So afraid of mc

[ameliabedelia]

Hi, I am pregnant again after having a mc at 6 1/2 weeks on Christmas. I am about 5 1/2 weeks now, and I am sooooooo worried about another mc. I obsess over every little pregnancy symptom. I have like 15 pregnancy tests lined up in my bathroom, going from lightest to darkest line. I am constantly worried "are my nipples less sore, more sore," am I "less tired, more tired" etc., etc.,

How do you deal with the contast worry and fear?

Of course when I was pregnant with the mc, we told everyone right away I was pregnant, and then we had to go back and tell everyone about the mc. That was horrible. So, this time we aren't telling anyone

[davidsmama]

Amelia,
With both the last mc we told or started to tell right before we saw the "no heartbeat". My first mc I didn't even know I was pregnant! With my current preg I told my mom and my sis who has gone thru the same thing! We were barely able to wait till my 12.5 appt where we had an us and there was the little sprout squirming away and the little ticker was going like crazy!! I have never cried so much out of happiness!

But let me tell you... I am still nursing my ds and everytime he latched on i was checking to see how sore I was, some mornings i felt better and freaked out. I was a constant worry. You are a mom, you may not want to but worrying is just a part of that role! I am 15 weeks now and I can even feel the growing uterus but that hasn't stopped the worrying completely. There is still the chance, and now that worries me! I am afraid that there is no escaping it.

Just take care of yourself and treat yourself like the expectant mom that you are!:hug

[SamuraiEarthMama]

ameliabedelia, there was a recent thread on the pregnancy forum dealing with this:

why am i so worried about m/c? (http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=116741&highlight=miscarriage)

i hope you find some words of comfort and support to get you through this rough time!

believe me, once you are past your loss date, things get easier every day. honest!

warmly,

katje

[butternut]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!
It is true that the worry does somewhat subside once you get past the last loss date. Also, you may want to consider telling a close friend or family member who understands, so that you can share the joy AND worry you have right now. I remember after my first m/c not telling anyone when we got pregnant again, because like you it was so hard to tell so many people about the m/c when they knew I had been pregnant. But then my best friend, who had had many m/c said it can also be good to share the joy of the pregnancy and have an outlet for your worry by letting someone share it with you. I think she was right because I also have had pregnancies where I did not tell anyone (out of fear) and then when they did end in m/c, it felt even worse to have no one know--if this is making any sense! I mostly mean, share your joy too with someone you trust and maybe the worry will not feel so heavy.