Originally Posted by SpiderMum
The most shy and mousy homeschoolers I ever met were a family who had JUST taken their kids out of school. The oldest had just started her freshmen year of highschool when she was taken out. She was extremely quiet, no social skills, dressed like someone's grandma, etc.
Not all children who are shy or "backwards" are odd because they were in any type of school situation.
My oldest child, now 13, has always been very, very shy. He is shy to the point of being comfortable with himself and doesn't care what others think. He prefers being in groups, dresses normal thank you very much, but he is just shy and very quiet. It's his "personality." I think a lot of people forget that we are born with certain personalities. My son hid around me when people talked to him when he was a mere 1-2 yrs old. I remember when he was 5 that an uncle of mine that we saw often asked if he ever talked because at that age he still had never heard him talk.
My son is a very normal, smart kid at home and around people he is most comfortable with, but he is is just very shy. If I could change that part about him I would but I can't. It's who I was when I was a young child and teen and it's who my DH was as well. He took after both of us and we didn't encourage his type of personality nor did the type of schools he has attended (or not attended) encourage him to be this way.
And, btw, my son has attended a public school, a private school and he has been homeschooled.
Which one should I blame it on? I prefer to blame it on none of the schools because I know he has been this way since he was first able to walk and talk.
I wish more people would recognize it for what it is and stop blaming school situations on how their children are personality-wise.