I was pretty sure you meant pregnant. So I'm Not really embarrassed.
Yes, the wedding is a big stressor. But you know I think after May it will be done and we can go back to ignoring everyone as usual.
My sil to be says my mom may not even come to the wedding because she is only gonna come for the baby.
: I still doubt that she will miss her own son's wedding, but m'kay if she says so. It's all a way of sapping the
out of it. I've heard that one before. It's always "Oh I don't have the money, what a hardship my children are to me," but she always finds the money somewhere. Like with my cousin's wedding she didn't come for the wedding and no one was upset about that until my cousin had an accident and nearly died on her honeymoon in a car accident and sure enough my mom appeared for the "funeral." Despite not having the $ to come. Thank GOD my cousn made a full recovery. My uncle's side of the family is all estranged from my mom because of that incident.
There's a lot of drama related to my parent's divorce too. It's just really annoying that my mom and dad haven't sifted thru their divorce drama yet. We're talking a divorce 24 years old. They were only married 9 years.
And there's the fact that do to my mother's mental illness I raised my brother, so it's also a journey of letting go like mother's do. He is doing some things that aren't too responsible by my opinion and could have some life-long consequences. His life to do with what he pleases though. Just hard to stand back and watch, hoping it all works out and adding ppl to his wake.
They plan to do the dress fitting by mail! (which I think is going to make this even harder-because we did this for my dog's coat and it turned out waayy too big. LOL) but that might work out ok considering. I was afraid she'd come out early to make the gown. so hey maybe my mom won't come out here for the wedding after all. Which it looks like less and less ppl are coming due to strained finances so it begs the question why the big wedding if nobody can come? SIlto be just got laid off so yeah we'd all like a big wedding but we have to do what we can afford, KWIM? they can't afford this big production and she's had PTL so I'm a little worried about her health and scheduling a big wedding when she is anticipating bed rest and so fearful of another mc.
There's little things like she was telling me about the fitting of one possible dress and that they wanted to take in the top of the dress a lot and I was like you know you are pregnant and your top might get fuller you might want to alter that nearer the date. OH no, her boobs will not get bigger. She just knows they won't. ok.
She brought it up. It's not like I called her. But as someone who has had 3 kids I kind of know something about what bodies do in general in pregnancy. They do things you never imagined they could.
LOL She got really mad at me for saying I went up 2 cup sizes. They will charge her $100 for alterations so I'm just trying to look out for her. (IF she buys the $400 dress) Anyhow...we were all new moms once I guess. But denying that your body is going to grow and tying $500 bucks into a dress, sigh. I just hope she will be happy with the dress.
The baby will be here six weeks plus or minus a few later?
And this young lady insists things like if they don't come the week of the birth to see their newborn then they won't ever be involved in the baby's life. So she's telling ppl if they have to choose 1 choose the wedding or the birth choose the birth. And I was like seriously, do you want all those ppl here for the birth? You might be tired and a little sore...you *might* want to stagger the company a bit. You might want some private time just you, your husband and the baby. (Cuz I'm selfish and they have a 2 bedroom and these 4 sides of the family can not all sleep on the sofa. LOL) Some of them (both my mom's side and my dads) are even mad at me for saying no you can't stay here. So it does concern me if they invite everyone to town.
IF I could swing it, financially and leave-wise I would go visit my inlaws that week.
In PHOENIX in JULY!!!
A wedding is just one day y'know, but a baby in theory will be a baby for what a year or two and then hang around til they are oh, 25-or something like that? Plenty of time to see the baby. It does not all need to happen the week of July 15th.
The whole thing annoys me and it's not my problem. A lot of it doesn't make the slightest bit of sense. Today has been blissfully quiet.