Neighbor girl takes DD's toys - no big deal, but object on principle? - Page 2

[Nautical]

Originally Posted by SparklingGemini

It seems to me that allowing a child to take something that isn't theirs, whether you care about it or not, without permission, is perpetuating the idea that stealing is OK.

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[littlemizflava]

i would step in if my dd was giving way a toy i didnt want her to. i wouldnt step in if your dd gave it to her and you didnt mind but to come over and take whatever you wanted is not acceptable in this house. you cant walk in a store and take what you wanted thats steeling. same at my house you cant take something just because you like or want it.

[bscal]

I agree that if you let her continue to do this then you're telling both this other child AND your DD that it's okay to take things that don't belong to you. It would be best to (very gently of course) tell this child as they are leaving "Uh-oh sweetie that doll belongs to DD, could you please put it back in the playgroom. Thank you." If that doesn't work I'd assume her mother would step in here... if not you might have to gently take it from her.

While I do understand wanting to declutter your house, it might be better for everyone involved if you box up all the junk, let the friend look through the box and pick 2 things that she loves and donate the rest to charity. There are many worthy causes out there.

GL,
Beth

[salmontree]

I agree with previous posters...
If I was happy to see the toys gone I would at least make a point of asking DD if it was okay for her friend to have the toy and make a point of telling her friend that it was okay for her to have it. I think it's important to set a good example for both kids.

[ErinBird]

I generally request that acquaintances leave our toys here (and that my DD leaves our friends toys at their house). I can't keep track of who owns what after a while and there are some toys that I don't want to be missing from our stuff.