October Mamas: week of March 29

[Piglet68]

I'm posting this a bit early b/c I'm not sure if I'll get online tomorrow in the morning...

Roll Call :belly

momtol&a
chrissy 09/28 (honorary October mom!)
snugglebutter 10/01
mirthfulmum 10/03
FutureMama 10/04
TracyK 10/04
mhurst 10/04
kraftykathy 10/04
water 10/06
Proudly AP 10/08
allformyboys 10/11
Lucysmama 10/12
bendmom 10/12
momadance 10/13
Mandi 10/14
wannabmommie 10/18
Piglet68 10/18
BeauGeek 10/20
BeansMomma 10/20
CourtneyandLogan 10/21
ScooterMama1 10/21
EmbersMOM 10/21
Stanleymama 10/23
3boyz4us 10/24
aspiring mama 10/25
truebluexf 10/27
ameliabedelia 10/29
flitters 10/30
Soogie 10/31
AnnR33 10/31
kama'aina mama 10/31


So how are we all doing? I'm entering my 12th week. I *think* the nausea is finally dying down - this weekend was good. Went for a wonderful long walk with DH and DD Sunday and it was actually WARM out and we wore just T-shirts! Nothing like an endless winter to make you appreciate the sun!

But man, was I ever wiped out for the rest of the day!

So, time for the question of the week:

Are you "hoping" for a particular gender?

With my first, I really didn't care. I sort of thought it was a boy, and was a bit surprised to find out it was a girl. But I very quickly adjusted and now I can't imagine anything else! Which is probably why I'm really hoping for another girl. I *know* of course I'd be thrilled with either, and I'm not laying any guilt on myself. I just know that deep down, I'll be doing a big ol' happy dance if this one's a girl, too! :banana

[snugglebutter]

I am 13.5 weeks and just starting to feel a teensy bit better. Yesterday went really well. I even had a burst of energy and did some cleaning! Hopefully that nausea will go away SOON. I want a salad in the worst way! (green veggies have been out for a while)

We heard our baby's heartbeat on Friday!!!!! I was so nervous about it the entire day, but the nurse found it in less than 10 seconds - right around 145 bpm.

QOTW - We have NO preference on gender. Part of that I'm sure is because of how long TTC took us. I can imagine just wonderful things about raising a boy or a girl. We have a little feeling that we're having a boy, but I think that is more Dh than me. My stepmom says that the Chinese gender chart says boy and some necklace test a coworker had me try said boy so we will see. My side of the family hasn't had a boy in over 20 years so I think they are leaning in that direction a little.

We are having a MUCH harder time agreeing on a boy's name though. Dh was immediately ok with my girl choices, but we have a long way to go for a boy.

Hope everyone is doing well this week!

Sara
EDD 10-02-04

[ameliabedelia]

Anyone have uneven nipple sorness? My right breast is incredibly sore! My left breast is just a tiny bit sore. It has been like that almost all this pregnancy, but recently it got more pronounced. The right got sorer and the left got less sore. It is weird. I know my right breast is smaller and makes less milk than the left, so that is probably the reason. Anyone else experience one breast being sorer than the other?

QOTW. I am very certain this is a boy. I am neither hoping for a boy or a girl, I am just pretty sure it is a boy. However, if it is a girl we will be happy. Part of me wants another girl, I think it is nice to have children in pairs of sexes. Two girls, then two boys, you know! I just think they make great playmates that way! Plus, we have all girl clothes (although they are the wrong season for the most part, so we would need new clothes anyway) and I take a real peverse pleasure in dressing DD up in dresses and cute little outfits (is that bad?), so I would like another girl to use all her cute clothes again!

[mirthfulmum]

I'm not positive but I think I felt the baby kick yesterday. I was sitting at the computer working on a paper and I felt three little distinctive thumps right underneath my belly button. They did not feel like the usual gas bubbles. It really surprised me. I haven't felt anything since but the idea that I might already be able to feel the baby moving is very exciting!

QOTW: I guess because I have a son I am kind of hoping for another boy. I feel like I already know what to do with a boy. And I like the idea of my children being able to build a strong friendship (that is made a bit more difficult if they're different gendres). And to be perfectly honest, raising a girl scares me. My mother and I have a complicated relationship (which seems to be a family issue as my mother also had a strained relationship with her mom) and I am affraid of passing on the toxicity to my daughter. But despite the whole bundel of anxiety I have around having a girl, my husband really wants a daughter and we are planning on stopping at 2 kids so this is his last chance. And there is a part of me that wants him to have his little girl.

[flitters]

Good morning and happy Monday!

gosh - it's so exciting to start hearing about everyone starting to feel better and maybe even feel their babies!!!

i'm still not feeling super-excellent physically... food is rough and i've been exhausted. i'm looking forward to eating without it being a huge ordeal. and sex - i miss when it felt good (yeah, i know, i'm a bit hung up on this one - dh is so patient!).


as for gender, dh is hoping for a boy (mostly cause he's scared of teenage girls :LOL). i'm honestly completely fine either way. really no preference. for some reason so far i think it's a boy though. don't know why. i always thought i'd have a girl first, but right around when i conceived i started thinking this would be a boy and that notion seems to have stuck.


and one more thing, referring back to the last week's thread:

Originally posted by wannabmommie
She said I could AMA and I'd have to "take the responsiblity." :rolleyes: She also used the rationale that if it was *so easy to lose a baby that way, women who didn't want their babies would be doing it. :angry The same answer to sex.


what do you mean by AMA? i'm confused. and why is the hpv test such a big deal to them? (especially if your paps are always normal!)

[AnnR33]

Hi All, week 9 here and not looking forward to the nausea and vomiting with DH away on travel until Wed night :( Poor kids will end up stuck in front of the TV way more than they should be I'm afraid!! hate this part! I know I have at least a few more wks of this misery and just trying to hang in there.

Letia, I go to a general practitioner and while she prefers to do an internal at 12 wks and later optional ones at 36, 38 40 wks I told her I was going to skip it this time-I had to sign a waiver but she was fine with it. I have a tilted uterus or something and internals are always difficult and pointless really if you don't have anything they're looking for specifically. So hang in there mama!

