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[alicewyf]

My husband's granny just died this morning. I'm so freaking emotional over this, and I don't know why. I never even met her, as she lives in Ohio and we live in Texas (she was too sickly to come to our wedding in June).

I just keep thinking about how I have her genes inside me right now. Gosh. :

[pinksprklybarefoot]

Originally Posted by alicewyf

My husband's granny just died this morning. I'm so freaking emotional over this, and I don't know why. I never even met her, as she lives in Ohio and we live in Texas (she was too sickly to come to our wedding in June).

I just keep thinking about how I have her genes inside me right now. Gosh. :

I'm sorry for your loss. It is understandable to be emotional about it. I know that once I had a child, I had a different kind of respect for those who had children before me. It also gave me a new understanding of the importance of family.

[Reha]

Originally Posted by calmom

reha, you are a midwife? that must be amazing! i LOVE every midwife i have ever met. after my 3 homebirths i thought it was maybe my calling but i just don't think i'm cut out for thinking on my feet and being responsible for so much! what a blessing for you!

Yes, I'm a midwife. I officially started my own practice a few months ago, and have my state license now. It is very exciting, and I am so happy to have an interview set up for a mom due in April, so well before my own baby will be arriving!

I'll probably take 4-5 months off from births after this baby is born, and then will just take on one client a month until this baby is closer to 2 years old, or so.

[Reha]

Originally Posted by blissful_maia

Wow! I wish. I still have 2 primaries left in November, then off for December, and then I have 18 PRIMARIES from January to the end of March. It's because this is my final clinical practicum and then I'm a REAL MIDWIFE! :

Exciting! Exciting!! :

[calmom]

alicewyf, i'm sorry for your family's loss. dealing with death when pregnant is very hard, so emotional.

i stayed up until 2am this morning creating 2 large collages for my aunt's funeral. oh man, finding the right quotes for her was SO hard and i was crying all night. one of the ones i used was 'don't cry because it's over. smile because it happened -dr. seuss' i'll be glad to finally have the funeral friday. i know the sadness won't end but i'm looking forward to a 'closure' of some sorts.

reha, my old midwife took her new baby with her to births. i saw pictures of her tiny baby sleeping on the same bed that the mother was laboring on. that would be intense!

i let the house go past couple days and i'm getting things back in order today. we have a fire going in the woodstove and i've started vegan sloppy joes for dinner and i need to get up now and start working on the molasses cookies. i'm trying to cheer our house up a little!

[Ianthe]

I'm really crampy and I am getting a little paranoid. Maybe it is dehydration or lack of nutrients because I'm not eating well.. maybe it's all in my head, or maybe it's something to be concerned about... :

[Angelorum]

hugs lizzyq. Go feed yourself something yummy and nourishing and think happy thoughts. I woke up this morning because of painful cramping, but I realized soon afterward that it was just gas .

Anyone else not feeling like telling anybody? I thought I would be bursting at the seams trying not to tell, but now that it's real I like having a little secret. We're seeing Dh's family for thanksgiving and the news will come out then. I've been told impressive stories about MIL's sense for pregnant women and I'm curious to see if she will know when she sees me. If not we'll just announce. And we'll probably call my family with the news soon after. I kinda wish Thanksgiving was a little farther away, but I'm not too worried about it.

People at school and work I feel differently about. I just don't want a bunch of attention and nonsense over if I should really be pushing that piano around, dancing, lifting my arms above my head etc. I'm also not looking forward to having to debate my choices regarding birth. Plus, I'm not even 5 weeks yet, it's very possible that the pregnancy won't stick and I'm sure that news will be even less fun to tell. At this point, I'd rather just tell a few friends and let everyone else notice as my belly grows.

Dh was really surprised to hear how I felt about it. He never considered that people may treat me differently or how I'd feel if we miscarried and had to tell everyone. As far as arguing birth choices he's never been shy about his opinions and thinks it's silly of me to be. I'm not afraid anyone's going to change my mind but I don't want to listen to everyone else's fears and horror stories. He wants to tell his one sister that won't be at Thanksgiving the news in a couple of days. I wish he wouldn't, but I don't really feel like I have full veto power. It's his news too, and she can keep her mouth shut until we see the rest of the family.

So, when are you telling? How do you feel about it?

