would you be mad?? - Page 2

[karemore]

Yes, I'd be very angry. You don't deliberately expose anyone to illness, especially a child.

[Isamama]

Yeah, I'd be angry! I know people get sick...but come on!

Sorry mama! I hope you are all feeling well soon!

[Alison's Mom]

I'd be mad. As common courtesy, I always tell people ahead of time if we are visiting and anyone is slightly sick or getting over something. Usually they say it's OK with them, but I feel it's their right to know and their right to cancel because one of my kids is sick.

My MIL also is inconsiderate about this. Last winter, she often visited when she was sick and didn't tell us in advance so we could postpone. She would also kiss the kids and cough, sneeze, and not wash her hands, and leave dirty tissues all over the place! Whenever DH or BIL mentioned it, she would say 'oh, I washed my hands', but really she hadn't.

It's annoying, but I sometimes just let it go rather than get into a real argument about it, especially now that my MIL isn't well. I figure if they get exposed to germs, it will make them stronger!

[Jezzy]

Do we have the same ils? mine never share that they are sick til they were face to face with my lo!

You have the rite to be really mad! I think that you should call your mil and let her know that that wasn't right!

[muttmom92]

I'd be livid. What was she thinking?! Stomach bugs are the worst. I hope your little one is feeling better.

[mommy68]

Originally Posted by amelhu

Yes, I think I would be upset. My MIL is antisocial though, so I don't have that problem.

same here.

I would be upset as well.

[PrennaMama]

Has he got a fever, too? If he's still having a rough go of it today... try getting into a warm and steamy (not too hot) bath with him, (close the door or curtain if you can) and nurse him in the bath... it re-creates a bit of the womb feeling and also encourages the body to take in hydration through its largest intake organ - the skin.

Will he suck on a popsicle? The Pedialyte ones are gross, we think, but maybe you could freeze up some of his fave juice, blended with water and banana and maybe a touch of yogurt (I know dairy is no bueno, but yogurt might soothe his tummy a bit with the active enzymes, as well as supply him with protein...). Also, if you can get him to, maybe some chicken broth, soak some bread, or show him how to dip the bread...

I'm all about the B.R.A.T. diet during stomach upset... banana rice apple toast.

Good luck.

My mom has minimal boundaries when she's sick too... it's totally frustrating.

[Tera_&_Gibson]

I would be mad that she knew that she was sick and STILL kissed everyone! I hope your little one is better soon and the rest of your family does not get it.

[KavaKaya]

Yes, I'd be upset.
I'd also make sure to let MIL know.

[sweetieberlin]

thanks for the replies!!!

and thank God for breastmilk.. my ds only threw up one hour, over and over.. Id say about 15 times.. he wouldnt eat or drink except a tiny bit of water, for 2 days, but he nursed a ton.. and was actually back to himself in about 5 hours.. minus the eating and drinking.. he seems to be totally better now..

I on the other hand came down with the worst case of our family, and was up all night throwing up, and unable to get out of bed the next day. Im almost better..

but I am furious with mil.. she hasnt said anything to us, about getting us sick.. not one word.. even after dh said we were mad, maybe she really doesnt get how germs are spread.. but I think its more likely she just doesnt care.. she is really self absorbed...

ok..

thanks again for reassuring me, I wasnt off center to get mad..

[One_Girl]

I'd be furious. But I would try to give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she thought it was just food poisoning. Stomach sicknesses don't always affect adults as badly as they affect kids and people tend to not worry so much if they are just nauseous or having diarrhea.

[Fuamami]

Yes, I'd be mad.

Some friends of ours came over for dinner once when ds2 was tiny, and they were all sick. No mention of it until they were all there, coughing and sneezing all over the baby and us. He ended up with RSV. Niiiice.

[grniys]

I'd be beyond ticked! I would pitch a fit and not be back at her house for a long, long time.

I'm willing to put up with a lot, but when a grown adult knowingly exposes my kid to a STOMACH FLU??? That's crossing a line. I'm not one to freak over runny noses and sniffles, but I've had the stomach flu. It's miserable. To know you have it and go around kissing and cuddling up on a baby is just... ugh!!!

I'm angry for you! :

[Anglyn]

Id be furious! Last Feb. my sister went ahead with her ds's birthday party without telling any of us he was sick becuase she didnt want to have to reschedule. When he threw up his pizza she blew it off as he had eaten too much,but then he had diarreah....fastforward about three days and almost simultenaously (we compared notes the next day) everyone at their respective house came down with is. Serioulsy, my baby went first at about one am, I hit the bathroom around two, the older kids came down thenext day. My brother and step dad around three am at thier home, my mom within a day or so. My stepbrother also that same night. My dh within the next day or so and then those in my household who hadnt even been to the party... so my dh lost two days of work and he is hourly, so no work, no pay and we really need his pay. Then I missed nearly two weeks because once I got myself and my kids well,my fil got it and as he is our live in "manny", I had no one to watch my kids! My stepbrother also lost work and he is the only means of support for his family. I cant believe she didnt consider that we would all get sick? And I did call her to ask how long it ran so that we could have some idea. I wasnt shy about being unhappy.

Sure, people get sick and often its unavoidable, but to go to someones home or invite them to yours knowing that you or your child in in the middle of a contagious illness is beyond rude and inconsdierate. Sure, some people think its no big deal, but then inform them so THEY can decide! Yes, at three a.m. when we all had to vacate the puked in bed, put all the crying kids who just wanted to be held into the tub to wash the chunks out of thier hair (oh when the baby threw up, he his his sister right in the head!) I was really thinking a few choice things about her!

I even cancelled a dentist appoint once due to sick kids. Why infect every kid in the office and the entire staff?

I work with kids for a living and go in and out of homes, we have strict policy that they are suppose to cancel if anyone in the home has fever,diarreah or vomitting in the last 24hours. Youd be amazed at how many people wait 15 min. into thevisit to say oh he threw up this morning.... or shes had a fever since last night... and are shocked that its a problem for me. And every time, even if i dont get it myself, I have a sick kid withint a few days. I get that they dont want to cancel a visit. But whenI am sick or have a sick child, not only do they miss the next visit cuz Im out on sick leave, but everyone else on my caseloads misses!And Imsure that im a vector, that i see kids who are sick and i dont know it then i go to the next home and make that child sick. i mean, yes, i wash hands in betweenvisits but still. I touch the same pen, notepad, planner, car keys before and after, you know?

eta; whatever my kids caught last feb, it just kept getting passed around, I missed at least one week of work for three months in a row! We could not get rid of it! And if my sister would have just rescheduled the party.... When my middle son was sick the weekend of his second birthday party, I rescheduled.