We didn't hear him!

[Bethkm]

I guess this is a risk we take by starting our 13 month old ds out in his crib at night. I woke last night around 1 am and realized that the whining in my dream was my ds and he wasn't in our bed yet! My dh ran over there and he was sitting in his crib crying softly and looking sad! I feel awful! He settled in and nursed but slept fitfully for an hour or so, nursed again and then slept in the crook of my arm the rest of the night. He's his normal happy self this morning, I am just guilt-ridden.

We'll be turning the volume louder on the monitor. I love staring him out in his crib because he usually sleeps from 8-12 or so and then we have an evening together.

Just looking for someone to tell me he's not scarred for life!

Beth

[Island Mommy]

IMHO it will take more than one episode of crying to negate all the benefits your ds has received from his loving, caring parents. It will take ALOT more than that. He was probably just sitting there wondering "Where are they? I know they'll come because they always have and they always will. They're just a bit slow tonight."

I bet your ds has forgotten all about it by now.

[hipumpkins]

He was probably half asleep himself. So he probably doesn't even remember. I read somewhere on here that if they aren't too clingy the next day then they are OK!

[hotmamacita]

:hugs

That has happened to me and they've been in bed with me. :) I've dreamed a few times about this distant cry and I wake up and realize my baby is next to me crying. :(

You are a good mama.

[Marsupialmom]

Once will not hurt him.

I did this once with my youngest. I was sick and put her in a bassinet to sleep because I knew my sleep pattern was impaired and I worried for her safety.

My dh came in the house to her screaming and red. He actually yelled at me!! I started vomiting and guilt hit both of us. In reality with as sick as I was her crying alone was physically safer than being in bed with me.

[mittendrin]

it happend to me twice already. i usually put ds down in his crib at 8 and he wants to come in our bed around 11 or so. i just forgot to turn the volume on the monitor up and woke up around 3 or so, no ds in my bed. i ran to his room and he was lying in his crib on top of his covers, head at the footboard and i knew he must have been crying for me!!! it feels so awful...but i agree with the other ladies, it takes a bit more than a couple of times to make them insecure about your love.

[Fiddlemom]

in my opinion, if you are usually quick/ responsive to him, then that is what is going to make the difference, not the one time you didn't hear him! Part of what is going on is probably that you are naturally learning to sleep better through some nighttime noise, as a result of paying close attention at night. It's just that this time, you slept a little too well! :-)

A month or two ago I had to put my 10 month old to play in the crib while I got the older child (2.75 yrs) in from the car and nursed back down for a nap. The 10 month old played quietly for about 5-10 minutes, talking to himself, then started to fuss. I was home alone and the older one was taking a while to settle and didn't want to blow the nap for the older one if I could possibly help it. Of course I felt guilty; I listened carefully but the sounds never escalated beyond a little 'annoyed' (if he'd started to really cry, I would have run to him!). Then he got quiet again a few minutes later. When I went to him (after a total of about 25 minutes), he pulled up on the crib rail very happy to see me!