I'm glad that you were able to talk to your mom SereneKitten and that was not what she meant.
As for my sil-to-be...she is still having high blood pressure still daily. The diabetes is going better though! She's supposed to be on bedrest but she's still doing a bunch of stuff. going to school, going to her grandma's. etc. I told her about LOA but she didn't do it. So we know she's running all around doing stuff and then calling my dad because he's a nurse and her bp is high. They told her to rest because it's way too high. My dad bought her a cuff. It's her first baby. I would sure hate to see her end up in the hospital but really she is not very compliant and I think that's what's gonna happen.
My dad just left this morning and I'm kind of glad because he's been putting a LOT, I mean a LOT of pressure on them to just do it now and have a reception the 23rd. Personally I see no difference if they are going to skip the short ceremony the 23rd and still have the big get together. Personally I don't care a lick about the timing of their marriage. All I care about is that the baby is safe and the less drama the better from the family.
So all I can do is try to keep my mouth shut and be as helpful as possible. The helpful part comes naturally atleast.
We did find some ways to help out. The mouth shut...ugh, venting a little here because it's too dangerous to say anything to anyone in my family/friends circle about it.
My dad called her a "dumb first time calf- heiffer." I really don't want to fight with my dad but that just goes too far. Grrr.
I am very worried for this girl and my baby nephew though that week before the wedding can be so stressful even under the BEST conditions and our family putting it mildly would not be optimal. Her doc said she could still have her wedding, which is good, but I don't think she knows the stress comin' this way. I mean how could you without having been married before. No one could foresee the drama that each visit brings. I DREAD it. But the wedding is not about me. But I still DREAD having them here. I am really grateful for the nice life that I have. And dh poor dh will be trying to cope without nicotine. Pray for us all. Seriously. :-)
Last night my DH BEGGED my dad to stay here so that my mom won't hang around here. Begged him. Same man who hid upstairs most the week cuz my dad annoyed him so much. LOL. My dad said yes he'd be happy to stay here and ward off my mom. That's gonna really tick her off, but it solves the dog drama.