I have a boy and girl now and I really thought my girl was a boy up until the end last time. This time I think it's another boy and have had dreams about it even before he was conceived. I'll be really shocked if it's a girl but of course, that's fine too :)
Ann

[blessed2bamommie]

:wave We're movin on through the first tri aren't we Pig? :D

I want a boy. I have always wanted a girl;but, when we lost our first son, I have gotten in boy mode. I still want a girl though. I *think its a boy. I've been praying for a boy and so is a woman in my church. I'd be surprised if we had a girl; but, I'd be happy all the same.

Amy, I'm a bit confused about the practice, as I look at the site. I was given a choice of mw or doctor. I think they must all be in one practice, even though I don't see them. :shrug They seem to be autonomous. But, I'm trying to see a diff with the prenatal care. :rolleyes: There's another practice in the area that's OB and two mws. But, the OB are low intervention, etc. A rareity.


Is flitters the only one wanting sex? :LOL No, I think there was *one more right? Dh wishes. :rolleyes: When it felt good? Does it hurt!?! :eek

Against medical advice. :rolleyes: I don't know why the HPV is a big deal either. The answer is negative! It always *has been! :splat

Sara, I did some cleaning this weekend too! Dh just looked at me in amazement, and I said haven't you seen a woman almost in her second trimester before! :LOL :shake


He's hopin I'll want to hop in the sack! :rolleyes:

:wave I think I might need a nap. I had planned to clean today; but, forgot about cycle class. :zzz

[True Blue]

Well had my appt this morning. It was so unexciting! :( We didn't try for the heartbeat since it is so early. SO basically we chatted, took history, and bloodwork. She did say I can come by in a couple weeks and listen for a heartbeat though if I want. :) So.....boring.

DH is waiting for my sex drive too. ;) I wouldn't fear flitters, it will return soon. We refer to my second trimester last time as "horny time" :LOL And gosh I think pg sex is better than non-pg sex...everything is in a constant state of engorgement, so you get turned on faster!!!

Don't really care if it's a boy or girl...boy would be easier bc we have everything. And we'll prob have a 3rd anyway so I know I don't "have" to have a girl this time. DH really wants a girl though!!

[blessed2bamommie]

I heard that second tri is better. So,there's hope? (For our dh's.) :LOL

[Piglet68]

Can't comment on the 2nd trimester sex thingy - darn it if my libido isn't sky high all the time while I"m PG. The only thing getting in the way is my sleepyness - I seem to sleep a lot, lol. But DH is a happy boy these days. Now our biggest problem is convincing DD to stay in the living room for a few minutes before we get out of bed ("I think I hear Sesame Street!! Oooh, better go see if Cookie Monster is coming?" - while DH is groping me under the covers, lol!).

wannab: I'm so happy we're almost done with trimester 1!

mirthfulmum: it's funny how we feel the same way but with opposite genders. girls are what I "know" now, and I feel like boys are so alien to me, like I'll never figure them out, lol.

lucy'smama: did you love this weekend or what?? you are right, cleveland doesn't seem so bad when it's that warm out and not a cloud in the sky!!

[3bees~1flower]

hello! i'm sooo excited! i had to work an 11p-7a shift last night (i'm an on call Ob nurse and work a couple times a month). i grabbed the doppler and had myself a little listen!! there it was thumping away at 170-180 beats per min! i listened again at the end of the shift. what an awesome sound!!


as far as sex of the baby goes, a boy would be the easiest beings this will be our last one and having to get a whole new wardrobe if it were a girl sounds overwhelming, but of couse we would take a girl...dh wants another boy...my older boys want a little sister in the worst way, so i guess if i were to answer the question of what do *I* want, i'd have to say a girl so my older boys can have their little sister. but they understand that whomever we get will be exactly who God wanted us to have. i would be totally happy with another little boy. i don't why i feel this one *could* be a girl...the pregnancy has been quite different then the boys'...plus the HR seems way higher then theirs was at 10 wks, but i'll ask my dr when i see him on the 15th of april what the others were at 10 wks.

in the libido dept, well, i have NONE! i'm a little anxious about the thought of it since i had that spotting earlier and i told this to dh, plus i can't stand the boob/nipple fondling, they just feel like exposed nerve endings and any attention just doesn't do anything for me.

someone asked about obsession of pregnancy if it wasn't your first....well, this is my fourth and it is as fascinating and exciting to me as my first was, and i am every bit as obsessed about things being ok as i have with all the others. if i had 12 they would all be just as exciting and fascinating as the first, it's such an awesome think to experience!

just wondered if anyone else had COPIOUS amts of CM? man, it seems like a lot. and if it's mot TMI, what color is yours...mine is yellow...when i think of yellow, i think of infection, but there is no odor to it at all. sorry if this is TMI!

[blessed2bamommie]

:LOL Carrie, I tell ya bout the boobs. If he *did get lucky they would *surely be off limits! :shake


The NP said that the CM would increase, btw. Seems like Taking Charge of Your Fertility mentions cm can be yellow. Butl, keep checkin, you know your body and make sure an infection doesn't slide by.


Do I want fries with ranch dressing again?

