my sister is losing her baby

[kaismom]

My sister is miscarrying at 7.5 weeks. It is so unbelievably sad she's had the most turbulent life and manages to keep going through things that would just knock me down flat. at 35 she fought tears at the births of my children because she's wanted a child for so long and hasn't found a partner and then unable to concieve. then finally a surprise pregnancy we couldn't believe it when the test came up positive on new years day. We were scared (no insurance) but really overjoyed. And then she started spotting yesterday it was a terrible spiral from happy to devastated. Tomarrow she goes in for more blood work to see if she needs a D&C. Because she lacks insurance they will do the minimum i suppose. She is afraid the PID she had as a young woman has scarred her uterus causing the miscarriage is there anyway they can tell?
My heart hurts for her and the little baby spirit that wanted to be hers.

[jordmoder]

Is she for sure miscarrying? Lots of women have spotting for a whole variety of reasons - not all of them lead to miscarriage.
Did she have an ultrasound to check things out?

Sending hopeful thoughts...

Barbara

[XM]

:hug to you and your sister...

She could be losing a twin. Please be sure that she gets an ultrasound before she has a D&C, to make sure this is not the case before any surgery is done. There are a few mamas here that thought they were miscarrying only to find out they were still pregnant.

If she has no insurance, Medicaid should be able to help her, depending on income. In my state she would most likely still be considered pregnant if she still tests + and would get preg medical through the state. Also, some women choose to let their bodies miscarry without help, there are threads here that can tell her what she can expect (although every woman is different of course). Some mamas find the waiting too stressful (completely understandable) and choose the D&C.

HTH... ds is being distracting. I am really feeling your love for your sister in your post, and I am so hoping that she is not losing this baby. I have known a few ladies who had scarring from PID as teens and went on to have many healthy babies. I wish the same for your sister.

XM

[kaismom]

Thankyou for your kind words and thoughts. My sister did have an us and though I wasn't there and only got info secondhand through my very distraught sister it seemed definitive. Today they will check for beta levels though I dont know what that tells them. I will go with her this time.
We did start application for medicaid as soon as we found out but here you have to have u/s showing # of babies before they process you. It makes me red hot with anger how they treat women here in this country! when she was pregnant the world opened up to here with (albeit limited) social services and then she has a miscarriage and its like they pull the rug out from under you. as if their isnt enough feelings of emptiness and loss in her heart already.