What I am doing to cope...

[Mommy StormRaven]

I jsus wanted to write and tell everyone what I am doign to cope with this loss. If you like it you are welcome to borrow it, if not, thank you for looking at it.

First I beleive that my little Spirit angel told me her name as she passed, I think she told me this so I would be able to greive and say goodbye to her. We are honoring her memory and giving her the name that she told us. Eva Morgayne Gase.

I am also making a doll out of some beautiful rainbow colored fabric and sewing what would have been her birthstone onto the doll as a representation of her, we are having the doll put into a box frame and having it inscribed with teh following: "In Loving Memory of Eva Morgayne, Due 12/25/02 lost to us 6/14/02" and we will hang it on our wall. Everyone knew we were expecting her on Christmas day, I cannot imagine not telling our children and families about the person she would have been.

We are also going to set off balloons from the highest hill in a nearby park with our hopes, wishes and dreams tied to the strings in her honor and as a rememberance.:balloons

That is what I am doing, if you are interested in the pattern for the doll, I will gladly send or email it to you, part of the healing for me is in the making of the doll myself.

My blessings and thanks to all of you for your support nad understanding...

[khrisday]

That is a beautiful idea, thank you for sharing it.

[Mommy StormRaven]

Khris - it is the least I can do - something liek this is so hard that we need someplace to start...

[Jacque Savageau]

Yes, Eva Morgayne Gase whispered her beautiful name to you - I beleive it with all my heart.

I agree. Many of the moms here have discussed how hard it is to loose a child because society wants so much for us to forget. Your honoring her memory and mothering her in the only way you have left. By making the doll you will heal, it will bring a deeper spiritual meaning to her life.

We memorialized our daughter Amanda by framing several items that we had for her. I put a burgundy dress I made for her in a shadow box. We have a wall in the hallway that honors her precious life.

My children know of their older baby sister. They talk of her naturaly. I sometimes wish adults could be so comfortable with it! When a balloon accidently slips from thier hand they say, "I guess Amanda wanted that one".

Christmass will be a difficult time for you. As her due date approaches and others around you have either forgoten or chosen not to remeber. You'll find ways to honor her during the holiday. We always light a candle on the holiday to honor her. Not everyone knows why, but as a family, we do.

You still have so many up's and downs to travel, I'm glad you've found some comfort and support. I hold you in my thoughs.

[Mommy StormRaven]

Thanks Ms mom! I know she will never be forgotten at leat not by those who love her and those are the ones that matter anyhow....

We will celebrate her as she would have wanted it - with laughter not tears - at least not too many and the laughter someday will be mroe thanthe tears - she blessed our lives breifly but the love she brought with her will never die - even though she is gone from this physical world she will never be gone from our hearts...

Thank you for your sweet words...

[indiegirl]

That sounds so beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

[Mommy StormRaven]

Thank you for supporting this forum so that I can share - I think it is what Eva would have wanted me to do. If my grief sory can help others begintheir own healing then soem small good comes of this great sadness...

Thank you all for allowing me to share this with you....

[Jacque Savageau]

That's how I've always felt too. By sharing with other women and reaching out, we can also heal internally ourselves.

Your still fresh in your grief and will experience some very rough spots. So please continue to reach out for support as you need it. Your gently in my thoughts.