OK! *I have a question! I can think of no way to explain it and I'm in *no way tryin to rag on ADD patients. But, I know what it is being a teacher and I feel like I have it when it comes to decidin what I want to eat! OK, for instance, today, I wanted salad, then pasta, and I call my mama's best friend tryin to figure out how to make *half of this frozen block of ground,and now my friend mentions fries with ranch dressing and I'm :angry at her! I think I want them now! I think I'm *over the pasta! :shake

[flitters]

hahahha, here is what i got at the grocery store on saturday:

frozen cheeze blintzes
salt and vinegar pringles
cream cheese (for pringle dipping)
a salami (which normally i dislike!)
apples
eggo waffles
blueberry muffin mix

dh makes fun of me cause basically i like something (salami for example) for all of 1 sitting, then it's left in the fridge for him to eat.

i seem to have caught a cold. i don't feel particularly bad but my nose is a faucet and my temperature regulation just seems a bit off... i feel slightly chilled. i should probably go drink a load of juice.

and as for sex, yeah, actually it does kind of hurt.

warning: TMI starting here.

i noticed i wasn't enjoying it as per usual during my luteal phase but it wasn't until about 14dpo that it started feeling unpleasant... kind of that feeling like he just pushed my insides into my throat. most recently that seemed a bit better but it actually felt a little abrasive on the front inside wall of my vagina... and it sort of was stinging for a few minutes after. i dunno, it just doesn't feel particularly good. oh, and yeah, my boobs are SO not interested in being played with. i hope this gets better soon! :D

[blessed2bamommie]

ugh! Sounds like the abrasiveness could be a lube issue, which you would have to supplement until the copious CM starts?

[sqoya]

Hey Piglet, can you add me to the list? Thanks! :) I'm due 10/14! I'm so excited we're moving through the first trimester!

QOTW: No, we definitely don't care whether it's a boy or girl. At first, we thought we'd try for a specific gender, using a timing method that worked for most of my friends, but then we couldn't decide if we wanted a boy or girl! lol!

Wannab, and Sara, I'm so jealous that you cleaned! I look at my messy house, and watch my husband put things away and do laundry (where does this go? do you wash this on cold or hot?) and I am dying to clean!!! Thought I'd never say that! :p

Hope everyone's feeling better soon!

[Court]

Hey everyone! I'm in the middle of the 11th week and feeling fine. The weather was perfect today, in the 70's, so we had a long day out.

ameliabedelia- I've got the uneven nipple soreness too! Only it's the left side that's worse. My left side has always made less milk, so that may be it. Ds probably works at it harder which makes it hurt more(?) maybe?

And I think we would like another boy, well mainly dh would, probably cause he grew up w/ 2 sisters and he wants Logan to have a brother to romp around with. I think girls can romp around just like the boys though, so I don't really care as long as it's healthy.

Last night I think I felt a definite baby movement, too. I was doing the dishes and I felt a swirly, squirly flutter right where my uterus is. I know for sure it wasn't gas. It made me happy - like the baby was saying, "hey mama I'm here!"

Dh says he's having sympathy hunger for me. All weekend he was raiding the fridge complaining of being hungry all the time. He also called me today saying he was so hungry he was dizzy, which is usually my thing. Our grocery bill has gone way up, we seem to be making big trips to the store every other day.

lol about the salami - I only buy that when I'm pregnant apparently. Cheese blintzes sound so good right now. Gotta go eat! take care mamas!

[Lucysmama]

GRRRR! I just typed out a novel and lost it!!! I will try to briefly sum it up!

I heard the heartbeat today!!!! It was galloping along at 160bpm! My mw started the use the doppler up high..and I moved the doppler down right to where I thought the baby was...and there was the beating! I was so proud that I knew right where my baby was! :love

My mw visit was 2 and a half hours long!!! :eek We sat on the couch at her house, had tea, and just talked. I kept my clothes on the entire time, and my mw was so warm and sweet. She showed me how to do the iron check and urine check myself. I told her I didn't want to be weighed or discuss weight gain at all and she said, "Ok, whatever you are comfortable with is fine with me." That is pretty much her mantra. :)

THEN, to top off the great day, my dh took me out to a celebratory dinner at the BEST locally-owned restaraunt - A hibachi joint where they cook on the table. It's my favorite. I had a 4 course feast. MMMMMMMMMMMMMMM! It was amazing!

Hope you ladies are feelin' groovy! :hippie

[juliemaye]

Hi ladies,

I am 12 weeks tomorrow...YAY!!!

It's funny, I didn't think I would care what the sex is, but lately I have been wanting a girl badly...I would be happy with either though.

I don't have any sex drive either...poor dh...I try to get in the mood every once in a while for him but it is hard. Hopefully that will change soon.

[momto l&a]

:banana

I have the sex drive! of course this is the sex drive that made my dh wish I would leave him alone for just one night, it is also the drive that got me this surprise pregnancy. LOL

Because of my terrible evening sickness we can only have sex in the morning and I normally hate having it then.

I had my second mw appoinment last week, we tried to hear the heartbeat but 20 seconds doesnt give you much time. My mw will only use the doppler for 20 seconds because of the safety concerns to the baby. Wasnt as happy with this visit as I have been in the past. I have used this midwife for both of my other pregnancies. She is letting her helper do most of the checking on things and such. I also felt she was rushing us.Maybe she figures I dont need her as much as a newby being this is my third time throught this with her. Oh well still much better than going to a dr. Maybe it was just one of those off days we all have.

Think I will 12 weeks on Thursday. Close enough for me. I have always known my dates of conception and all that stuff so it kinda fun having a surprise:LOL

[Piglet68]

I heard the heartbeat today, too! :banana

Had a long first visit with my OB today. He's so sweet - he hugged me, lol. And he was totally cool that I was still nursing DD. His only advice was to eat lots - oh yeah, I'll be having a hard time following that advice, NOT!

flitters: your shopping list made my mouth water. I had pringles this weekend too. me and DD were totally flaked out on the sofa and suddenly I had to get up and go to the store. got pringles, a twix bar, and six little donuts. YUM.

My fave preggo snack are veggie chips! They are expensive though, so I try to limit them. But payday is tomorrow so I'm gonna go stock up! :D

flitters, your experience with sex sounds exactly like mine after I gave birth to DD. definitely a hormone thing!

momtol&a: my DH actually *complained* last PG that I was wanting sex too much. what a joke! he swears he will NEVER complain about that again, lol. it was a long time after baby before he got any! :D

Mandi: I added you, welcome!!

Oh, one more thing, because I'm an "older" mama now (36) I get to have an early U/S. I'm going in two weeks and very excited b/c I love seeing the baby!! Dh and DD are going to come and maybe DD will start to understand there's a baby in there!

[ameliabedelia]

Congrats Carrie on hearing the hb. I am jealous, I want to just sneak a listen whenever I want!

