EMERGENCY PARENTING 101: How to parent through a mental illness - Page 4
HI- today was so stressful. I hate to vent about my kiddo. I have a med appt on weds. I've found that keeping DS busy is best for both of us and lately I've done a horrible job at that. Tomorrow I think we are going to the science center so I can get a membership for the year. Another 'free' activity for 2012 'should' help things, plus all the other places with the reciprocal membership.
I need to be able to function. We have a zoo membership, which is really a 'winter' activity around here cuz who wants to go to the zoo when its 110 degrees outside?
My kiddo can read 1000 pages a week, thats actually his goal and he exceeds it almost weekly. Fiction, non-fiction, it really doesn't matter. Some times he just reads instruction manuals from the library.
I can barely manage my own DX and the intensity of DS is just soooooo much to handle. He is 11, and it's just not getting better.
I always want to 'put' him in public school but that's not going to happen. Honestly, that would last about 20 mins before the teacher would have a mental break down and they would be calling me to come get him.
Is ANYONE on here dealing with their own issues and an advanced kiddo. I really want to pull my hair out. My therapist has no ideas, the psychiatrist can't offer much insight- but they both agree, public school is a bad idea. HELP...
I started the kids group, that means I need to coordinate things and such. Its more of a tween/teen homeschool group but the kids who show up are on the 'smarter' side.
Hopefully 2012 will be better
I've decide that after the new year DS will be 'allowed' to ride his bike to the library. its a little over 2 miles each way, all sidewalk and that will give him 'something' to do a couple days a week.
Huntress, you sound like my mama when I was little. I think if she had had supportive people on her side (not saying you don't) it would have helped a lot. She had great mothering instincts, but she gave up because no one believed in her. We have a great, albeit weird, relationship now. I agree - push yourself to do things with your children, the quiet stuff or the wild stuff, whatever seems easiest in the moment. My kids and I have been dancing and singing to the radio lately, being really silly. Watch 'Over the Hedge', we all cried laughing. Get out the markers like I was talking about, puzzles is a great one.
Zebra, my kids aren't likely as highly gifted as yours but enough that ps wasn't working, and my ds has sensory processing disorder which is a lot to deal with. We had great homeschool groups near us before we moved but ds couldn't handle the intensity. DD was thriving though! She was 11, but most of the girls she ended up spending time with were in their teens. It was so nice to have a choice! I hope that you find some groups to participate in. Have you looked to see if there is an Odyssey of the Mind group in your area? that may be a good resource.
I totally understand the problem w/ having a whole family w/ mental issues. My dh, ds & I all have bp. & both ds & I have ADD. My dh gets frustrated w/ us forgetting things, losing things, & the horrible state of our house, but is fighting depression himself right now.... & so am I. My dh & I aren't giving ds much attn, nor keeping up w/ healthy meals, housekeeping, etc. I feel so bad for my son who has to deal w/ this on top of the hardship of being a teen. He sometimes wants attn yet sometimes takes advantage of his independence, refusing to come home, do things he's done all his life, & generally do what I asked. Our home is unstable, consequences are erratic, nutrition is sometimes neglected. grrr I hate depression & need 2 find a way 2 get myself 2 do what I intend. Luckily, (??), he just graduated & will be moving out this summer, maybe. I can use the extra time, & less stress abt being a responsible mom w/o triggering a melt-down from either 1 of us, but feel guilty for not being better @ prepping him 2 take care of himself. I try now, then get overwhelmed w/ his rebellion & general attitude. & oh. I forgot 2 mention what my dh is doing while I deal w/ ds. He is dealing w/ failing a suicide attempt, & people not agreeing that it's the right thing to do. Reading & music help me feel better, but I often use the wrong coping skill of hiding in the computer all day, but it makes things worse. Any ideas on a coach, who's willing & able 2 at least keep the most important things from being neglected, or things getting worse in general?
I just want to say that I really hear your struggle and how you so much want to do the best for your son, and that it's hard to accept the limitations with which you're living right now - in yourself and in your dh. I'm guessing that you might be awfully worried about dh too, wanting support, wanting help for him as well as yourself and your son. I wish you the best. I have an idea of just what you're going through.