Originally Posted by swimswamswum
Why isn't being open to all people right? I have a hard time understanding this.
I think the pp meant that she, personally, feels homosexuality is wrong -- not that it's wrong for her church to be open. And the ways that people define "open" vary tremendously. Is it just, "It's okay for you to come in and worship with us" --
Or does it extend to, "We welcome you to serve the Lord alongside us, become members, and get involved in church ministry, including leadership if you're so called"?
I don't know a whole lot about the United Methodist church -- but we may be looking into this soon, as there's one not too far from us. We just tried our local United Church of Christ, and dh didn't feel at all at home there -- I think because that particular preacher got really loud and yelled a lot while delivering the sermon, and dh isn't comfortable in that kind of situation.
I'm not sure what all the yelling was about, because I was downstairs playing with my girls in the playroom, where we were directed when they got restless -- but I could just hear the yelling and felt concerned about dh, since this stuff really bugs him. And dh wasn't really open to talking about it, he just said he wasn't comfortable and didn't want to go back. I'm sure this is no reflection on the UCC in general, it's just one person's individual style.
Anyhow, there's still the ELCA church close-by to try -- the small one with no kids, and also a United Methodist church and an Episcopal church. So I guess we'll just have to check them out, and see what our options are. There are tons of other churches, but they're either in other languages, or they're denominations that I know are pretty fundamentalist and/or conservative, unless I'm missing something.
If we can't find a church, there's always the possibility that we can meet up with some likeminded friends in our home, I'll just be praying that God will bring some more liberal-minded people into our lives. Most of the people we currently know right now, would be horrified if they knew the full extent of how our theology is changing. They might even label us as one of those families they "shouldn't even eat with" --
Which is cool, because I'm seriously not wanting to hide my views out of fear that our friends will drop us. I'm just hoping, for my 8yo's sake, that we can start getting plugged into a new community before we start (potentially) getting "shunned" by our old one.
I'm hoping it will work out for the girls and me to volunteer in our neighborhood battered women's shelter, helping to care for the children there while their mothers are in-training or seeking work. If it works out, I'm praying that this will be an opportunity to develop some friendships with other more liberal-minded people (as well as getting to give to others, of course).
I volunteered in a shelter in college, and from what I remember of the staff and volunteers, they seem like wonderful friends for the person I am today. Back in college, I was more into my young college-life, and the shelter was just a place I went to help out.