I am tons and tons and tons of CM. Tons of it, I practially have to wear a pad, I don't but I probably should!

Ok, this may be TMI, but anyone else stuggling with leaky bladder, you know when you sneeze or cough! UGH!! I hate that so much, sooo annoyingl.

As far as sex goes, before pregnancy we were at 2x/week, now we are at about 1x/week. I am not really wanting it, but once we get started, I enjoy it KWIM. Sometimes I want it (like 1x/week and the rest of the time I don't care. The hardest thing, is I am sooo tired all the time. I don't think I have even stayed up to 9:00 PM in weeks (how SAD is that!). I always fall asleep while putting DD to sleep. Of course, because I go to bed to early, I wake up at 4:00 AM absolutely famished! That is annoying. I NEVER eat in the middle of the night, except when pregnant obviously.

Lucysmama, I am also doing the no weight checks with my midwife. I hate checking weight, it is bad for my psycologically to worry about it (past eating disorders) and I just dont' feel it is important.

[blessed2bamommie]

So many appointments! :D I'm supposed to go for an exam :rolleyes: with the NP, since the MWs weren't available next week. I *hope the practice I have a call into will call me back today! :( This is the first day of the coordinators work week, so I'm not so sure. Not yet....I *really want that one to be a good fit and I will go to my *third practice, and I *still have to move! :shake

[Piglet68]

Originally posted by ameliabedelia
The hardest thing, is I am sooo tired all the time. I don't think I have even stayed up to 9:00 PM in weeks (how SAD is that!). I always fall asleep while putting DD to sleep. Of course, because I go to bed to early, I wake up at 4:00 AM absolutely famished!

This is EXACTLY what happens to me. I fall asleep with DD almost every night and am rarely up past 9 pm. I, too, wake up at around 4 am almost *every bloody morning* and I'm also starving. But...I'm also so tired that I can't drag myself out of bed (except to stumble to the bathroom). I just want to go back to sleep but then I have this recurrent insomnia (just since being PG) and it takes me forever. So I lie there desperately trying to fall back asleep, meanwhile my stomach is complaining FEED ME!!

[stanleymama]

HI all:wave I am checking in for the week. Had a great weekend. I met a bunch of mamas off of diaperpin--so fun!!! We met at one girl's house and have fun sharing our stash and chatting about diapers. Then dh's sister and her family were here visiting and we always have a blast! We let them know about the wonderful news and they were so happy for us:D

M/S is decreasing and i am starting to get some energy back. It is so nice to be feeling better--at least most of the time.

QOTW- Since we have 3 boys it would be nice to have another one since we have everything and I like the idea of the number being even so they can pair up to play. Yet a little girl would be just as much a treat. But if we have a girl dh wants to try for another one shortly after and I don't know if I am up to possibly having 5 under the age of 5. This one will make it 4 under the age of 4. When it comes down to it---I will be happy with whatever God chooses to bless us with.

[kama'aina mama]

I had forgotten how uh, vaginally aware I feel in early pregnancy. Morning sickness hasn't been too bad so I can't complain about that.

Still trying to get hold of my desired (I think ) midwife. Already struggling with testing/ technology issues. I had basically decided no U/S unless specifically called for, including dopler. My OB (who I have seen once and will keep up with as backup) wants to use dopler at my 13 week appointment to confirm heartbeat. I'm not sure how much longer I will have to wait to confirm with a fetascope and I am really holding off telling Bonnie til we have a heartbeat. Dilemma.

The other is that she (my OB) mentioned that she recommends a U/S to look at the heart at around 22 weeks (I think) to check for a few admittedly rare anomolies. The reason being there is no place in the islands they can properly treat these problems so they usually recommend you go to the mainland to birth if they are present. Something to consider, I guess. She is very good about getting on the same page right off about many of the tests. She seemed as little interested in an amnio as I am, to be honest, despite my advanced years.. I'm 38 and will probably have a birthday before giving birth. If I wasn't planning a homebirth I think I would be very happy to birth with her. She was definetly listening to me at our first appointment.

Anyhoo... how do I get on the weekly roll call? I'm due halloween-ish.

[OakEmber]

Hello all. Piglet can you add me too?

I am almost 11 weeks now, still very exhausted but having much less food issues (hunger has stricken). It's nice to see that others are indulging in the not so great treats, LOL....normally I eat mostly organic whole grain cereals and breads but since getting pregnant all I want is old familiars like Rice Krispies and Corn Flakes and occasionally Honeycombs (to the pleasure of my DD because I never by sugary cereals....still won't let us eat them for breakfast, has to be an afternoon snack).

As for what we'd like...I am really not sure but I have a funny story. I was always convinced that my next would be a boy and was pretty sure I was carrying a boy when I had a m/c in Nov. (DD said it was a boy too). Then my sister said something about maybe I was having a hard time getting pregnant because I was expecting a boy and a girl was supposed to be coming so I went "hmmm" and low and behold, got pregnant again. DD says it is a girl this time. I am just really curious to know what the plan is for my family, so to speak. This may be our last so in a way it would be nice to have one of each but on the other hand I'd really like Ember to have a sister. And because we have a 2 brm house a girl would mean we wouldn't outgrow it as fast, though we'll probably want more room sooner or later anyways.

Amie mommy to Ember(Nov.6/00) and EDD Oct.21

Oh yeah and we are going for an u/s on Friday which will be exciting!

[momadance]

Hello to all and welcome to the new folks listed on the thread!
Lucysmama: wow a date with your DH! I'm so jealous, it's been about hmmm a YEAR!!!!!!!

QOTW: At the start of this I "knew" I wanted a girl, now I honestly don't care! We had a girl name picked out right away and that made me believe we would be having one (plus some dreams) but on Sunday after our UU service a boy name hit me so strongly and it's the one! so we shall see what grows in there sometime in Oct!

I have had lots of CM.

Sex? WHat's that? When preg. with Miles we were fiends, now it's the last thing on my mind...

