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post #81 of 92
I'm not an AP parent...I'm a common-sense parent. I don't follow any sort of parenting philosophy...I just do what makes sense for me and my family.

I breastfeed (aiming for CLW), co-sleep part of the night (DD starts out in her room till she needs to eat. After that she stays in bed with us till morning), we CD (which was mainly a financial and comfort decision), I babywear (she sleeps so comfortably in her sling or wrap), no vaxing, avoiding TV till age 2 and then limiting it, homeschool (I was homeschooled myself, so that's what's normal to me), and I tend to avoid modern medicine.

But then I don't eat that healthily. I'll try to do better with DD, but I'm sure she'll eat some junk too. I don't hold her all the time...and I do have a stroller (though the only time I've used it so far is to cart dirty diapers to be washed. ) No clue what I"m doing about discipline as of yet. And I have absolutely no problem with video games. I had DD in a hospital (though I'm very supportive of homebirthing, etc) with a doctor. Even ended up with an epidural. I'm happy with the decisions I've made. That's about all you can hope for.
post #82 of 92
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I'm not an AP parent...I'm a common-sense parent. I don't follow any sort of parenting philosophy...I just do what makes sense for me and my family.
Yeah -- when people want me to classify my parenting style I say "pragmatic".
post #83 of 92
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What is attachment parenting?

Attachment parenting is an approach to raising children rathar than a strict set of rules. Certain practices are common to AP parents: they tend to breastfeed, hold their babies in their arms a lot, and practice possitive disiplince, but these are just tool for attachemt, not criteria for being certified as an attachemnt parent. So forget the controversies about breast vs bottle, cio or not, and which methid of discipline are acceptable, and go back to the basics. Above all attachament parenting means opening you mind and heart to the individual needs of your baby and letting your knowledge of your child be you guide to making on-the-spot decisions about what works best for both you you.
-Dr Sears from "The Attachment Parenting Book"
post #84 of 92
Following the cues of my child and doing what is best is what is AP to me. Especially when they are babies...I tell new mamas to trust their instincts and love their baby! (vs letting it cry,etc)

As far as crunchy goes...I'm crispy too. Extended bf, co-slept for years, held babies all the time, no CIO, held off solids, no tv until after 2, etc...but I love McD's, have yelled at my kids, they are vaccinated and go to public schools,etc.
post #85 of 92
i'd say I'm mildly crispy
post #86 of 92
I am really liking the term "crispy". lol

From my time here I have realized I am totally not mainstream but I am totally not super crunchy like what seems to be the majority of members here... but compare me to most of my family and/or friends and they think I am some sort of crunchy "freak". lol

I guess I'm a middle roader.

I love a lot of things I have learned here, but there are some things that just don't work for me. Such as co-sleeping. I have fibromyaglia and toss A TON due to pain and such... When DSD needed to sleep with us sometimes when she was younger I would wake up in soooo much incredible pain because I could not roll as freely and she would always get her knees into my back... I would spend the next days in agony. I had to put my foot down with DH and tell him if he wanted to sleep with his daughter, he could, but he would need to go sleep in her bed with her, I could not continue being dysfunctional and in mind numbing pain.

I use some of GD, but totally do time outs. Sometimes I need the time out. lol I will give DSD three chances to do something/stop doing something and will try talking to her about something, if she is still screaming and not wanting to talk, we both need a time out til we can communicate in a less stressful time.

Bored at work the past two days and I decided to browse a more mainstream board... and I knew instantly that even though sometimes I feel I don't precisely "fit" here with being less crunchy... I felt way way way uncomfortable on the more main stream board and did not connect to those people what so ever... some of what they were saying was truly disturbing actually.

So yes... a crispy middle roader is what I shall dub myself. lol
post #87 of 92
I'm extremely "mainstream" compared to most people here.
post #88 of 92
I hereby dub myself a "crispy pragmatic parent". Crispy, sort of like the bacon I ate for breakfast (which some people on MDC wouldn't touch, I'm sure). I am a proud CPP!
post #89 of 92
We do both AP and mainstream. I parent the way it feels natural. I never knew there were names and catagories for the way you parent until I joined some mom groups.

AP- Co-slept when DS was a baby (we still co-nap togather), No CIO, No spanking/hitting/shaming-Gentle discipline, Babywearing, Delay vaxing, eating organic and natural foods, I'm a health nut!

Mainstream- Formula feeding (was unable to breastfeed despite my 3 month long, hard battle with trying to get breastmilk), Hunter now sleeps in his own room.
post #90 of 92
i so would not consider ff after a 3 month batter trying to get bm mainstream.. i'm pretty sure thats not a real common occurrence. lol i'm sorry you had a hard time!!
post #91 of 92
We call what we do "Alternative Parenting". Its a mix of all the parenting beliefs that fit us. Its not straight attachment parenting as defined on MDC, but its defintely not mainstream either.
post #92 of 92
We are very AP, but not quite crunchy. Of the 8 principles of AP, Striving for balance in family and personal life is where I fall short. I am all was stretched to the limit and I feel as if DS needs me more at times, but right now I am on a mission to complete my education.

As for NFL we are not complete followers. I believe in early education and the benefits of excellent private schools, I detest the public transportaion in my current city and I drive whenever I am able, we delayed vaxed DS, supplemented w/ formula and I had tubes placed in his ears. I also LOVED my bucket seat (why wake a sleeping baby) and the stroller. Trying on clothes is a PITA without a stroller and I enjoyed drinking coffee w/out worrying if I would spill it on my baby.

However, we shop organic, strive to reduce our waste, co-sleep and made our own baby food and wear DS often.
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