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post #1 of 37
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How does this work? Do I keep nursing my girls as often as I have been up to this point?

I went into parenting with very few preconceived notions. I assumed I'd wean at 12 months like everyone else but didn't give it too much thought. To my surprise I've turned into a homebirthing, baby-wearing, CD'er. So far I've gotten my babes to 9 1/2 months without a drop of formula. (I'm a little bit proud and a lot thankful things worked out well enough to allow it.) They eat solids, but not a ton. It occurred to me that I'd like to keep nursing past a year. But I have no idea how long we should go and what it'll be like.

What are other MOMs' experiences? Goals?
post #2 of 37
My babies are 8.5 months. My goal is to nurse to 15 months (this gets us out of this years cold/flu season) and then reevaluate. There are days when I am ready to throw in the towel, but I keep reminding myself that every drop of bm they get is a precious gift that no one else can give them.

I'll look forward to others' responses. I don't really want them to have cow milk when I wean, or juice for that matter. I am also interested in knowing how or if people will go to sleep when they quit breastfeeding.
post #3 of 37
I suppose it's just the same as nursing any kid past 12 months. I never really put much thought into it with DS1. He nursed less as he got older and started to eat more solids, although he went through phases of nursing more and nursing less. At some point he got down to just nursing for naps and nights. It just seemed like a normal progression, you know? I never gave him milk or anything, just water in a sippy cup.
post #4 of 37
I don't know if she'll see this thread, but mamajody has been nursing her twin sons for a bit over 2 years now. I can't give you the insight she has, but it seems like she takes it one day at a time. (She's pregnant, now, too!)
post #5 of 37
Many, many of us on this forum with babies over 12 months are still nursing at some level, some slowing down, and some still going strong.

Mine are 18 months, and I plan to continue nursing until they outgrow the need. They kind of go through phases-- they'll eat less and nurse more for a while, then nurse more and eat less, and then go back and forth. For now, they nurse in the morning when they first wake up, sometime in the afternoon, they nurse to sleep at night, and then nurse around 1-2 times each during the night (usually once before midnight, and again around 5-6 am, though they go back to sleep until almost 8 usually).

Anyway, my biggest guide has simply been following their cues. If they're over 12 months, and you're still enjoying breastfeeding, and they're still enjoying breastfeeding, there's no reason to rush the end of that phase in your parenting relationship.
post #6 of 37
I would say that a good chunk of us have nursed into toddlerhood. My twins are 2.5 and still nursing with no immediate plans to wean. They nurse when they want mostly unless it is inconvient for me/us at that moment-no major rules or restrictions. We will probably stop when it isn't working for one of us anymore. I assume that my twins were wean around the same time just b/c that is the way they are, but many have a twin that weans before the other.
post #7 of 37
I'm planning to nurse to about 2 yrs . . . if they still want to and I still want to. I figure that'll get us most of the way through next year's RSV season, and I'm all about those extra antibodies!

But both times before, I stopped nursing due to getting pregnant, so I know plans can change (not planning on getting pregnant, but y'know). Still, right now, that's what I'm hoping for.
post #8 of 37
I nursed my b/g twins for a little over 3 years.

I too had a goal to make it to a year, then they got really sick that winter and I just kept going b/c it seemed like the right thing to do. (I couldn't imagine weaning them at the same time we were dealing with pneumonia, croup, flu, you name it).

I did finally nightwean them around 27 months (should have done it earlier for the sake of my sleep).

By the time there were 3 yo I was feeling very "done" and started gently weaning them, till around 3 years and 4 months I realized no one had asked for "nana" recently.

Basically, as they grew older I instituted boundaries for nursing as needed (like no nursing in public after 18 months - it was just too much of a circus). Then nightweaning, then, when I started weaning them in earnest, I limited the number of sessions till it was just once a day in the morning.

Just take it day by day, and month by month and you'll know what to do. Nursing toddlers is WAY easier than infant twins IME.
post #9 of 37
mine are almost 25 months and still going strong the experience has been wonderful for us and my goals are that they gently wean themselves when they are ready.

mine nurse to sleep, nurse for comfort, nurse out of jealousy when sister is nursing, nurse for teething pain, i nurse for immune support, and whenever the phone rings ... i do think that(for us) the sibling jealousy issue will keep twins nursing longer than a singleton; when they see their sister breastfeeding, they must join in too.

my children have always needed nursing the MOST right around 12 months of age, though i distinctly remember thinking the same thing about "weaning at one y/o" when pregnant with my first! so, agreeing with a pp, just let it flow naturally, just as parenting should and follow their cues. it is such a special part of the relationship, yours and theirs. mine hum their "nursing song" to each other, hold hands, gaze into each others' eyes and run their fingers through sisters hair every night while they blissfully nurse to sleep. i won't be weaning them too soon
post #10 of 37
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Originally Posted by maxymum View Post
mine hum their "nursing song" to each other, hold hands, gaze into each others' eyes and run their fingers through sisters hair every night while they blissfully nurse to sleep. i won't be weaning them too soon
Oh my goodness, that's adorable. Mine just starting holding hands while nursing (they're discovering they're separate people, I think, and it's an extension of their "hey, who are you?" play), and I thought I'd die of the cuteness. Your post tells me there's even more to come! :
post #11 of 37
Aww ^^ to the above.