[AnnR33]

Ug! I can't believe my mom! I've said for the last 2 yrs that we were done having kids and kept trying to get my DH to get "snipped." Not surprisingly, he has been putting it off but finally agreed to do it this winter.
And of course.....I get pregnant. Never fails.
I jokingly say it's his fault but of course, we're happy.

Anyway, my mom says tonight "well, it's you're own fault you know."
I said "how's that?"
She responds: "Well, I was talking to my friends and they all said that the women should get her tubes tied if she's serious-she can't rely on the husband. So I guess it was your own fault" GRRRRR :

I responded that it was most definitely NOT my responsibility-a husband and wife should share responsibility and since I gave birth 3x it's the least he could do. She just snorted and said "well, see how that turned out for ya" :

OK, so yes, I realize that there's always a chance of pregnancy if you're not abstaining (which we weren't!) but it just bugs me that her and her friends assume it's the woman's job to take care of this!

[Ianthe]

Ann- I'm totally on your side! My DH is getting the V since i carried and birthed our children.. it's only fair! An added bonus- its safer and more reversible

[calmom]

lizzyq try to relax. i think we're all a little gassy, probably that's all it is. i get cramps off on and, with and without backaches and then i get really nervous but it always passes. i was just reading today how so many pg women get scared when crampy but that it's so normal.

angelorum, i haven't told anyone yet! i'm going to try to wait until after both holidays. i really don't enjoy hearing things like, 'don't you know what causes that?' or 'another one? wow!' i have a hard time laughing things off like that.

[ATruck]

So what is new, ladies? Our chat thread seems to have died down. EDIT_ oops, it had continued, I was just reading the wrong page. Duh.

Not too much to report here. Craving carbs and not interested in vegetables. Starving every 2 hours. Still in my same jeans (but I am not quite 8 weeks). Nursing is going okay. I am not as tired as I expected to be- maybe I am just used to being exhausted.

I am close to choosing a midwife. She has not been a mw for very long, but I really connect with her. I keep telling my myself that I need to interview more (many options in my town), but I am not feeling it. I made a poor choice last time, so I want to be sure.....

[ATruck]

Originally Posted by Angelorum

hugs lizzyq. Go feed yourself something yummy and nourishing and think happy thoughts. I woke up this morning because of painful cramping, but I realized soon afterward that it was just gas .

Anyone else not feeling like telling anybody? I thought I would be bursting at the seams trying not to tell, but now that it's real I like having a little secret. We're seeing Dh's family for thanksgiving and the news will come out then. I've been told impressive stories about MIL's sense for pregnant women and I'm curious to see if she will know when she sees me. If not we'll just announce. And we'll probably call my family with the news soon after. I kinda wish Thanksgiving was a little farther away, but I'm not too worried about it.

People at school and work I feel differently about. I just don't want a bunch of attention and nonsense over if I should really be pushing that piano around, dancing, lifting my arms above my head etc. I'm also not looking forward to having to debate my choices regarding birth. Plus, I'm not even 5 weeks yet, it's very possible that the pregnancy won't stick and I'm sure that news will be even less fun to tell. At this point, I'd rather just tell a few friends and let everyone else notice as my belly grows.

Dh was really surprised to hear how I felt about it. He never considered that people may treat me differently or how I'd feel if we miscarried and had to tell everyone. As far as arguing birth choices he's never been shy about his opinions and thinks it's silly of me to be. I'm not afraid anyone's going to change my mind but I don't want to listen to everyone else's fears and horror stories. He wants to tell his one sister that won't be at Thanksgiving the news in a couple of days. I wish he wouldn't, but I don't really feel like I have full veto power. It's his news too, and she can keep her mouth shut until we see the rest of the family.

So, when are you telling? How do you feel about it?

We have told 3 friends (2 are also ttc and the other is an expert charter, so all 3 were involved in our ttc process). I'm not sure when we will tell others. I might tell my family at Thanksgiving, but I'm not sure. It is mostly about having to "un-tell" people if the bean doesn't stick.

[Ianthe]

Originally Posted by calmom

lizzyq try to relax. i think we're all a little gassy, probably that's all it is. i get cramps off on and, with and without backaches and then i get really nervous but it always passes. i was just reading today how so many pg women get scared when crampy but that it's so normal.

Thanks,,, i am feeling much better today

Originally Posted by Angelorum

So, when are you telling? How do you feel about it?

I've told several friends, and some co-workers. I work at WIC, and it's the same office that we get WIC from, so I happened to find out a couple days before our appointment, and told them to get the extra food.

