happymamajenni
08-05-2004, 09:23 AM
Last time I was pregnant I made out a birth plan before I even met the doctor for the first time. I should never have given it to her, but I didn't know she was going to react the way she did. First she said she couldn't be legally bound to any document. I was confused...I wasn't asking her to sign anything, I just wanted her to get a feel for the kind of birth I wanted. Then she took a look at it and tore it apart. She said "Episiotomies are routine, so expect one", "All women end up getting epidurals, so expect to give in and want one", and I know there were a couple other things too. Plus she said "Just the fact that you made this list means that you are worried about the delivery, and if you worry, you won't progress in your labor and you'll end up with a c-section". Yeah, she was a real B****. That was the first and last time I went to her.
This time I'm not going to hand a birth plan to my doctor, but I am still going to make one to have my wishes fresh in my mind and so that my dh will know what I want so he can speak on my behalf while I'm in labour. Here is what I want so far:
-nurses must decide which arm is going to get the blood pressure cuff, and they aren't allowed to put an IV in or draw blood from that arm. (last time it took them 12 tries to get an IV in and they drew blood twice. I had so many holes in my arms and hands that when the blood pressure cuff went off (I had it on for two days straight) it felt like my hand and arm were going to explode and squirt blood out of all the of holes in me! :(
-I DO NOT WANT AN EPIDURAL
-Besides my dh, I don't know who I want in the room when I deliver. I guess it depends on who is at the hospital. (Last time I also had my mom, dad, brother and his girlfriend. But no matter what, I DON'T want my in-laws in the room.)
-When I push the baby out, I'll hold my legs, or I'll put them in stirrups, but I can't have anyone hold my legs. (I have varicose veins so my legs are really sensitive, and last time a vein became inflamed where someone held my leg while I was pushing. Luckily I didn't have a clot, but I could hardly walk for three weeks after giving birth.)
-I want to avoid an episiotomy if possible, and I want to be coached when to slow down in my pushing to prevent tearing.
-If the baby is healthy at birth I want to hold him/her immediately.
-When I breastfeed for the first time I want to try alone at first. I feel that breastfeeding is personal and intimate, and I want the first time I try it with the new baby to be special. (Last time I had my mother, mother-in-law, the lactation person and a nurse standing around my bed while they shoved my nipple into my dd's mouth trying to get her to latch on. I may as well been having sex for the first time while an audience watched and took turns giving advice, and put their hands on our private parts......do you know what I mean?)
Well, that's all I can think of for now.......
what are some of your wishes for your birth experience?
This time I'm not going to hand a birth plan to my doctor, but I am still going to make one to have my wishes fresh in my mind and so that my dh will know what I want so he can speak on my behalf while I'm in labour. Here is what I want so far:
-nurses must decide which arm is going to get the blood pressure cuff, and they aren't allowed to put an IV in or draw blood from that arm. (last time it took them 12 tries to get an IV in and they drew blood twice. I had so many holes in my arms and hands that when the blood pressure cuff went off (I had it on for two days straight) it felt like my hand and arm were going to explode and squirt blood out of all the of holes in me! :(
-I DO NOT WANT AN EPIDURAL
-Besides my dh, I don't know who I want in the room when I deliver. I guess it depends on who is at the hospital. (Last time I also had my mom, dad, brother and his girlfriend. But no matter what, I DON'T want my in-laws in the room.)
-When I push the baby out, I'll hold my legs, or I'll put them in stirrups, but I can't have anyone hold my legs. (I have varicose veins so my legs are really sensitive, and last time a vein became inflamed where someone held my leg while I was pushing. Luckily I didn't have a clot, but I could hardly walk for three weeks after giving birth.)
-I want to avoid an episiotomy if possible, and I want to be coached when to slow down in my pushing to prevent tearing.
-If the baby is healthy at birth I want to hold him/her immediately.
-When I breastfeed for the first time I want to try alone at first. I feel that breastfeeding is personal and intimate, and I want the first time I try it with the new baby to be special. (Last time I had my mother, mother-in-law, the lactation person and a nurse standing around my bed while they shoved my nipple into my dd's mouth trying to get her to latch on. I may as well been having sex for the first time while an audience watched and took turns giving advice, and put their hands on our private parts......do you know what I mean?)
Well, that's all I can think of for now.......
what are some of your wishes for your birth experience?