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Devaskyla
08-01-2004, 04:32 PM
I have an appointment with a specialist OB at the beginning of September because I've had 3 miscarriages in 10 months. I had a bunch of blood tests done last week, but I haven't gotten the results back yet to know if they show any reason.

However, I'm reasonably certain I'm pregnant again. I'm not even a week past ovulation, but after being pregnant twice in less than 5 months, I know the early pregnancy signs quite well for myself and I already have the major one, which is no dry-up after O. Dh & I bd 2 days before O and on the day of O, though after it, so it's even more likely than the last 3 times (all of which were 5-6 days before O), and I'm pretty sure I felt implantation pain the other night. I'm not even going to bother testing this time, I know when I'm pregnant. I get pregnant easily, I just can't seem to keep them.

Am I insane for trying again like this without even knowing the results of anything? Part of me thinks that I should have waited until after I saw the specialist, but part of me feels like she's not going to be any help any way and maybe there's a chance I won't need to see her after all. Very unlikely, though. I also feel like I'm never going to have another baby, with or without help. I can't believe I did this, knowing I was almost certain to get pregnant again. I don't know how I can endure another loss, which I often feel is inevitable, but I also don't want to stop trying and put my life on hold. I've already waited so long, why should I wait another month?

My thoughts just keep going around and round like that and I feel so confused and off balance. I don't know what the right answer should have been, or even if there is one. I'm just totally lost right now.




HaveWool~Will Felt
08-02-2004, 08:47 AM
I don't think that you are insane. I can understand having the hope that "maybe this is the one" or "maybe this is the miracle that is suppose to happen"...
I know lots of women that have had multiple miscarried pregnancies and have kept trying ...with the hope that this is the one...for some it has worked...for others it hasn't.

Wanting to understand why you feel the way you do...is normal.

I am sorry for you losses...I truly am. There is no pain like that of losing your baby...or worse more than one.

Love to you Mama... :hug

ninafel
08-02-2004, 10:25 AM
Hi Lisa-Marie:

I think it is wonderful that you may be pregnant again. If I were in your position, I would advocate to see the specialist and review your blood tests as soon as you are able. It is completely possible that your previous losses were totally random and that this pregnancy will "be the one". It is also possible that your blood test will reveal a treatable condition and that your pregnancy will be helped by getting whatever treatment that may be earlier than later.

In my case, blood tests revealed I had one of the many variations of blood clotting disorders which made my blood clot too readily during pregnancy therefore shutting down the pregnancy. I lost two pregnancies from this as a result. This is totally treatable with a form of heparin that is completely safe for the baby.

Anyway, that's just my experience. Good luck with your decisions!

Ninafel