NOW, who have you told about pg and who not?

[MommytoL]

Since we're all still in the first trimester (I guess between 5-8 weeks), no doubt we are always in the backs of our minds wondering if we'll "make it" to around the 12 week mark, right? So, at this point who all really knows we're pg and who are we waiting to tell?

I'll start: I have told three close friends. DH has told one of his friends (that was at my recommendation so that he'd have someone to fall back on if needed). I've told about three aquaintences. So, that's about it...

Here's the interesting part for me. I haven't told either set of our parents or my sister who I am very close to. By this time in my first pg I had told them. BUT, because I'm still BF my little nursling (25 mos.), I've held off telling because if something happens I don't want to be faced with anything about that being the cause. Even though all of us know here that that would have nothing to do with it! So, I've yet to decide when I'll spill the beans.

And I know that many moms-to-be tell after the stick reads "+" :+, but I'm holding out!

Anyone? ......

Carol, Mommy to my (5/2002) :toddler: and expecting (2/19/2005) :belly

[mehndi mama]

We told everybody ;) I cannot hide increased appetite OR morning sickness to save my life, so I just say something - it makes it easier. The kids told my MIL, I told my mom in a "oh, BTW..." kind of way over the phone (we were talking about someone else's new baby, I think), and now all my family is pretending nothing is different :eyesroll
It's been nice to just tell people when they ask me how I'm doing that I feel like crap, but it's a good thing :)

[sadkitty]

I didn't want to tell anyone because of a miscarriage in Feb. But, Dh told his mom. She was visiting and he needed an excuse for my odd behavior (sleeping all the time eating almost nothing, general malaise.) My friends have all guessed. Everyone is kind of expecting it to happen sooner or later, I just hate having to "untell" so many people. Hopefully that won't have to happen again.

[Lousli]

We've told just about everyone, including people at my work (except my boss). I felt "safer" to tell after we saw the heartbeat last week, and then again on Monday. I was 8 weeks yesterday, and I'm on vacation for a while starting today. When I go back to work after my break, I'll be 11 weeks, so I will tell my boss then.

[wtchyhlr]

we've told darn near the entire world. Most of them guessed anyway, because we've wanted to get pregnant for so long.

[Boobs]

We've told everybody except my mother and her side of the family. Except my little brother does know, he's 15. He's a good secret keeper. I just don't know how to deal with that whole family because my mother and I aren't even speaking and I don't care if we EVER do again. Her parents and the rest of the family are all just so freakin difficult. Their love is very conditional. I know they won't get excited about this baby because we moved so far away and they won't get to see it all the time. I'd just rather not tell them at all, but I know I'll have to at some point.

[HydeParkB]

The only people who know are my husband and my best friend. Due to family medical history, I want to wait a bit before telling everyone.

We have an ultrasound scheduled for July 22 - I'd like to tell our families after that if everything is okay. I'll probably wait until mid August to tell the folks at work, if I can keep it that long. As far as friends who I don't work with, I'd like to tell them in late July or early August.

I have a feeling my MIL knows we are trying, at least, since I've stopped drinking beer. My friends are probably clued in too.

[mama2m&m]

we haven't told too many. my sister, our daycare lady to reserve a spot jic, and i told my running buddy i couldn't run anymore and she sort of guessed it lol.

i think that's it. it was too hard untelling everyone last time. i have an u/s today and if all looks good we *may* tell family this weekend. i definately am trying to hide it from work for several more weeks but unsure if that will be possible. i think they're looking at my funny lol.

[shannon0218]

Entirely too many people know. 6 friends know, my immediate family knows, Steve's does not.
A couple clients know--I kinda had to tell them something as I was not being a good business person.
One of the guys Steve works with knows, etc etc etc

[lasofia]

I have horrible morning sickness, so I've pretty much told anyone I've seen in person. It helps explain my pallor, chapped lips, why I shoot dirty looks towards the kitchen, etc, even if I don't barf while they're here.

But I had a mc in 2001, before my son was born in 2002. The first one, we told everyone right away. When I mc at week 11 (we'd never heard a heartbeat), I sent an email to everyone asking that they make sure to spread the sad news to anyone who'd heard the happy news. I was mostly glad I'd told so many people since I was mess afterward and it would've been harder for me trying to hide it or my sudden social withdrawal. Plus MOST of them were great and did things like drop off mindcandy books and chocolate. But the news didn't spread at dh's work, so at the Christmas party 2 months later, people were coming up and congratulating me and even touching my stomach. *bleah* So this time we've not told anyone at his work except his boss.

