I just wanted to brag about DH...
FIL is visiting from another state and staying in the guest room at our house. (advice for people buying a house, DO NOT get one with a guest room!) Anyway, since he has been here he has been making constant comments about food and about a million "be carefuls" a day. DH pointed out that he makes these comments only to dd and not ds. For example...to dd, "wow, you want another serving of food!" "You sure do eat a lot!" "You love those blueberries, I can't believe how many you ate!" Then the other day while ds was nursing he says to me, "No wonder your kids are so big all they do is eat." Meanwhile, not that I feel obligated to explain but my kids are some of the healthiest eaters I know. Their favorite foods are fruit, lentils, and they can eat an entire plate of brocoli and asparagus. My FIL is very subtly mysoginistic, and has a strong belief that girls should be small. Dh remembers him teasing his sister growing up about food and never dh. SIL has a host of issues but the her main struggle to this day is body image related, she weighs about 90 lbs soaking wet and constantly complains about being fat. MIL abused laxatives for most of her adult life and struggled with binge dieting. My dd is very skinny but super tall. His other comments were about how big she was and he even mentioned that her feet were big too. My 17 month old son is as tall as most 2 year olds and he has never commented on his size outside of the comment he made while I was bf'ing him.
DH told him we NEVER tease about food in our house and that he was to make absolutely no more comments related to food and or size of people in our family he also told him the only "rule" we have in our house is that children are treated with the same respect as adults and boys and girls are treated equally. He also told him to quit constantly telling dd to be careful and pointed out that he only does this to dd and not ds. Which is a little ironic considering dd is the most careful/cautious child and ds falls about 20 times a day. He encouraged his dad to look within himself to find where these "food issues" are coming from and to take some responsibility for the role he may have played with his sister's body image issues.
I told dh I was proud of him for standing up for his family and that his kids were very lucky!
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btw~he said that after placing clear cut expectations that if FIL cannot manage to stop making comments he will be asked to find a hotel for the remainder of his stay!
FIL is visiting from another state and staying in the guest room at our house. (advice for people buying a house, DO NOT get one with a guest room!) Anyway, since he has been here he has been making constant comments about food and about a million "be carefuls" a day. DH pointed out that he makes these comments only to dd and not ds. For example...to dd, "wow, you want another serving of food!" "You sure do eat a lot!" "You love those blueberries, I can't believe how many you ate!" Then the other day while ds was nursing he says to me, "No wonder your kids are so big all they do is eat." Meanwhile, not that I feel obligated to explain but my kids are some of the healthiest eaters I know. Their favorite foods are fruit, lentils, and they can eat an entire plate of brocoli and asparagus. My FIL is very subtly mysoginistic, and has a strong belief that girls should be small. Dh remembers him teasing his sister growing up about food and never dh. SIL has a host of issues but the her main struggle to this day is body image related, she weighs about 90 lbs soaking wet and constantly complains about being fat. MIL abused laxatives for most of her adult life and struggled with binge dieting. My dd is very skinny but super tall. His other comments were about how big she was and he even mentioned that her feet were big too. My 17 month old son is as tall as most 2 year olds and he has never commented on his size outside of the comment he made while I was bf'ing him.
DH told him we NEVER tease about food in our house and that he was to make absolutely no more comments related to food and or size of people in our family he also told him the only "rule" we have in our house is that children are treated with the same respect as adults and boys and girls are treated equally. He also told him to quit constantly telling dd to be careful and pointed out that he only does this to dd and not ds. Which is a little ironic considering dd is the most careful/cautious child and ds falls about 20 times a day. He encouraged his dad to look within himself to find where these "food issues" are coming from and to take some responsibility for the role he may have played with his sister's body image issues.
I told dh I was proud of him for standing up for his family and that his kids were very lucky!
:btw~he said that after placing clear cut expectations that if FIL cannot manage to stop making comments he will be asked to find a hotel for the remainder of his stay!
That is so wonderful your husband stood up to his father to defend your children!! 
