Lula's Mom
05-08-2004, 06:06 PM
So I took my daughter to a birthday party today, and her dad came along. We have been separated for 2+ years, and I live with DP, who is the father of this baby-on-the-way. DH -can I just call him 'H'?- and I are not divorced yet, because we are both major procrastinators and things get unpleasant when we talk about it. So we have avoided it thus far. I know that sounds bad, and obviously with me being pregnant, I will now *have* to file the papers.
Anyway DP is out of the country on business, so H accompanied us to spend time with his daughter. We do a lot of things together, so that life will be as happy and smooth for our daughter as possible. It's very pleasant as long as we don't talk about anything serious. At this point, H doesn't know I'm pregnant. I'll have to tell him soon, but like I said, things always get ugly unless we are talking about our daughter. :love
I have only told one friend, the mother of the birthday boy, about my being pregnant. She knows it's touchy with H, so I knew she'd never mention the pregnancy in front of him, and I felt safe. But apparently she told her MOM, whom I really don't know, and Mom wandered over to me and asked me right in front of H: "So, aren't you expecting?"
I didn't know what to say! I didn't exactly want to tell him like *that*, so I said NO and left it at that! I am assuming he thinks she asked me because I *was* pregnant before but miscarried in February, which he knew about.
Now when I do tell him, he's going to recall that conversation and know I lied. And that some relative stranger knew before he did. Oh, the tangled webs we weave, when first we practice to deceive! I should have listened to my mother when she told me not to lie. :nono I tell myself that it's really none of his business and I'm entitled to keep it to myself as long as I like, but his daughter is going to be a big sister so I guess he should know.
What a freaky thing to have happen. :crap
Anyway DP is out of the country on business, so H accompanied us to spend time with his daughter. We do a lot of things together, so that life will be as happy and smooth for our daughter as possible. It's very pleasant as long as we don't talk about anything serious. At this point, H doesn't know I'm pregnant. I'll have to tell him soon, but like I said, things always get ugly unless we are talking about our daughter. :love
I have only told one friend, the mother of the birthday boy, about my being pregnant. She knows it's touchy with H, so I knew she'd never mention the pregnancy in front of him, and I felt safe. But apparently she told her MOM, whom I really don't know, and Mom wandered over to me and asked me right in front of H: "So, aren't you expecting?"
I didn't know what to say! I didn't exactly want to tell him like *that*, so I said NO and left it at that! I am assuming he thinks she asked me because I *was* pregnant before but miscarried in February, which he knew about.
Now when I do tell him, he's going to recall that conversation and know I lied. And that some relative stranger knew before he did. Oh, the tangled webs we weave, when first we practice to deceive! I should have listened to my mother when she told me not to lie. :nono I tell myself that it's really none of his business and I'm entitled to keep it to myself as long as I like, but his daughter is going to be a big sister so I guess he should know.
What a freaky thing to have happen. :crap