Originally Posted by ATruck

So what is new, ladies?

I am close to choosing a midwife. She has not been a mw for very long, but I really connect with her. I keep telling my myself that I need to interview more (many options in my town), but I am not feeling it. I made a poor choice last time, so I want to be sure.....

Good luck, I hope you make the best decision!

[calmom]

amy, i was just wishing that there was more going on in this thread too. i admit to not posting as much as i'd like here because i feel unnoticed. gee, i wonder if this hsa anything to do with these pg hormones! lol i imagine the chatter will pick up in the next month when everyone feels comfortable with their pregnancies. don't you?

we just got home from my aunt's funeral. i was so not wanting to go but all the crying has numbed me and i actually feel cried out and much less emotional.

i have been feeling so emotional about my marriage too. i am married to a (mostly) great guy but i'm feeling so worried lately that he doesn't love me, that he's going to think i look ugly and fat soon. sheesh, i need to go take a hot bath and relax.

anyone have any fun plans for the weekend?

[Ianthe]

Originally Posted by calmom

amy, i was just wishing that there was more going on in this thread too. i admit to not posting as much as i'd like here because i feel unnoticed. gee, i wonder if this hsa anything to do with these pg hormones! lol i imagine the chatter will pick up in the next month when everyone feels comfortable with their pregnancies. don't you?

we just got home from my aunt's funeral. i was so not wanting to go but all the crying has numbed me and i actually feel cried out and much less emotional.

i have been feeling so emotional about my marriage too. i am married to a (mostly) great guy but i'm feeling so worried lately that he doesn't love me, that he's going to think i look ugly and fat soon. sheesh, i need to go take a hot bath and relax.

anyone have any fun plans for the weekend?

I notice you! I read your blog several days ago, and I was talking about your poor chickens to a friend of mine when we were discussing her thanksgiving turkey.

I'm sorry your feeling crumby about yourself.. but obviously your DH thinks you are beautiful, otherwise you wouldn't be here!

[Reha]

I'm not posting much, since I'm spending most of my time resting in bed, since when I'm up too much, it makes me feel sick.
But, I haven't thrown up any meals all week! Woohoo! (I just have my daily upon waking vomiting on an empty stomach that nothing seems to help....but I can totally live with that!)

[calmom]

oh LizzyQ, I was just being a big baby but thank you! My hormonal wackiness was confirmed this evening when we were putting everyone to bed and dh turned *away* from me instead of *toward* me to sleep and I had to just bite the insides of my mouth to keep from bursting into tears. good lord, how did i FORGET the insane emotions and hormones that come with pg??? :

reha, sorry to hear about all the m/s. ugh, dry heaving in the morning is no fun! good for you for taking it easy and resting in bed.

[shantiani]

Calmom, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling the emotional roller coaster, but I'm also soooo glad to hear it's not just me! I am a basketcase! I have been freaking out because of a surprisingly large medical bill that I'm not sure my insurance is going to cover, and NO MATTER WHAT df said or did to comfort me, it was the WRONG response! At one point I wanted to yell at him to stop being so annoyingly rational!!!!! But I was able to hear the crazy woman voice in my head before it came out of my mouth and restrained myself.... that time. I am on the verge of tears several times a day, and so grumpy, overly sensitive and frustrated that I feel like a monster to live with!! This is just so NOT ME! (Normally I'M the annoyingly rational one too ) It amazing what these hormones can do! :

[eli's mama]

like the rest of you i'm super emotional. last night DH and I went to dinner alone and I got teary eyed when the wait staff sang happy birthday to some total stranger. It happens like 10 times a day. Random crying.
oh, and tuesday my dog got her head stuck in the back of a wood stove, it wasn't hooked up or hot or anything, and the fire department had to come help and it was so traumatic, my body is still recovering from the stress. But that sooo didn't help my emotional state! Though it's pretty funny now when I look back at it.

[ATruck]

Originally Posted by calmom

good lord, how did i FORGET the insane emotions and hormones that come with pg??? :

This is absolutely my least favorite pregnancy symptom. It is so hard being so touchy and feeling like a crazy person. I remember last time being so sensitive last time that if anyone ever said anything to me that seemed even slightly critical, I would have to go into the bathroom and cry my eyes out.

So far I have been more grouchy than that, mostly with my poor DH.