GoodWillHunter
01-09-2004, 09:16 PM
Well, the title of the thread says it all. My wonderful 2year 2month old is a biter. He has bitten his brother (Duncan) and sister (Natalie) three times in almost as many days. As he is so young, I understand it is his way of dealing with frustration, but, while I'm consoling two screaming three year olds, I need to address the problem. The problem is, he is sooooooooo difficult to discipline. Time out does not work. Spanking does not work (not at all. It only teaches him to hit... I can see that!) I've tried holding him and not letting him go untill he stops screaming in anger. That works, but with a babe on the way, I'm not sure I can keep that up.
He is very aggressive when he wants something, often just bulldozing his way and taking what he wants. I do understand that he is smaller than his older brothers and sister, but how can I discipline him when nothing seems to work. I have tried explaining it to him, but he doesn't seem to get it. I often am so angry with him, I just have to walk away, but that definitely gets his dander up. I don't blame him. My dear mother says I am too permissive, but my philosophy is often, if it doesn't endanger him or anyone or anything else, let it be (i.e., jumping on the bed, etc). Maybe I am too permissive, but I try to see the point in what he and the others are trying to accomplish. They are just little ones, anyway, and he is very well mannered when we go places. I think, as he gets more proficient in expressing himself, the biting will lessen. I do have him apologize and hug whomever he has bitten. That seems to work somewhat. Hmmmm... So, what's my point? Does anyone have some GD suggestions? TIA.
He is very aggressive when he wants something, often just bulldozing his way and taking what he wants. I do understand that he is smaller than his older brothers and sister, but how can I discipline him when nothing seems to work. I have tried explaining it to him, but he doesn't seem to get it. I often am so angry with him, I just have to walk away, but that definitely gets his dander up. I don't blame him. My dear mother says I am too permissive, but my philosophy is often, if it doesn't endanger him or anyone or anything else, let it be (i.e., jumping on the bed, etc). Maybe I am too permissive, but I try to see the point in what he and the others are trying to accomplish. They are just little ones, anyway, and he is very well mannered when we go places. I think, as he gets more proficient in expressing himself, the biting will lessen. I do have him apologize and hug whomever he has bitten. That seems to work somewhat. Hmmmm... So, what's my point? Does anyone have some GD suggestions? TIA.