Would you be OK with the overall denomination moving in the direction that you are seeking and specific congregations being more welcoming than others? That would be my summary of where the Episcopal Church is. The denomination has said they believe gays to be equal members but are trying to walk a fine line between what the Episcopal Church believes and what other Anglican churches worldwide are comfortable with. Some congregations are very openly "gay supportive" with gay clergy, and semi-under-the-table blessings of gay unions (under a variety of names). Others aren't quite there but will support gay members to the max. Some others are more, hm..., traditional in their beliefs. So you would have to find the right congregation. But I can say that while my congregation has refrained from blessing gay unions opening, they will do so privately and they were perfectly happy to baptize both my children with gay godparents. No anti-gay sentiment expressed, several openly gay staff members, and a float in the GLBT parade.