As far as movement goes I've been feeling my little phishy swimming around for about a week and a half!
:love

Flitters your grocery list made me gag! SALAMI? Yikes!:LOL

I shouldn't talk though, I've been into seaweed and veggie sushi way more then usual. My ds thinks that's pretty:gross

:bolt

[mirthfulmum]

Ohhhhhh!!!! Honeycombs! I want some!!!! When pregnant with Alias I would eat these HUGE bowls of Honeycombs. I could go through a box in a matter of days. Yummy. I know what I'll be sending my husband out for this evening :wink.

Okay it's official. We are really and truly having a baby! I am at 13 weeks and 2 days and we heard the heart beat today. 155 bpm and sounding great! I am just so thrilled. And the baby is right where I had been feeling movement. I am so thrilled! I think that having gone through 2 miscarriages I have a constant feeling of waiting-for-the-other-shoe-to-drop until the first trimester is officially over. But now I feel like I can now totally relax and enjoy this preganacy. And only ten minutes ago I felt several thumps and swishes in the same general area where we found the heart beat. It's as if the liitle babe is letting me know that he/she is here to stay.

[Piglet68]

kama'aina and EmbersMOM I added you to the list. Welcome!! :love

honeycombs....mmmmmmmm!

Just when I thought the nausea was gone, both yesterday and today I've felt it. The worst thing is, it's happening with one of my former "fave" foods.

DH makes this wonderful curried lentil dish that we eat with rice. It's been a staple of ours, and my "comfort food". Well, ever since I've been PG, the thought of it makes me so queasy. He made it twice as a "treat" and both times I had to say no. Well, I told him this weekend that it seemed my nausea was gone, so what did he do? He made a big batch!! I had to bring some to work with me this morning b/c I didn't want to hurt his feelings, but I think it's gonna end up in the garbage. Just thinking about it is making me feel sick. Ugh, when will this end?!

I need to bitch some more (yeah, I'm not done yet, lol): last night was the worst insomnia ever. I woke at 2 am and didn't get back to sleep until dawn, then DD woke up and that was that. I'm so tired I can hardly think right now. I've never experienced this before. I pray this is just a 1st trimester thing. Whaaa...

:zzz :zzz :zzz :zzz

[blessed2bamommie]

heeeeeeeeeeeey, I was up before you! I watched a bit of Dantes Peak and then Mad about You at 1:30 and Flashdance, wow! was it sanitized on TNT! until 4. (I needed to see that version in elementary school when I saw it :blush) Then the high brow Babysitter Seduction came on, and I was out. That was after 4 am. :zzz

I have strayed from my natural/organic ways too. :shake I wanted hot dogs like when we were kids with bunker hill canned chili and I've also eaten Campbells Chicken n Rice. I *hated canned soup! :shake

[Wabi Sabi]

I still haven't decided between an OB/CNM/or a homebirth with a direct entry MW. In the meantime, I'm continuing to see my gynecologist (but he stopped providing OB care last year) who has agreed to see me until I decide.

The particular doctor used to be the backup doctor for the local homebirthing midwives until he entered semi-retirement last year. He's a pretty progressive and cool guy in general, so imagine how surprised I was today when he seemed to try to persuade me to consider using the a CNM at the hospital instead of a homebirth! He didn't say anything negative, but you could tell that he wasn't too keen on the homebirth idea. Maybe he knows something about the DEMs in my area that I don't? After all, he's always been considered to be the most midwife-friendly doctor in town...Sigh.

Anyhow, since I didn't know exactly how far along I am (lost track when I had my last period) I had an ultrasound today to get a better idea of where I am. My preliminary guess was that I was about 10 weeks along, which would make my EDD towards last week or so of October. I guess my dates were off, because the baby measured at 12w4d! That moves my EDD all the way up to October 9th!

Seeing the baby flutter and flip around was wonderful! I was surprised at just how active the little thing is! We also got to hear the heartbeat, which was reassuring. :love

Wow, this means that I'm already at the end of the first trimester, doesn't it? :thumb I can't wait until I start to really "show."

[Jillerina]

Hi, I am Laurel and am in my 13th week. I've had a rough start to this pregnancy but things are looking up now. I found out I was pregnant in the ER while I was going through the hell of a ruptured appendix. I ended up hospitalized for 10 days and recovering at home for an additional 2 weeks or so. Thank goodness the pregnancy has stuck and I am now confident I'm taking this babe to term!

My DD Clara is almost 21months old and and boy does she wipe me out. It is hard to keep up when you are feeling so sluggish and bloated. But, like I said things are getting better all the time now. I'm getting some energy back and the weather is getting nice which lifts my spirits immeasurably.

About the question of the week, I guess I am secretly hoping for a girl because that is what I know but I do have this strange feeling that I'm carrying a boy. Whatever really - DH originaly hoped for a boy when we were pg with Clara but quickly changed his mind once he had his little girl. Now he wants a girl again this time!

Well, I hope everyone is feeling well today and that all of you dealing mith MS are managing to keep something down!

BTW I'm offially due on October4th but I think the date is off and maybe should be a little earlier (I know, wishful thinking!).

[momadance]

Well, I met with a new midwife today. We clicked the second she walked in the door. I'm very pleased. My friend has used her twice and nothing but good things. The hosp. she delivers at has only 6 rooms and tubs and she's been there forever. I'm really feeling good about it.

Someone had asked in another thread if I would considder a DEM after my super sucky first appointment last week. The 2 in my area that I would go with will be out of town together at a MW's convention in Portland from Oct. 8 till the 22. I'm due the 13th.
Plus financialy it wouldn't work out. We could do it, but then I'd have to forgo my massages, doula, limit my chiro care which is just not an option, and all the other small expenses that add up when you're pampering and nurturing a big prego body.

Unfortunately homebirth is A legal in my state and not covered by medicaid. I'm ok with it though. I was super disapointed at first.

