Originally Posted by mama-aya
I'm still nursing a 2.5 yo, too! I almost always lay down now- I don't have enough lap left to comfortably hold him and nurse. I like feeling the baby move while he's nursing, but I am also starting to feel a little anxious about it all. I've got to get him used to sleeping without nursing, I think, or it could be miserable when I'm in the hospital having the new baby. I know people nurse and still go away from their kids for a night or two, but I never have been away from mine, and I just can't tell how he'll react. Ugh. I wish I could have a homebirth. And he's so possessive of me- I'm not sure how tandem nursing will work, but then, the vision I have of NOT letting him nurse after the baby comes is worse!
Is anyone else experienced with these things, or even worrying about them?
You definitely aren't alone in worrying. I'm mostly feeling better about it now, but those were my exact concerns earlier in the pregnancy. He screams and screams when he wants to nurse and his Dad is trying to put him to sleep... brutal for everyone involved. But then he went to spend the night with my Mom one night totally unexpectedly (situation based, and it was decided at the very last minute) and did great. He's done it twice more and done great again both times. If I'm not in the house, and especially when it's not our house (where we all sleep together) he'll go down for her no problem without nursing.
I wasn't really planning or not planning on tandeming, I always just assumed I'd play it by ear. By yes, the vision I have of him seeing the baby nursing and NOT being allowed to nurse is not pretty so I'll follow his lead for sure. Have you tried talking to your DS about it? We talk about things we'll do when the baby comes out all the time, and T will tell me that "This side is for baby and This side is for me!" (which he came up with on his own, I plan on nursing each of them from both sides
) He also talks about the baby sleeping in our bed, and changing the baby's diapers and is generally getting very excited
(Not that there won't be rough times, but I'm glad to hear him talking about it now
Good luck with everything