Mine are just 5 weeks now and I keep wondering how they will interact as they grow. So far they just kind of look at each other and jump a little (as if they caught themselves in the mirror iywim), but last night I was tandem nursing and they were stretching their arms out to each other, kind of fluttering their hands over each other. Ds is quite (gorgeously) noisy as he nurses, and Dd stopped and was looking in his direction like, 'ssssh man, be quiet so I can concentrate'!

Of course, it's all my interpretation. LOL. but still wonderful, lovely, amazing.

I REALLY hope we can go waaay over 12 months. Am trying to eat and drink accordingly
post #12 of 37
Mine nursed til about two (one weaned just before and one just after their birthday) and like a PP said, it just seemed kind of natural. They are June babies and I, too, wanted to get through that second winter before thinking of weaning (although I gently nightweaned them at 17 months as my DP and I were wrecks from all the waking). When spring came, their interest decreased too... so when they started asking less and less, and falling asleep without it, and then one day... done.

I never planned to nurse toddlers. I didn`t even know if I could nurse newborn twins. I just took it all one day at a time, I guess.

Good luck!
post #13 of 37
12 months isn't a magic number - just keep nursing as they demand and go with the flow. That's how I've done it. As long as it feels right, you're good.
post #14 of 37
I'm nursing my twin boys who turned 2 in October. They nurse quite often. If one is nursing, the other one HAS to nurse. I did put limits on them, because they'd want to be nursing ALL day if I let them : But, alas, I've got to do things like go to the bathroom, cook dinner, etc :

They are cute when they are nursing. Sometimes they'll hold hands, or sometimes, they'll pick on each other :

It's definitely been different from my singleton, she nursed til 17 months.

I've been taking it day by day, and just going with the flow. At first, I said 18 months and then I said 2. Well, they're 2, and we're still going!
post #15 of 37
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Originally Posted by royaloakmi View Post
I nursed my b/g twins for a little over 3 years.

I too had a goal to make it to a year, then they got really sick that winter and I just kept going b/c it seemed like the right thing to do. (I couldn't imagine weaning them at the same time we were dealing with pneumonia, croup, flu, you name it).

I did finally nightwean them around 27 months (should have done it earlier for the sake of my sleep).

By the time there were 3 yo I was feeling very "done" and started gently weaning them, till around 3 years and 4 months I realized no one had asked for "nana" recently.

Basically, as they grew older I instituted boundaries for nursing as needed (like no nursing in public after 18 months - it was just too much of a circus). Then nightweaning, then, when I started weaning them in earnest, I limited the number of sessions till it was just once a day in the morning.

Just take it day by day, and month by month and you'll know what to do. Nursing toddlers is WAY easier than infant twins IME.

Me too. Night weaned at 26 mos. Nursed to 3.5. Bribed them to stop with a weaning party.
post #16 of 37
I nursed my twins 16 months. I had wanted to get to at least 2 years old. I have a chronic illness though, and I'd gone that long without the only meds that can control my illness safely, because they weren't safe for the babies. Anyway, finally I got to the point where I was too sick to care for them, so I weaned to go on the meds, and I feel so much better now. I feel sad, often, that we didn't make it longer. Parenting toddlers is so much easier when you're nursing, I think.

I nightweaned early, though. I nightweaned DD2 at 7 or 8 months, and DS at 11ish months. DS just needed the night nursing so much more, so I kept it up longer with him. DD let go of it easier. I needed to nightwean because my illness kept me in the bathroom for a good part of the night and early morning. I needed all the sleep I could get, plus I needed them to be able to accept DH during the night when they woke, because sometimes I just couldn't get to them.

I would encourage you to nurse as long as you and the babies still want to.
post #17 of 37
We are at almost 16mo here. Never a bottle or formula, for which I am so thankful. I just keep on nursing them as they need it and ask.

With DD1, my original goal was 6 weeks which quickly got pushed back and back until I figured whenever. My DS is now well past 3 and still nursing so I figure if the twins go that long that's fine too. Up to them!
post #18 of 37
my twin girls are 19 months and still going strong! I plan, like a lot of other moms here, to nurse until they wean themselves. Sadly, I already get comments and looks from family members but I just try to ignore it and focus on my daughters. I know in my heart this is the best thing for them right now. and like a lot of moms said before, I think you will know when it is time to move to the next step... good luck!
ps.. once they stop nursing I still lan on giving them breastmilk for a while after. the benefits are amazing and I had to start out pumping, they were preemies so it's really just going to back to it for me!
HTH!
MadziesMom
post #19 of 37
Thread Starter 
Thanks for the advice and the experience. Yeah, MOMs! Funny that going by what feels right seems a little counter-intuitive sometimes. Guess that's just something we new moms need to get used to and protective of.

Nice to hear from so many nursing way past the one year mark.

And to EsaEsa, another 2/08 MOM!
post #20 of 37
My twins are 15 months old and they still nurse like newborns. They nurse every three hours day and night. I wouldn't trade it for the world. I have no goals, just until we're done. I do think that I'll start easing them back this spring or summer but not all the way to weaning. My son is going to be three in a couple of weeks and he's still nursing 4-6 times a day as well.

There is something magical about nursing toddler twins. My girls hold hands, pull off and giggle as some secret joke, give me kisses (and raspberries!). It's the most special thing. It's also so sweet having my toddler in the tandem mix, he loves holding his sisters and sharing nursies with them. I'm such a lucky mom
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