't mean this in any derogatory way, one way or the other, but what I mean is that *for me* if I intended to schedule a c/s and formula feed for a singleton, perhaps it might be a little easier to handle mentally since I wouldn't be losing my chances to have a homebirth, have a hard time bf'ing two simultaneously, and go crazy trying to do lots of AP stuff for two newborns. I'd be very disappointed in myself, even though it's just really freaking hard to treat twins like I treated my DD. That darn mama guilt.

I completely agree. I don't think that having twins is super hard. The sleep part and giving them equal attention (which is what I have a hard time with) but for an ap type mom it might be a lot harder. My sis n law has lots of people who can care for them because they are formula fed, she didn't even think about breast-feeding because she had a reduction (though she produced milk anyway) and no qualms about scheduling a c/s. I would really want to try vaginally and that is kind of scary and not really encouraged, at least around here it seems.

My Grandma didn't even know she was having twins until she pushed my aunt...or was it my mom...out! lol! Can you imagine?

[lindsayjean]

They definitely run in my family (I'm a twin! And I have oh... I don't know... 3 sets of twin cousins? My twin just married a twin even!). And my twin sister and her hubby definitely want twins someday. And I *would* be excited, and I know I'd love it after the first 2ish years, but the first couple years would be HARD. Especially with the mommy guilty, like someone mentioned. I am pretty stinking ap with my daughter, I think it would be pretty stressful to give attention to 2 newborns and a 2.5 yr old they way I'd like to. And I don't know what I'd do because my DD lived in her sling for the first like 6 months of her life... I guess I'd just have to not go anywhere for a while?

Obviously AP mamas do it... but I do think it'd be easier to have twins and not be AP (NOT better by ANY MEANS). I mean, rocking/nursing TWO to sleep? Babywearing and cloth diapering two? Co-sleeping with 3 (including my DD).
Wow. That'd be HARD.