40+ TTC getting ready for the Holidays - Page 43

[BelovedK]

Originally Posted by Pookietooth

Today, I go in for my financial counseling appt. for IVF. What fun! (sarcasm).

You mean they have financial assistance???

[kbhlmh]

When do we start a new thread?

[msgoodbuns]

Pookie, I had to go for the financial counseling and then the regular counseling. Financial counseling - I had to push for all of the information and costs. REALLY PUSH HARD to know ALL of the costs associated with the process. Don't let them get away with generalizations.

As for the regular counseling, I was asked all sorts of Q's, such as: Do I have a child care provider or plan for child care? What will I tell the child about his/her father (sperm donor). What impact do I think the child will experience as a result of having an unknown father. What about the financials? Raising the child as a single mother. What will I do when the child is sick. Lack of family support (since my family lives 2 hours away for some; eons away for others). At the time, i wasn't talking about egg donors, but I'm sure they'd have a hey day with that one! What a royal PITA.

I told them that I had been ttc for so long that I wasn't too worried about all of that, since it would be 9 months, minimum, from the date we were talking, and I would have plenty of time to contemplate that IF I actually conceived and carried a child to term. Who on earth can plan child care before they even conceive? You can't get on a wait list for a baby that isn't even a reality yet!!!

Anyway, be prepared for craziness, but as I said, ask tons of questions, and don't let them lump everything into one flat rate. If you have insurance that covers parts, you want to know what those parts cost from the whole flat fee arrangment, so you know what your out of pocket expense will ultimately be.

Good luck. Let us know how it goes!

[kbhlmh]

MsGB - I understand why they ask all those questions but you're right, what a PITA!!

[saoirse2007]

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Update: got script for Diclection today...m/s drug....hopefully be back to 1/2 normal in a day or 2 so I can come and catch up properly.
Just 1 baby in here, measuring a week ahead...?????
my new edd is Aug 11,

Can you tell me what is on the go by looking at my chart.....that would make me O at around cd8?????????

[kbhlmh]

Congrats!!! : I'd say the technician mis-measured a little bit. They may change your EDD back at the next US. When do you go back?

[veganmama719]

I love this thread! Everyone is so supportive and such a fount of information!

I drank nettle tea the past few months I was TTC too. I combined it with red raspberry leaf or licorice because I didn't love the taste.

It's amazing all those questions when lets face it any crack addict can go and get knocked up! I suppose they do have to ask some questions but that seems a bit invasive.

Saorise, I've been taking the "homemade" version of Diclectin (a prescription ms medication not available in the US for all you yanks, ), which is vitamin B6 and Unisom (the doxylamine succinate version, which ironically is no longer available in Canada do to lack of demand so I picked some in FLA last winter). I would be sooooooooooooo sick without it. So hopefully you will be feeling a whole lot better soon.
My DS measured over a week ahead but I knew when I O'd so I stuck with MY due date and he was 5 days early. According to U/S technicians due date I was 4 days late.

[kbhlmh]

Vegan - If you run out of unisom just let me know and I will mail some to you!

[halifax40]

Hi everyone! Sorry I have been MIA these past few weeks, guess I just needed a little break over the holidays, and to be quite honest, was feeling rather down as it was to have been a very special Christmas with our little one...but that wasn't meant to be. I think in some ways our loss in July has only really been hitting me these past few months. Sure I was devastated at the time, but was in some ways just in survival mode trying to process the amnio results and U/S images, and then getting through being in the hospital delivering our little girl, and holding her, small as she, was in my hands...I had to focus on getting my body back on track and most of my thoughts were focused on trying to be positive and our TTC efforts....now, with no luck since then, I have become more painfully aware of the loss and my fears of not having a baby keep coming to the surface.

Anyway, I am still trying to stay positive....just finding it a bit harder to keep the optimism up.

Way too many posts to catch up on and try to do personals for right now...just wanted to drop in and say hello. I have been reading off and on during my absence, as I have wanted to know how everyone is doing. I so hope this New Year holds great things for all us!

kbhlmh- Thanks for stalking my chart, even though I haven't been on here posting. Not going to test unless my temps don't make their usual dip in the next few days. My charts are so the same every month (only difference this time was a few deleted temps from having a low grade fever over the holidays from a nasty cold)...my LP is 15 days with a rare 14 days a couple of times....so I should know in a few days, whether I test or not. As per usual I feel normal with no "symptoms", so it is just the waiting game.

[WaturMama]

Wow a ton of posts here today! Thanks to all who responded about my ovary twinge question. I have the same pattern when I feel them as you, Elliesmom (around O and during LP).

I am also doing CLW with my ds (at least that's the plan for now). He's almost 4. When I was pg and he wasn't quite 2 I was worried about him stopping, but now I'm not, which is good. Interesting that so many of us are doing CLW.

Halifax40. It's easy to see how the holidays would be very bittersweet. My heart goes out to you.

