co sleeping question

[moma justice]

1st of all we love to cosleep, husband, baby and mommy!
LOVE IT
but we have been warned and told tons of horror stories, rolling over on, smothering, spoiling etc
we did not believe the hype.
it really works for us as a family, it just feels right, and like i above mentioned, WE LOVE IT!!!!!!
BUT
again today. a mom i really trust and like went on and on about how if you don't get them out of your bed by 3 months old they will never leave.
and then i read the other thread about the mom with the 7 and 5 year olds who even with bunk beds in the same room, STILL would not get out of the family bed!
we would not mind if laina stayed even untill she was a toddler, but we will want to have sex again someday and even just that sense of privacy, i assume.......maybe we WILL want her there until 7 but i doubt it!
anyway.
what are your experinces?
i always thought it was a personality thing, some wanted their own space earlier than others etc.....
or do they alllllllll end up wanting to stay in bed with you for ever?
AND EVER?
we may not have any more kids...so the other sibling thing probably won't be an option......
i would love to hear your experiences.......and advice!
thanks

[rlandnl]

I really can't answer you question since my son is only 7 months, but my husband and I alwys respond to the statement that he will never leave our bed that We're sure as a teenager he won't wat to be sleeping with his mom and dad. We figure we're in it for the long haul, he'll leave when he wants to. And as far as sex goes, our LR couch pulls out into a bed ;)

[Ms. Frizzle]

<<<it really works for us as a family, it just feels right, and like i above mentioned, WE LOVE IT!!!!!!>>>>
Then is doesn't matter what anyone says, does it? :)

<<<<again today. a mom i really trust and like went on and on about how if you don't get them out of your bed by 3 months old they will never leave.>>>
Even if that is true (it isn't) then who cares? Humans are not meant to sleep alone.

<<<and then i read the other thread about the mom with the 7 and 5 year olds who even with bunk beds in the same room, STILL would not get out of the family bed!>>>
There has got to be more to it, then just that.

<<<we would not mind if laina stayed even untill she was a toddler, but we will want to have sex again someday and even just that sense of privacy>>>
There are places aside from the bed that you can have sex ;)


OK my story.. my oldest co slept with us nightly till he was 3.5. After that he wanted his own bed. Dh and I decided we wanted a new bedroom set, so we gave him our old one (queen size) and we got a new one for us. Even though he said he wanted his own bed, he would not sleep in it, so he woiuld fall asleep with us, but DH would move him to his bed after he fell asleep.
If he should happen to wake up at night he was always welcome back with us. We would never,ever turn him away. It took him some 3 odd years, but he is now a wonderful sleeper. He sleeps soundly all night, and I really believe it's because he knows that if he ever needs us at night we will be there for him in a heartbeat.
We are co sleeping with out 12 month old now. He has yet to sleep a night alone and I hope he does for a few years at least.

You should pick up 'The Baby Book' By Dr. Sears. It has a GREAT sleeping section in it.