I am feeling so guilty. X posted in TAO

[DreamerMama]

I hope this is ok to do, but I thought some of you ladies would be able to add some insight into this.

http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=106870

[abimommy]

:hug I went through something very similar when my neice was born still a month after my dd was born. I was sort of a sobbing mess I have to admit. I couldn't cope with such a loss very well, never having been through something like that and I kind of fell into PPD after some other losses during the same time period.

It is rough, there is no way around it. Despite my tendancies towards sobbing messiness I did spend time with SIL discussing her loss and even months afterwards there was still some sobbing tendancies as we talked about her loss.

Do what you can, hold her close and offer her a shoulder to lean on. If she is fine with having your dd nearby then that's fine. My BIL and SIL wanted to see dd a lot while they were grieving so we brought her around them. People all cope differently, some want children around and others do not. Just make sure she is being completely candid with you and if she would like some one on one time then maybe try and plan something.