tuffykenwell
05-25-2004, 11:18 AM
I called the midwifery office and requested a change of lead midwife. I explained that it wasn't that I didn't like the lead midwife that I have now (I don't) its just that emotionally I don't think she is a good fit for me and I can't stomach the thought of having to fight during labour to get what I need.
I requested one of my back up mws who really seemed to listen when I talked and who I really felt GOOD talking to. She seemed to understand some of the ramifications of my previous birth experience and how important it is for me to be in control this time.
It was really hard for me to call and make the request...I never have been very good with confrontation :( That is the one area of my life that I have gotten much better at though LOL...after Rhys' birth I figured out that many of the issues that happened during the failed induction were due in whole or in part to my inability to stand up for myself and say NO if necessary (or tell the nurse to get the h**l out of my room and bring in someone who wouldn't belittle me and make me feel like a failure).
I can't afford the emotional fall out of being someone's doormat again. I can live with even a repeat cesearean if it comes to that IF and only IF I feel like I had a say in what was happening around me. You can bet that I am doing everything I can to avoid a repeat of my last experience though...and if I step on a few toes in the process I guess that is life.
Steph
I requested one of my back up mws who really seemed to listen when I talked and who I really felt GOOD talking to. She seemed to understand some of the ramifications of my previous birth experience and how important it is for me to be in control this time.
It was really hard for me to call and make the request...I never have been very good with confrontation :( That is the one area of my life that I have gotten much better at though LOL...after Rhys' birth I figured out that many of the issues that happened during the failed induction were due in whole or in part to my inability to stand up for myself and say NO if necessary (or tell the nurse to get the h**l out of my room and bring in someone who wouldn't belittle me and make me feel like a failure).
I can't afford the emotional fall out of being someone's doormat again. I can live with even a repeat cesearean if it comes to that IF and only IF I feel like I had a say in what was happening around me. You can bet that I am doing everything I can to avoid a repeat of my last experience though...and if I step on a few toes in the process I guess that is life.
Steph