AFM, I am so frustrated today! I am on CD22 and no temp shift. 2 nights ago I had the very unusual situation of finding lots of ewcf at a time when dh and I could actually dtd. I was so hopeful about that. Then yesterday tons of ovary twinges, so I thought sure I'd see my temp be up. I've had cycles this long before but it's been a long time. So.....trusttrusttrust, our baby will come at the right time, the right way, and when it does this will all make sense.

[veganmama719]

Originally Posted by kbhlmh

Vegan - If you run out of unisom just let me know and I will mail some to you!

Thanks Karen! I have about 3 weeks worth left. I hoe I am feelingb etter by then (I'll be 15 weeks) but if not I may just take you up on your kind offer!

[veganmama719]

Halifax40, I am sorry you are having a rough time. I too doubted many a time that my baby was coming. And still do most of the time.
Try not to feel badly about yourself for being down though. It is good to grieve your loss even though it doesn't feel like it at the time. It must have been especially hard when you were so far along.

Juneau lost a babe just shy of that timeframe too and then had another loss right after that and here she is at 45 (or close to it) about to deliver her healthy babe any day now.

We are all here for you.

Much love, strength and peace to you mama.

[veganmama719]

I am glad I am not the only one nursing an older child. Sometimes I feel like a freak. He told me last night he is going to stop nursing when he is 13. DH burst out laughing.

[Kristin0105]

Originally Posted by saoirse2007

Update: got script for Diclection today...m/s drug....hopefully be back to 1/2 normal in a day or 2 so I can come and catch up properly.
Just 1 baby in here, measuring a week ahead...?????
my new edd is Aug 11,

Can you tell me what is on the go by looking at my chart.....that would make me O at around cd8?????????

Don't let them fool you. The u/s technitians dated my lo 2 weeks ahead of when she was concieved. It was IMPOSSIBLE but no one wanted to hear that. So they docs. used the u/s calculated delivery date which came and went with no signs of baby. They continually pressed me to consider induction and even gave me a dead line of September 1st. August 31 my little lovely was born on her own with no induction needed. So u/s dating can be unreliable. I did tons of research in the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy about how unreliable they can be. Unfortunately, I was the only one interested in said research.



Halifax40. My thoughts are with you.

Originally Posted by veganmama719

I am glad I am not the only one nursing an older child. Sometimes I feel like a freak. He told me last night he is going to stop nursing when he is 13. DH burst out laughing.

My dd is 3 and still nursing regularly she tells me she will stop at 5 but last night told us when she is 10. My dh also burst out laughing and said more likely 15. I do still nurse in public but don't really like to. this fall I was nursing her in a park and a young girl runs over and peaks at us turns to her mom and gives her a thumbs up, mom then turns to me smiling gives me a thumbs up and points to young girl and indicates she nursed until 5. It was nice to get the little thumbs up support.

[kbhlmh]

WaturMama - You have no chart link so I can't stalk your chart to see if I can help you out! Sorry!!

Vegan - Let me know if you need any. And yes, you're a freak but we love you anyway! Actually, all three of mine self weaned and none of them even made it to 6 months! My milk must suck or something!

halifax - I am so very sorry that you are having such a hard time. Feel free to come here and grieve. We are here to support you! Hope those temps stay up and that today's little dip recovers.

[massaginmommy]

My youngest weaned at 5 We agreed together that he would stop at 5. We still snuggle alot. I am pretty sure my milk was next to nothing at that point. He had been nursing before bed for about 18months at that point.

Here is a link to look and see if there is a community acupuncture clinic in your area http://www.communityacupuncturenetwork.org/clinics#ID I am thrilled to find one opening here on the 17th. I am paying way too much for my treatments and insurance will only cover 70% of 20 visits for the year and that is after a $500 deductible has been met.

[Pookietooth]

BelovedK, the financial appt. was really just them going over how much it would be, and taking a big honking deposit (which I wasn't expecting) -- $7600. They broke down all the costs and it was more than I had expected, what will all the little charges along with a couple of big ones. I started to think we are making a huge mistake, that the chances of sucess are so low at my age it's a bad bet. But I'm hoping the supplements + acupuncture can up the chances. We are definitely only doing it once.
Karen, when you say yours self-weaned at six months, what were they weaning to? Pureed baby food? Solids?

[ElliesMomma]

good news, i got a BFP! my DH is happy. i'm scared. almost as scared as i was the first time i was pregnant (DD is now 2 years 9 months). i made a bunch of oatmeal cookies to keep up what i have left of my breastmilk for her.

wow!

i've been having cramps for the past week and felt like my period was imminent (sp) it didn't come. also i noticed my skin looks really good and this morning that my fingernails have grown. that and the "empty" comment from DD about my milk, led me to test. plus i wanted to know.

oh boy here i go...

[kbhlmh]

ElliesMomma - Congrats!! ::::

Pookie - Baby food and I had to supplement with formula.

[massaginmommy]

Wow Elliesmom that is fantastic!!!! :

Karen sorry you lost your milk. Were you nursing on demand and exclusively breastfeeding? Next time if you want there are many many things that can be done to keep your suppply up to baby's needs.