Weird Jumble of Emotions..

[traci5489]

that pretty much describes me lately. I finally got a + test on Monday and have been on pins and needles ever since. I don't know how I will ever make it...I am terrified constantly that I will miscarry again, but am so thrilled and happy to be pg again too.

You ladies that have been there, any advice on how to stop being such a huge basket case?

Just for info, I miscarried in Sept. at 10 wks after trying for 11 months to get pg, my ob/gyn said she believed a viral inf. caused the miscarriage since I was one of 4 women in her medium size practice to mc at the same time (within days of each other) and the only time she has seen that in the past was with a virus.

I am trying to rationalize that it won't necessarily happen again, but I am so scared, I want this baby so much. Any advice and prayers too would be appreciated.

[SamuraiEarthMama]

well, of all the potential causes of miscarriage, it seems to me that a viral infection would be one of the least likely recurring problems.

once you start with the morning sickness, that seems to solidify things as far as believing you are really pregnant...

but as far as moving out of basket-case-mode... well, mine hasn't gone away yet and i'm a little past 10 weeks. this forum has been a good place for me to vent (thank you, ladies!), and i'd encourage you to do so as well. if it doesn't cure the craziness, it at least allows you to know you're not alone, you're very normal, and no matter what happens, everything will be OK eventually!

i think everything to do with pregnancy, including m/c, is about learning to "give it up," recognizing that we're not in control, and relaxing enough to accept what comes. this is not an easy lesson for any of us (especially control freaks like me), but it helps if you can feel there is a purpose to the craziness (instead of thinking that the universe is randomly picking on you).

i hope that helps, instead of making it worse! hang in there, be kind to yourself, and try to keep a sense of humor. that's the best i have to offer!

good luck,

k

[Jacque Savageau]

katje, very good information! I agree.

traci5489, you know there is no guarantee here, but there also dosn't seem to be any reason it would happen again. Can anyone say anything to calm your fears? Unfortunately, no.

I will say, try to stay busy. Keep involved in ouside activities. If you find yourself more housebound due to weather and such, try to do things at home to keep busy. If you have a hobby, work on that a few hours a day. Try some new recipes you've been wanting to try, finish that book you've been dying to read.

I was on bedrest with my son, so I had a lot of down time. I did a lot of reading and writing as that was about all I could do.

Remember, it is ok to feel anxious. It's perfectly normal. I hope it subsides as time goes on :hug