Originally Posted by harleyhalfmoon
Ummm... regardless of whether you have a cleaning schedule or not, is it really a good idea entertaining the child the entire time? I know you may want to, because you don't see the child very often, but it's a good idea for the child to have some time to entertain themselves as well. My Hubby was a "Disneyland Dad" for three years before I came into the picture. My Hubby and my Father-in-Law would literally devote every waking second of every other weekend soley to be entertaining my stepdaughter and doing "fun stuff". I'm sure personality plays into it, but, to this day, she can't stand to be alone and to not have everyone's attention. When she can't have it, she doesn't know what to do with herself and just watches tv.
Bolding mine... this is how my DSD is. Her Mom does not have her take responsibility for anything at their house. She doesn't have to clean up her toys or anything, she is baby'ed a lot. She refuses to play by herself for even 10 minutes while I get together dinner, it can lead to meltdowns... she has gotten better with this though.
At her Mom's they live with her Grammy and Uncle, plus her Mom's boyfriend, so there is always an adult available to dote on her. It isn't realistic for our house to run in the same fashion, especially when baby gets here and we are trying to prepare her for when the world is not going to revolve around her anymore.
I think children need reality in their lives as much as we need to preserve their innocence...
DSD's major chores are helping to clean her room. She has her own room and she should be able to put away the toys she takes out and plays with, we shouldn't have to pick up after her just because she is only here EOW. Her other major chore is helping clean her hamster cage. My DH cleans it on weeks she isn't with us... but the weeks she is, she helps... it is her pet.