Looks like I'm still ok w/ a water birth though if it's in the cards.:D

[True Blue]

I have been feeling strangely good the past couple days, though I dare not get excited yet, at 10 weeks I could still have some more rough days ahead. But I'm enjoying it while I can!! Still not getting sleep, I have the insomnia, DS has had some rough nights (I think his last 2 molars are working there way in, thank goodness we are about done with all that!!), and darn it all if I just can't stop peeing all night!! Seriously, is this normal? Last night for example, I went to bed at 9 (so peed right before), peed at 11, 2, 4, then about ready to burst when I got up at 8:30. And each time there is quite some volume. Oh and I limited fluid last night, last time I drank was a glass of water at dinner at 6pm, and then like 2 sips each time I peed to wet my mouth.

[Piglet68]

I feel like a new woman today: I actually slept ALL NIGHT!! :banana

I decided to see if maybe my insomnia was related to going to bed so early, even though, when I wake in the middle of the night, I am still very tired. So last night I went to bed at 10. I was so tired I almost felt ill, but man did I sleep! I still woke up a couple times to nurse DD and go pee, but I fell right back asleep again. I felt so good this morning for the first time in ages!!

I also had a very romantic and sexy dream about "BIG" from Sex and the City (Chris Noth), LOL.

[mirthfulmum]

Piglet - you know the exact same thing happens to me. If I fall asleep before 10. No matter how tired I am, I am up in the midle of the night, unable to sleep for a couple of hours. It's hard sometimes to force myself to stay awake but it's worth it when I can get a decent nights sleep.

Other than being contantly tired, I am feeling pretty good. The nausea's gone, the heart burn's gone and I'm feeling little swoshes and thumps almost daily now. I keep trying to explain to Alias that mommy has a baby in her tummy and that he is going to have a little borther or sister but he just laughs and looks at me as though I'm crazy. We are hoping that if we bring Alias to the midwife appointments and the ultrasound that it'll help him better understand that a new person will be comming into our family. Although can a 2 year old (Alias will be a few months shy of 2 and a half when the baby comes) really understand the idea of a new person growing in his mommy's tummy?

[Piglet68]

mirthfulmum: yeah, DD pretty much looks at me the same way when I try to explain there's a baby in my tummy, lol. She'll be coming to the U/S in two weeks, but I really don't think it's going to sink in yet. I am, however, going to buy a couple of books from the attachments catalog site that are about becoming a big brother/sister. Since DD is soooo into books I'm sure this will at least plant the idea in her head!

btw, mirthful: are you birthing in a hospital? if so, which one? We are thinking bout moving back to Van before this baby is born (oh, crossing fingers and toes!!!!!).

[True Blue]

Hey Piglet...got a link for that store? I need something for DS and the local bookstore's books are all a bit ahead of him, or specify baby brother or sister (which we won't know til baby gets here!) :) Thanks!!

Good luck sleeping. Unfortunately, my main waking cause is still DS and peeing. LOL :rolleyes:

[ScooterMama1]

Hello all...

I am finally checking back in after a busy week!

QOTW: I go back and forth on wanting a girl and wanting a boy. We already have clothes for a boy (although they are the wrong season...) and that would make things a bit easier. It would also be fun to have a little girl (cute girly clothes, etc.). It might be nice to have a girl and a boy, but two boys would probably play together nicely too! Obviously, I am undecided and will be thrilled with a healthy baby of either sex.

Originally posted by mirthfulmum
Although can a 2 year old (Alias will be a few months shy of 2 and a half when the baby comes) really understand the idea of a new person growing in his mommy's tummy? [/B] I don't know how much they understand, but I know my ds (21 months) is starting to figure something out... Ever since I started being really uncomfortable with having ds sit on/lean on my tummy I have been telling him about the baby. Both dh and I call new baby peanut and so does ds. We got a board book from the library (that goes through big belly and delivering a baby... it is really basic) and ds really has responded to it. Now he kisses my belly (saying hello peanut!) and is much more gentle with me. This was very important to me because he still sleeps with us and I didn't want to have to move him out of our bed because of his gymnastics.

I am finally starting to feel better! (11 weeks today) :) I was wondering if my nausea would ever go away. I just got my first burst of pregnancy energy today, which I really welcomed after being absolutely exhaused until now. Hopefully this will continue for a while.

It is good to read everyones posts. Hope you are all feeling well today! :hugs

Pamela

[flitters]

hi ladies!

welcome to those just joining in and it's so good to hear as more people start to feel better!

actually, yesterday at 9w4d there was a major improvement in my morning sickness too! (quite a relief after not being able to eat dinner at all the night before). i really haven't been nauseated today either which is great! i've definitely lost a pound or 2 in the last month but my tummy is slightly round now and i'm confident that sproglet is not getting deprived!

unfortunately though i caught a cold - probably just a bit run down from not resting enough the last few weeks. mostly it's just congestion and i think it's on the way out now. interesting though how i feel stretching up my sides starting around my ovaries every time i blow my nose or sneeze.

anyway, i'm SUPER excited for my appointment tomorrow! i have another list of questions for my midwife and i do hope we listen for the heart even though one day shy of 10 weeks on the early side.

:love :grouphug :love

[Lucysmama]

Just wanted to throw this in:

My 26 month old totally and completely understands this whole pregnancy and baby thing. She is telling EVERYONE that "Mommy has a baby in her tummy, and then Mommy will push the baby out through a hole in her yoni!" She pats my tummy and says, "Hi baby in the tummy." :love

We have been reading "Welcome with Love", "A Child is Born" and a few others...and we watched a few homebirth videos.

Give your toddlers a few months, they may be able to grasp it better! :thumb

[OakEmber]

Hey Mirthfulmom and Piglet68...I just realized that you two are also BCer's (at least at heart right Piglet?). I am in the Okanagan.

Piglet68, you mentioned that you might move back here before you have the baby, did you know that Midwifery is covered in BC by medical now? Not sure how long you have been gone for. Just thought it might be something that interests you. I am seeing a midwife in Kelowna...not sure how easy it is to find one in Van but here although they are very busy (there are only two currently) I haven't had a problem getting into see each of them.

Amie mommy to Ember (3) and EDD Oct.21

[mirthfulmum]

EmbersMOM - :wave hello fellow BCer! It's always nice to have a few of us around.

