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post #21 of 67
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Originally Posted by kosheng View Post
maybe they aren't calling back because it is a huge liability, or admission of guilt?
Once they expect that you may pursue legal action, they are no long going to talk to you on the phone. If the dr says "I am very sorry this happened", it could appear to be an admission of guilt. This is all standard "risk management" practice.
post #22 of 67
I'm so sorry this happened to your babe!

Get a copy of the records before you do anything else. If my DH had not stolen my records from the hospital, we would have had no proof that they changed them...and they will! As you have already seen, they will be edited.
post #23 of 67
I think you have to follow through with this until the end. I assume the hospital is going to bill you for assaulting your son. Sue them. If you don't, they're going to keep doing this. What they did to your son could have and may have caused him serious permenant injury.
post #24 of 67
I'm so sad for you and your poor little one and PISSED at that staff. WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN TO OUR BABIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really hope you will take legal action. I am sure a malpractice attorney would be happy to get his hands on this case. I'd also contact DOC about this. They clearly did not do as you requested and even if it was an accident they still are responsible for causing your son harm and possibly future complications. :_(
post #25 of 67
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Originally Posted by SleeplessMommy View Post
You will want to make your complaints to the hospital in writing.

I suggest the Joint Commission:

http://www.jointcommission.org/Gener...nt/default.htm

it will get their attention
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I'll echo jwhispers rec. on the DOC and Dave2GA. Also, Attorney's for the right of the child, ARC may have a few suggestions as well.

Fyrestorm is right. They will do what they can to cover their own faults.

So, get records asap, if you haven't already done so.

Did you say that nurse was a male nurse?

and

Did anyone mention the option to bag cath? Bag caths are recomended for intact boys since no one is inserting or retracting anything.

I hope you guys heal from this traumatic experience. Truly frighting.

Here are some flowers: for the little guy.
post #26 of 67
I'm still so mad. I could hardly sleep last night
post #27 of 67
I'm glad your poor baby is healing fine. What a horrible story. What awful people. Ugh.

post #28 of 67
I can't even express how reading what happened to your baby made me feel. I am so sorry and omg so pissed. You did nothing but try to protect your son, you did everything right.
I don't think I can even say what I'm thinking about that nurse here (okay I know I can't). She needs to get the message in a very strong way that what she did was wrong and she better never do it again.
post #29 of 67
1) Go to the hospital and ask for your ds's medical records ask them to give them to you or if they wont do that then have them sent to his ped. Tell them the ped. wants to follow up and needs to see his results. Make sure to tell them you want every page not just the lab results.

2)once you get them look over them to see what they say.

3)Contact the lawyer here and have him draft a letter to all involved that states what they did constitues abuse and they can be sued. It dosnt mean you are sueing it just lets them know you can.

I am so sorry this happened and thank you for posting it because it may save another boy from being hurt like your ds.
post #30 of 67
I just had my husband read your story and asked him what he would do. He went to law school and worked as a public defender for 3 years. He said:

1. He said he would ask to speak with the attending physician and have a very long discussion!

2. He would file a lawsuit for malpractice.

3. And more importantly, he would file criminal assault charges against the nurse.
post #31 of 67
Hugs to you, mama. I'm so sorry it happened to your baby.

I'm too 100% for legal actions. This has to stop!

Like Firestorm said, get medical records. I'd also go there and write down the names/addresses of everyone who witnessed you giving instractions of not retracting (including the &*^$##@ nurse who performed the procedure) just in case they get suddenly fired.
post #32 of 67
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Originally Posted by latinalonestar View Post
I just had my husband read your story and asked him what he would do. He went to law school and worked as a public defender for 3 years. He said:

1. He said he would ask to speak with the attending physician and have a very long discussion!

2. He would file a lawsuit for malpractice.

3. And more importantly, he would file criminal assault charges against the nurse.
this!!

i am so sorry this happened to you and your boy! I do hope you take legal action. doctors get away with so much because we feel so helpless in situations like this. Doctors do normally cover each others behinds but in this case since it was the nurse who retracted him after the doctor told you they wouldn't they might sell her out to protect themselves. in this case that actually works out since it was her fault yk?
post #33 of 67
OMGosh. I commend you for having the willpower not to beat that nurse unconscious (sorry, but I think I would have really lost it).
I hope you can find a lawyer who will work with you because this crap has got to STOP.
post #34 of 67
so sorry that happened to your son! I can't believe she just left him alone she caused him a start of what you call doctors cause paraphimosis. Maybe even the no circ lady marylin milos will be able to help you too!


