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What to do?

My new landord has decided to convert the building to condos, so I have to move this summer. My mother, who I have barely had contact with in the past 14 years also has to move. She has been renting a condo and the owner has decided to sell. She won't buy the condo, but is going to move. The problem is she can't afford any place that she likes. I am also having trouble finding something I can afford. Financially, it makes sense for us to share a place. Emotionally and phsically, I see that as nothing but trouble!! She refuses to acknowledge my food allergies, and has deliberately slipped foods I react to into other food, just to prove to me that it's "all in my mind". Then, when I'm vomiting, she tells me I must have a flu virus, or something else, because there's *no way* I could be making myself vomit, because I couldn't have known she slipped the food in there!

Yeah. I need to leave well enough alone. Now, how to stop feelings guilty or crazy for not going with the obvious solution to our financial problems?

Yeah, NO. I would move in to the tiniest studio apartment and eat ramen noodles every day before I would ever live with my mother. It just would not be worth the psychological toll, and would undo years and years of therapy work. NO.

post #402 of 402

Hey ladies.

Dr. Forward has another book for us.

It's very good.

Trin

 

http://www.amazon.com/Mothers-Who-Cant-Love-Daughters/dp/0062204343/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1371677085&sr=1-2

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