Piglet - If you are hoping to have the baby in Vancouver call the midwives here right away! I can PM you the numbers for the clinics in town. Midwives fill up so fast and it would really suck if you had to settle for whatever OB was on duty the day you went into labour.

Funny you should ask about the location of the birth. Alias was born at BC Women's (also with a midwife) and we had a great experience there. I was 100% convinced that I was going to have this little one at BC Women's as well. Well the thing is that my midwife (or should I say midwives as they work in teams of two) are telling me that I am the perfect candidate for a home birth and am I sure that I want a hospital birth? You see my labour with my son was pretty fast. Hard labour to complete dialation was only 4 hours. And typically you cut that time in half with your second birth. So my midwives are kind of hinting that we might not even make it the hospital anyway. They've told us that we should buy a few home birth supplies just in case. I am nervous about the idea of birthing at home. I tend to be one of those people how imagines the worst case scenario, and also the idea makes my husband nervous. He just wants there to be immediate medical care available if necessary. We needed it with Alias as he was born blue so his nervousness is not totally unwarranted. So to answer your question Piglet... I don't know :confused:.

And lastly, thanks for the book suggestions. I'll start shopping around soon.

[blessed2bamommie]

Originally posted by Lucysmama
"Mommy has a baby in her tummy, and then Mommy will push the baby out through a hole in her yoni!"

:laugh: She *definately does* understand doesn't she! And if anyone else doesn't she can set em straight!

[ameliabedelia]

I think I need to try that staying up late thing. Lately I have been having the same middle of the night insomnia.

Lucysmom, I can't believe how verbal your dd is. My dd is just 2 weeks younger, and she is no where near that verbal. We try to tell her there is a baby in mommy's tummy, but I don't think she understands quiet yet. I am really hoping she gains some understanding before the baby is born, and that we can also help her understand that the baby is going to get nursies too. She is very possessive of her nursies (if DH goes anywhere near them, she flips out), so we really need to talk to her about it and help her understand.

We need to get some books too, although we have been reading "Author's Baby" a lot lately. That has been her favorite book recently, so maybe she does understand more than we give her credit for. :)

Glad all you ladies are starting to feel better, that is wonderful.

[Piglet68]

truebluexf: the website is www.attachmentscatalog.com and check out their board books section. They have some lovely AP-type books for big-siblings-to-be

Mirthful: that is really exciting that you are a good candidate for a home birth!!!! Wow...you should go for it.

I'm a repeat C/S so I'm heading for hospital and an OB. I hear BC Women's is one of the best, but from all acounts most of the hospitals in Vancouver are very BFing friendly and up with the times. I gave birth to DD in Boston, MA and the hospital was fabulous: I got to be with her right after they sewed me up (during which time she was in DH's arms) and able to BF right away, etc. Rooming-in was the encouraged standard and nobody gave me flack for her sleeping in my bed, c-section drugs and all, lol. All the nurses were well-trained in BFing and very supportive. My friend gave birth at Lions Gate (on the North Shore) via C/S and had the very same wonderful experience. I believe Vancouver hospitals have excellent BFing rates, so I'm staying positive! :love

[Piglet68]

I just had to add this positive post that's been in my head all day...

Something I am just LOVING about being PG right now, and nursing is that I can EAT AND EAT AND EAT AND EAT....lol

I am addicted to our cafeteria's chicken fingers. I eat peanut butter on rice cakes, huge bowls of organic cheerios (great source of folic acid!), DH cooks a wonderful whole-foods homemade meal for dinner every night. I snack constantly. I am just non-stop eating and have only gained 2.5 lbs (normal PG gain).

I was loving it with nursing but now it's like a license to eat all the time, LOL. I am trying to enjoy this stage of my life to it's fullest b/c I just know when the nursing and babymaking is over, I'll be back to watching my sweets intake, but for now it's

HELLO CALORIES!! :love :love :love

[mirthfulmum]

Piglet - FYI St. Paul's does not allow rooming in for C-section births. BC Women's does.

[kama'aina mama]

I haven't told Bonnie yet (she is 3 1/2) but we got a book at the library last week called " When you were inside Mommy" by Joanna Cole. I liked it because it is a good introduction to the idea of where babies come from, has some great drawings, but focuses on her for now. So when I tell her there is a baby in me I think it will make sense to her.

Oh... and she did recently learn that babies come out of mommy's yoni, not her mouth as she suspected.

[Lucysmama]

Originally posted by kama'aina mama

Oh... and she did recently learn that babies come out of mommy's yoni, not her mouth as she suspected.

:LOL :LOL :LOL
That is so funny!!! It's so interesting to hear what kids' perceptions are.

:OT Amelia- my dd talks non-stop, all day. She is the biggest jabbermouth I have ever met. She is really really obsessed with books, and I think that is why she is so verbal. We read about 5-6 hours a day, and she would like to do much more!!! As a result, her motor skills aren't all that great - she can't take an article of clothing on or off, and she's kind of a little klutz. :love She may fall down a lot, but she'll get right up and tell me how it happened, why it happened, and how it felt. My mom says I was the same way...

She informed me today that the baby will have a yoni, and NOT a lingham (penis), and that she wants a baby sister named Clementine. :rolleyes: I said, "Ummmm...we'll see." She said, "Yeah, cause it's really a surprise."

So, is not knowing the gender killing anyone else?!?!? We don't plan to find out, as we are not having any u/s, but not knowing is sooooo rough for us! I don't care too much either way, but it's driving me nuts already.

[blessed2bamommie]

a lingham? Never heard that one!

Yeah...I really want to know...I have been praying and I believe its a boy; but, what if I'm surprised? :eek Sooooooo....resisting buying boy stuff. :( I have sent dh the Mothering.com article on ultrasound. He's still holding onto the cultural expectation of the womb peek. And...of course, IRL folks are asking about u/s. :rolleyes: Gender neutral shopping is not as fun.

