shannon0218
03-21-2004, 05:11 PM
Hi everyone, I posted this on the pregnancy and birth loss thread as well, but I figured it would be just as pertinent here if not more so.
I'm feeling so confused, yes confused is definitely the way I feel. I have had 3 m/c, one a chemical pregnancy but the other 2 later (one at 6 1/2 weeks and one at 10 weeks) The first I miscarried naturally, the second was the chemical, the third, we had a d&c, the tissues were tested and came back normal. With the third, I'd been watched very carefully, had an U/S at 6 1/2 weeks and everything looked good, nice heartbeat, etc.
With this third one, we found an absolutley wonderful OB, she was caring, honest and spent all the time with us we needed. I trust her very much. Anyway, she has sent us to a fertility clinic. Turns out the doc who saw us is a "guru" in recurrant miscarriages, very well respected not just here but in Canada as a whole. He has begun a testing process, including cycle monitoring, HSG, saline sonohystopathy (that may not be correct) etc etc etc. Essentially the testing is going to take from 3-4 months to complete and of course he doesn't want us to get pregnant in between, even if he finds a problem earlier, in case there is more than one problem. He sortof described it to us like throwing out a big fish net and if there is anything there at all, we'll catch it.
Well, the testing process is just so all consuming and so stressfull, I have to go in for U/S and bloodwork for 8-10 days of each cycle, essentially this is going to take up 1/3 of my life for the next 3 or 4 months.
So why am I confused?? I want to know what's going on, I don't want to miscarry again. Part of it is that I know I could have all these tests done and they may not find anything wrong and we will have wasted 3 or 4 months. I know I have to heal, I know I have to take my time, but part of the healing for me is that I need to be pregnant again. The other part that really really really freaks me out is that we could find a problem, treat it and I may still miscarry for any of the usual reasons people miscarry for. KWIM???
So if you've read this far you're probably wondering what the heck I'm trying to accomplish with this post.....
I guess I'm interested in knowing if anyone else has had all this testing, did they find anything? how did you keep your sanity through it all? did you go on to have a healthy baby? did they find more than one thing wrong? what was wrong, etc.
That and I suppose I just need some support in all this to keep me from loosing it entirely. Part of me wants to start looking into adoption instead of going through the tests, another part says, just get preg again, they'll treat you for the most likely thing and hope and pray you can carry to term.
O.K. I just really don't know, can anyone keep me from going crazier than I already am??????
I'm feeling so confused, yes confused is definitely the way I feel. I have had 3 m/c, one a chemical pregnancy but the other 2 later (one at 6 1/2 weeks and one at 10 weeks) The first I miscarried naturally, the second was the chemical, the third, we had a d&c, the tissues were tested and came back normal. With the third, I'd been watched very carefully, had an U/S at 6 1/2 weeks and everything looked good, nice heartbeat, etc.
With this third one, we found an absolutley wonderful OB, she was caring, honest and spent all the time with us we needed. I trust her very much. Anyway, she has sent us to a fertility clinic. Turns out the doc who saw us is a "guru" in recurrant miscarriages, very well respected not just here but in Canada as a whole. He has begun a testing process, including cycle monitoring, HSG, saline sonohystopathy (that may not be correct) etc etc etc. Essentially the testing is going to take from 3-4 months to complete and of course he doesn't want us to get pregnant in between, even if he finds a problem earlier, in case there is more than one problem. He sortof described it to us like throwing out a big fish net and if there is anything there at all, we'll catch it.
Well, the testing process is just so all consuming and so stressfull, I have to go in for U/S and bloodwork for 8-10 days of each cycle, essentially this is going to take up 1/3 of my life for the next 3 or 4 months.
So why am I confused?? I want to know what's going on, I don't want to miscarry again. Part of it is that I know I could have all these tests done and they may not find anything wrong and we will have wasted 3 or 4 months. I know I have to heal, I know I have to take my time, but part of the healing for me is that I need to be pregnant again. The other part that really really really freaks me out is that we could find a problem, treat it and I may still miscarry for any of the usual reasons people miscarry for. KWIM???
So if you've read this far you're probably wondering what the heck I'm trying to accomplish with this post.....
I guess I'm interested in knowing if anyone else has had all this testing, did they find anything? how did you keep your sanity through it all? did you go on to have a healthy baby? did they find more than one thing wrong? what was wrong, etc.
That and I suppose I just need some support in all this to keep me from loosing it entirely. Part of me wants to start looking into adoption instead of going through the tests, another part says, just get preg again, they'll treat you for the most likely thing and hope and pray you can carry to term.
O.K. I just really don't know, can anyone keep me from going crazier than I already am??????