The second time, we told fewer people right away, but I was wretchedly ill, and ended up telling most everyone who saw us. We told everyone else once we heard the heartbeat with a doppler. I think that's what we'll do this time - publicly announce once we get that heartbeat. I'm very, very, very eager and anxious to hear it, though reassured by my morning sickness. The chance of miscarriage is much smaller once you get that little thumpa-thumpa.

Er.. long answer, sorry!

- Sofia (first post!)

[heveasoul]

welcome Sofia! (one of our preferred girl names, btw!)

We told those who were aware of our trying, and our parents. We're thinking of expanding the list to siblings this weekend...I want to embrace this, and have everyone join in celebrating this joyful event, but of course I am still concerned about the risk of having to "untell" people.

Only 2 women at work know (they knew of our ttc trials), and I'm hoping I won't have to say anything to management and everyone else until I have to...my boobs may spill the beans first, though, :LOL

[shannon0218]

No No Heve, you can't have Sophia--that's the only one Steve and I agree on!!!!

[heveasoul]

uh oh...!! Well, maybe one of us will have a boy, and it won't have to come to blows! :fence:

[Free Thinker]

We have told most everyone now. We saw the HB on Tuesday, and all is well with baby, so I'm not going to worry anymore. I spotted for about 2 weeks or so, so that made me nervous.

(((peacefulvegan))) I am having family problems too right now. I just told my parents about the baby by saying "well, I'm pregnant and I don't need this stress right now. We can discuss it after the baby is here in February!!!" They decided to never talk to me again, but now claim I made the entire conversation up??? My DH was here, so he can verify that I'm not the dillusional one!

[shannon0218]

uh oh...!! Well, maybe one of us will have a boy, and it won't have to come to blows! :fence:
Ahhhhh, but lets face it....I'm due first!!! :laugh:

[heveasoul]

Ahhhhh, but lets face it....I'm due first!!! :laugh:
true...but maybe you'll be late, and I'll be early...

...or maybe they can both be Sophias - I had a best friend with the same name in early grade school...um...maybe we shouldn't discuss what some of the other names are, boy & girl... :hide:

[Ellie'sMom]

Let's see. Who knows:
My mom. Best friend (who's far away). 4 friends here (who all were tremendous supports during my m/c, so I'd want them to know). 1 co-worker (regret this one). 2 playgroup moms (it just slipped). 1 couple who live far away. They were expecting when we had dd and now are expecting again. They were close friends when they lived here.

Wow, that's more than I thought.

Dh's family doesn't know. If all goes well with the u/s tomorrow we will tell his sister when we visit her next week and his parents when we visit them in 3 weeks. If everything isn't ok by u/s we will probably tell dh's parents, but I just don't want to talk to them about it now. Don't need any unsolicited advice. I'll tell bosses when school starts. I will be over 13 weeks by then.

Sorry for the long, slightly incoherent post!

[milk_maker]

Pretty much everyone. Most of our friends knew we were trying and when i stopped going out for drinks they put two and two together and figured it out. I had to tell my boss because I will be leaving my job after the third or fourth month and he needs to find a replacement (I'm so nice giving that jerk a 2-3 month notice). I told one of the ladies in the office (she knew we were TTC) and she screamed which brought the other ladies flocking to her office so they all know. This was the second day I knew I was pg. So we then decided to call our respective parents who then told the rest of the family and family friends...umm...vicious cycle? I really wanted to wait until the magic three months but DH pointed out that if I miscarried, everyone would find out anyways, so we might as well tell them.

[Periwinkle]

* Everyone at MDC (I changed my sig :) )
* Our mothers
* My father
* My SIL
* Two close friends/neighbors
* My coworker/friend
* API playgroup friends

We're on the verge of telling just about everyone - just want to hang on another week or so. I am serioulsy starting to show already... well not to everyone, but me and dh can tell. I definitely have this "hard bump" below my belly button! So I figure I only have a few more weeks til I'm wearing maternity clothes (around 12 weeks). Funny thing is I've LOSE two pounds from queasiness / food aversions!

[lasofia]

...or maybe they can both be Sophias :hide:

and of course, I feel obliged to point out that Sophia and Sofia are very different names. Um. Well, maybe just to me! :)

I didn't meet another Sofia in the US until I was in college. But now everytime I go to the park, I get jumpy with all the other moms calling "Sophia! Sophie!" It seems like only the ph spelling is popular, though. Hmm, off topic in a big way!