I've got a hair appointment too; by the grace of God, b/c she has a full afternoon. I should scrape myself off this couch and go take back my book that I had before I got pg. :blush and get Peggy's Having a Baby Naturally that's on hold for me so I can read it! :D

Yall reading anything good about birth and pregnancy?

[AnnR33]

I'll be 10 wks tomorrow and the m/s is not getting better yet-aarrgg! I'm so sick of wretching and I hate looking at the toilet now-LOL Even with all this barfing I know I've gained weight and have not stepped on the scale-I'm afraid :)

My 5 yr old got a hold of my Sheila Kitzinger complete bk of childbirth and he is fascinated with the childbirth pics. We've talked about how the baby comes out of the mommy's vagina and he said "yuck, that looks pretty ugly" He he
After a few days of discussion he went to preschool and told the kids where the baby comes out and a few more details he saw in the book (not sure what?) I guess there was quite a heated discussion between some of the kids-LOL I bet the teacher was loving me that day! Luckily it's a Montessori so she has to talk about "real" things and said my DS was right and they could talk to their parents about it later.
He really loves talking to my belly and comes up with new names each week-we've had Charlie, tiko, moola, and yuni.....He's very creative....
My 2 yr old just says the baby is coming out when she's Cinderella at Halloween!

Wanted to let those of you that have options for childbirth that you are very lucky!! Here in hobunk Iowa homebirth is technically illegal though it certainly happens. But midwives cannot be licensed or anything. I've 2 friends that had homebirths in the last yr but their midwife was from almost an hr away and they had a heck of time getting a birth cert. There are only 2 hospital midwives in my area but they are at a university learning hosp about 30 min away and no way am I going there-everyone's a science experiment for the med students!
The closest birthing ctr is 1.5 hrs away so we just have 2 hospitals here. Though they do have very nice birthing one rm suites with whirlpools and the babyies are encouraged to room in.
Luckily I have a great family dr so don't have to mess with OB practices with a zillion drs and you never know who you'll get. Mine is pretty progessive compared to others and never argues with me when I throw her an alternative treatment or method so that's good.

Enough rambling....
Have a great weekend
Ann

[Piglet68]

Originally posted by mirthfulmum
Piglet - FYI St. Paul's does not allow rooming in for C-section births. BC Women's does.

Wow. I'm shocked. Definitely good to know, thanks!

Btw, having not birthed in BC yet, do you get to choose your hospital (based on your choice of OB I would assume) or do you have to birth closest to where you live?

Man, in the US it is soooo sweet. They actively try to recruit your business. The hospital in Boston where I birthed DD had ONLY private rooms, we had little fridges in our rooms so DH could bring me lots of fresh fruit, juice, etc. They had a snack bar room with toast and all sorts of munchies...that's what a consumer-driven health care system does, lol.

I don't know how you women do it, not knowing the sex, lol. I can't wait to find out. I'd go crazy not knowing!

[flitters]

choo choo choo choo choo

"like a very small train"

our wonderful midwife estimated the heart to be going strong around 150 - 160 beats per minute.

dh and i are just SO excited. he even said he was surprised at how excited he was to hear the heart and he hadn't expected to get all fluttery. i almost burst into tears. it was incredible.

our appointment was great. besides listening to the heartbeat, our midwife answered lots of questions, took some blood and gave us loads of info. i really adore her and am extremely confident in her care. she is so informed and just radiates kindness, wisdom and experience.

choo choo choo choo choo

[OakEmber]

My midwife wanted me to have a dating u/s because I only had two periods after my m/c. The u/s jumped my due date up to Oct.15 from Oct.21, although I haven't talked to her to see if she will change it now but I assume she will since she did want one for that purpose. Makes sense in a lot of ways too as I thought the sperm would have had to have hung around for quite a few days because we BD long before I *thought* I O'd (and only twice so I didn't even think we hit it at all, LOL). I guess there is still a margin of error of 4 days I've read , but between 8-12 weeks or so is most accurate for dating, right? The whole purpose is really because I want a homebirth and it has to happen in a certain window so she wanted an exact date. So I went in thinking I was 11w1d and they said 12w0d. It's nice feeling like I've instantly graduated out of my first trimester!

Makes sense too that I have been feeling a little less tired, I even cooked and actual meal last night...not a cheater meal, LOL. And I have kicked over from queasy to hungry. And I don't feel so bad about wearing maternity pants, LOL.

It was really great to see the baby and the heartbeat (which was 146). It makes it seem real now, having had a m/c I am a bit more leary this time. Dh was there and Dd too, Dd was thrilled! I don't know if I will go back for the 18 week one, once seems like enough to me unless a true need arises.

It'll be nice if I have the baby around early to middle of Oct. Ember's birthday is Nov.6 and initially I was worried they'd be really close, it'd be nice to have a couple weeks between them (of course it's not the end of the world if that happens though). My EDD with Ember was Nov.5/00 and I had my m/c Nov.5/03 so I'd really like the baby to be born before then!

Amie Mommy to Ember(3) m/c Nov.5/03 and EDD Oct.15 with Oakley:)

Piglet- so maybe when you add me to the list you can put Oct.15 instead of the 21st...Thanks!

[Proudly AP]

hi, all

i'm happy to be joining you.

i am due with our second child around october 8th or so.

have really been feeling pretty good all along (don't throw anything at me, i can't help it ;) )

i am nearly 13.5 weeks. this pg was planned.

i am 35, dh 36. dd 2, still nursing.

i declined all the tests, am planning a home birth and have a fabulous midwife and doula!

:D

tickled to be here

[kama'aina mama]

No need to apologize for NOT feeling sick. Good for you!

You know what's weird? I have lost weight. I'm not sure how much since I don't own a scale... but I have. Probably about ten pounds. I know it's not great to be losing weight while pregnant. But people keep telling me how great I look. And when I look in a mirror I agree. :rolleyes: Our culture of thin-worship is so messed up!

[kama'aina mama]

It's 2:30 am. I should not be here. This sucks. That is all.

[water]

Kama, you are a dork! that said I am glad you are on our preggo thread, I always like reading your posts....even the infinitely long private thread!! (yes, I went there :p )