I just believe catheters are overused and did you know that 10% time that a catheter can cause a false postive there was a statement on this somewhere but i can't remember where.

What works wonderful for what I imagine he had is intestinal flu - get some little tummies -nausea relief- it worked wonders for my son when he had throw ups , diherea even when he had it at the same time as his throws up. it's natural all it has is ginger in it!

Get that for on hand for the next time!
post #35 of 67


My son was forcibly retracted at 2 weeks old by a urologist. It was horrible.
post #36 of 67
kosheng, have you talked to your son about what happened? I know he is only 12 months old, but they understand a lot. He must be so traumatized by this. Have you told him that it was wrong what the nurse did to him, that you tried to protect him, that it will never happen again, etc.? He needs help working out his emotions. He might need to cry about it.
post #37 of 67
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Originally Posted by QueenOfThePride View Post
kosheng, have you talked to your son about what happened? I know he is only 12 months old, but they understand a lot. He must be so traumatized by this. Have you told him that it was wrong what the nurse did to him, that you tried to protect him, that it will never happen again, etc.? He needs help working out his emotions. He might need to cry about it.
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And I hope that you are able to get somewhere with the hospital. At least to a place where you can feel some resolution. I am so sorry to hear that this happened to your son.
post #38 of 67
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Originally Posted by veganf View Post
OMGosh. I commend you for having the willpower not to beat that nurse unconscious (sorry, but I think I would have really lost it).
I hope you can find a lawyer who will work with you because this crap has got to STOP.
i thought the same thing when i read the OP. it would have taken all of my will power not to beat the crap out of that nurse.. and i don't know if i have enough will power. the whole damn hospital would have heard me. i am truly in awe of your self control OP.
post #39 of 67
I'm so sorry for your son and for you as well.

You can report the nurse to your state nursing board (if she is a RN/LPN). I don't know what they will do, but they'll at least have it on file and can reprimand her if they wish.

Report the MD to your state physician licensing board. It won't do any good, he won't get "in trouble" but he will at least be made aware that someone is pissed as hell over it. It might save another innocent boy from getting harmed.

Write a letter to the hospital, both the ER chairperson, AND to the hospital ethics department. It is unethical to go against your wishes for something like that, especially since there was a verbal agreement. Again, it probably won't do any good as far as these people getting fired, and you probably won't get an admittance of wrongdoing, but maybe the hospital will review/change it's policy and give the ER dept. an inservice on retraction.

Get a lawyer. Are there not any lawyers that will take on cases even if they think it won't bring in big bucks????? Maybe you have a law school in your area and one of the students can write a letter on your behalf or something.

Contact the police and file assault and battery charges. They clearly did something you specifically said not to do and they obviously caused physical harm. It fits the A&B definition. This will most definitely get the attention of everyone involved. I'm pretty sure they won't be doing that to any other child after you file that charge.

Contact DOC and ask them to send current literature/recommendations. These "professionals" clearly lack education.

File a complaint with "Joint Commission". They are the governing body that accredits hospitals.

See if you can find an online source where you can "rate" your hospital and the doctor. I know those sites exist but I don't know the url.


Best of luck. I'm so very sorry your son had to endure this.
post #40 of 67
I am so sorry for your son and you! Please report the nurse and take the legal steps suggested by the others... Yow owe it to your son and all other boys she might hurt that way in the future!!!

When my son was 3 weeks old we had to go to the ER due to a high fever. I was a new mom and scared... Now I would have waited longer to go... Anyhow, the nurse who cathed him did it super gently without retracting him. He didn't even flinch, he was fine. She told me that she sees lots of uncirced little boys (she was originally from Minnesota where she saw lots of circed boys)... She said that most Hispanics and hm well crunchy Californians don't circ either so ever since she came to the central coast she's seen a lot more intact boys and now knows that intact boys should be the norm and not circed... I informed her that we don't really do circing in Europe as well
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