I just wanted to point out how special my DD's birthday is to me. She was born on Oct. 16th 2008 and if you look at my siggy you can probably figure out why.
A year ago my husband and I were not yet married and we got a big surprise! We found out I was pregnant. I was shocked and panicked and he was on top of the world. I went to my gyno and found out I was 8 weeks along. After freaking out for a while we finally sat down and together figured out how we were going to make this work. We decided to get married (not for religious reasons. Just to make our family "official" in our mind) and over the course of the next week I figured out how to make it all work. If we got married I would lose my parents insurance (I was a full time student) but we really wanted to so i got medicaid all lined up. I told my parents and we told his family. Everything was worked out.
On tuesday Oct. 16th 2007 I had just gotten home from the medicaid office and been approved. I was getting the last few things out of the soon-to-be nursey when I felt a gush. I went to the bathroom to find bright red blood in my panties. Danny took me to ther ER and I was diagnosed w/ a miscarriage. I have never been more devastated. That was the first and last time I saw Danny cry.
We decided that even though this was all unplanned it made us realize how much we wanted a family. We decided to take the extra time to get things lined up a little better (financially, etc.) before TTC. We went ahead w/ the wedding in Dec 2007 and we started TTC in January 2008.
We conceived on the first try! I was really excited. After doing the math I realized my EDD was Oct. 17th (I was confused when I put the 19th in my sig.) and i remember thinking "wouldnt it be neat if she was born on the 16th. It would be a much happier way to remember that day." I know for some people a m/c is like a stubbed toe but to me its a baby. It was an extremely traumatic experience for me. It was most definantly the worst thing that has ever happened to me. It was a death. Plain and simple and I took it really hard.
Well, I had forgotten all about that by the time I went into labor on Oct. 15th at 9:00pm. I didnt occur to me until I saw her birthday written down after she was born.
October 16th, 2007 was the worst day of my life thus far and Oct. 16th 2008 was the best!
: Its just so ironic that I lost a baby and a year later on the same day I was given another one.
Just think of how much of a coincidence that was. We didnt do the math at all. We didnt even realize when our EDD would be when we started TTC. We had originally planned to start in Feb but I convinced DH that I would die if I had to wait another month and it was unlikely we'd get it the first time anyway (
) so it was completely unplanned and also just think of all the other days she could have been born!
Right after my miscarriage on another forum trimesters doula posted a story for me and another woman. It was about a woman who had a miscarriage and her son told her that it becomes a "spirit baby" and it beams around you in a circle and stays first in line. if you become pregnant again you will have that same spirit baby and if you dont it will beam over to another woman.
i think Chloe was my spirit baby.
P.S. thanks TD for that story, a year ago. lol. And I missed the thread about when your baby arrived. I never could find one???
A year ago my husband and I were not yet married and we got a big surprise! We found out I was pregnant. I was shocked and panicked and he was on top of the world. I went to my gyno and found out I was 8 weeks along. After freaking out for a while we finally sat down and together figured out how we were going to make this work. We decided to get married (not for religious reasons. Just to make our family "official" in our mind) and over the course of the next week I figured out how to make it all work. If we got married I would lose my parents insurance (I was a full time student) but we really wanted to so i got medicaid all lined up. I told my parents and we told his family. Everything was worked out.
On tuesday Oct. 16th 2007 I had just gotten home from the medicaid office and been approved. I was getting the last few things out of the soon-to-be nursey when I felt a gush. I went to the bathroom to find bright red blood in my panties. Danny took me to ther ER and I was diagnosed w/ a miscarriage. I have never been more devastated. That was the first and last time I saw Danny cry.
We decided that even though this was all unplanned it made us realize how much we wanted a family. We decided to take the extra time to get things lined up a little better (financially, etc.) before TTC. We went ahead w/ the wedding in Dec 2007 and we started TTC in January 2008.
We conceived on the first try! I was really excited. After doing the math I realized my EDD was Oct. 17th (I was confused when I put the 19th in my sig.) and i remember thinking "wouldnt it be neat if she was born on the 16th. It would be a much happier way to remember that day." I know for some people a m/c is like a stubbed toe but to me its a baby. It was an extremely traumatic experience for me. It was most definantly the worst thing that has ever happened to me. It was a death. Plain and simple and I took it really hard.
Well, I had forgotten all about that by the time I went into labor on Oct. 15th at 9:00pm. I didnt occur to me until I saw her birthday written down after she was born.
October 16th, 2007 was the worst day of my life thus far and Oct. 16th 2008 was the best!
: Its just so ironic that I lost a baby and a year later on the same day I was given another one.Just think of how much of a coincidence that was. We didnt do the math at all. We didnt even realize when our EDD would be when we started TTC. We had originally planned to start in Feb but I convinced DH that I would die if I had to wait another month and it was unlikely we'd get it the first time anyway (
) so it was completely unplanned and also just think of all the other days she could have been born!Right after my miscarriage on another forum trimesters doula posted a story for me and another woman. It was about a woman who had a miscarriage and her son told her that it becomes a "spirit baby" and it beams around you in a circle and stays first in line. if you become pregnant again you will have that same spirit baby and if you dont it will beam over to another woman.
i think Chloe was my spirit baby.
P.S. thanks TD for that story, a year ago. lol. And I missed the thread about when your baby arrived. I never could find one???