[shannon0218]

Are they pronounced the same????

[lasofia]

Are they pronounced the same????

Oh yes. Sorry, I'm just being silly. As a kid I HATED it when someone misspelled my name with a ph. It always looked so wrong to me. So I tend to ask the parents how they spell it, out of curiosity.

[shannon0218]

I can understand, people always spell my last name with an E instead of an A

[jiminy]

Wow i feel like we have done very well to keep this a secret!
We havn't told anyone, and I mean NO-ONE! its kinda nice having this little secret from everyone aswell. We will wait untill we have the 12 week U/S to just make sure everything is ok first. then family and best friends then maybe a few other friends a few weeks after that. I wouldn't be able to deal with untelling people. and i am sort of a deal-with-things-on-my-own kinda gal who ,if something did happen, god forbid, then my partner would be all the support i would need.

well thats my 2 cents worth anyway he he

Jiminy!

PS I think that you could both have sofia, a lovely name!!!!!!

[shannon0218]

We could both have it, but Heve and I actually know each other in real life, and since the babies will be so close, hope to have them know each other too. Know what I mean? :laugh:

[kater07]

I have told absolutely everyone I know. We waited until I was 7 weeks, then I started blabbing. I was relieved to tell everyone.

[jiminy]

oh that does pose a bit of a prob knowing each other in real life!!!!!!!! well i guess the first one to go......... it sux when friends have the same name choices as you, it seems like you both just liked the same name, in my case before i was pregnant my best friend got pregnant and we had discussed names that we would have when we had kids, i had been in love with this particular name since i had meet her and she knew it and said what a lovely name it was ....then al of a sudden she decided to call her bub if it was a girl the same name but swapped the first letter!!!!! so it made it impossible for me to eva have that name, i joked about it i even said oh no way you can have that then cant have my name, very lightheartedly, but it made no difference!!!! and she had a girl and used the name! so at least you 2 can laugh about it! now it just sux knowing that she couldn't think of her own name!!!!!!!! oh well I have thought of many a great name since then anyway!!!! so its all good, but it does suck sometimes!!!!!!!!!!!

[tug]

i've told only family and close, close friends. we are having genetic testing done (please don't flame) and i want to wait until after that is done and 12 weeks is gone so the heavy risk of m/c will be past. two more weeks!!!

[MommytoL]

I guess since I started this thread I'd update my response! Now the news is out. I had an older friend (77) who came up to me from behind and hugged my belly and said with a sweet grin "Are you pregnant?" I couldn't believe it that she had such insight! I blushed and acted a little surprised and then I spilled the beans to her in private. I told her she's a wise woman and that if I need to know the weather forecast or any other predictions, I'm just going to call her! She loved that!! I figured my belly must have been sneaking out...

So, one week later I decided to tell my family and sister and then I let them do the rest. The few that were keeping it a secret until I was ready have done their job too. THEN, my best friend who lives 800 miles away informed me that she is pg too and only two weeks behind me! :eek Is that cool or what? They've been ttc for 2 years (she's 34 and he's 52!) and are thrilled. So, we're going to get to be pg buddies! We shared our secret at the same time and was that ever special.

Plus, now I've gone to midwife for 8.5 week check and all looks pretty good. She is having me take 50 mg of progesterone since my level is 18.5 and she'd like to see it 20. She's such a sweetie--gave me the choice to take it or not since she wasn't overly worried since it wasn't below 17. I decided to go for it. (I'm sure there's a thread out there somewhere on this topic..., anyone?)

So, there's my telling story, etc....Carol

Mommy to my dd (5/2002) and new one on the way (2/18/2005)

[wtchyhlr]

i've now told the world. Shouted it from mountaintops. :)

[alaskanteach]

I tried to hide it this time- mainly cause it was an oopsie and I was a little embarrassed, but also because I had a m/c before, and had already told everyone, etc etc...

Anyway, my class of girls guessed right off, then the Principal told me I looked a little peaked, and guessed out loud in front of other students, so then the cat was sort of out of the bag... doing okay with it, mostly though.

[HydeParkB]

We moved up our schedule for telling everyone. Yesterday was the 10 week mark.

After yesterday's positive OB appointment (heard the heartbeat, saw everything on the U/S), we started telling my family. Tonight, we tell my husband's family. And I think we'll start with my friends this weekend or early next week.

We were going to wait until 12 weeks to tell everyone but our parents, but my dad can't keep a secret anyway!