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Lousli
08-13-2004, 11:11 AM
Hi ladies,
I didn't want to the one thread to be all about me, so I'm posting this here. I am really freaking out this week. I think it is because I'm so exhausted trying to take care of dd while dh is out of town. I just feel like I need some adults around me. I teach 9 and 10 year-olds all day, then go home to a 2 and a half year old all night. I know some people do this alone every day, so I feel like i shouldn't complain.

The work load is so overwhelming right now until dh and my parents come home. But mostly it is just the worry now that my amnio is getting so close. I try to think positively, and most of the time I'm fine, but being alone with my thoughts has really brought out the worrier in me. I keep waking up in the night to pee, and then can't fall asleep because I'm thinking too much.

I know people tell you that you will find the strength to handle whatever comes your way, but honestly, I feel like if something bad happens to this baby, I'm going to lose it. Several people in my family are prone to depression, and I have been situationally depressed before. I didn't eat for almost 3 weeks. I just don't know how I could keep going on, come back to work, finish school. I need to be able to do those things to take care of the family I have, since I'm the "breadwinner."

I know I'm putting the cart before the horse, since I haven't even had the test yet, and I hope I'm just overreacting. I just really wish i had someone who could hang out with me tonight and maybe have dinner with us. There isn't anyone. I have seriously called every person I know that lives in town, and they all are gone or have other plans. There is a slight chance that one woman can squeeze me in, but she is almost as overwhelmingly busy as I am. I also don't want to spend time with just anyone, but someone that cares for me and my daughter.

Okay, this sounds super pathetic, so I'm going to go. Plus, I'm at work, and it is time to actually do some work.




wtchyhlr
08-13-2004, 11:28 AM
No real words of wisdom... just a big :hug:... hang in there...

heveasoul
08-13-2004, 12:06 PM
Hi Lesely. Hope you find some peace soon, and the kind of support that you need. :hug

chiromama
08-13-2004, 12:37 PM
Lesley. love to you and this babe. I would spend the day hugging you if i could!

jorie
08-13-2004, 02:49 PM
:hug
Just when I think I'm having a week and a half! You have all my sympathy and warm thoughts. I struggle with depression/anxiety so I know what that is like. Hang in there!

Britishmum
08-13-2004, 07:10 PM
Lesley, I was in the same place as you a few weeks ago. I know how hard it is. Do you mean you're waiting for the amnio, or the results?

Do try to take care of yourself. Can you get some time off work? It sounds as if you need it. I dont think I could have gone to work when I was waiting on the amnio.

PM me if you want, anytime. I don't know if I can do anything to help, but I can listen. :hug

Lousli
08-13-2004, 07:22 PM
Britishmum,
Waiting for the amnio. I'm supposed to have it Tuesday. Although I just found out that my insurance denied my claim, so we will have to pay for it. $2000. I can't really take time off work, I'm a teacher. I'm taking Tuesday, and Wednesday if I need to. Thanks for your support.

shannon0218
08-14-2004, 10:02 AM
Sorry Lesley I didn't see this yesterday, how are you doing today? Did your friend fit you in yesterday??
Did the insurance company give a reason they wouldn't cover the amnio??

Mizelenius
08-15-2004, 04:45 AM
Oh, Lesley! I wish I could be there with you and your precious Melanie! :hug :hug :hug :hug

And ouch about the insurance . . .like salt on a wound. :(

Pm me ANYTIME! Call me if you want!!!!!

Lousli
08-15-2004, 09:56 AM
Thank you so much everyone. The good news is that it is Sunday, and I have some company today, and dh comes home tomorrow (at last). I haven't been the most shining example of gentle discipline lately, I've yelled quite a few times in the past three days, but we're doing okay. I also found out that my parents wil be able to take care of the money aspect, so that is a load off my mind. The only part that bothers me about that is that they found out about my amnio and everything while they are on vacation. Which means that my mom is stressing out (she is a champion worrier, puts me to shame) halfway around the world in Indonesia.

It has been a really long and tiring weekend, but it is almost over, and Tuesday morning is just around the corner. I can't wait to have this over with, it feels like a dark cloud above me. I don't know what I would have done without the advice, support and love from the women here. You all rock!! Thank you so much!

Periwinkle
08-17-2004, 10:06 AM
Lesley, I'm just catching up in the one thread and here... so sorry to hear what you're going through. Wishing you the best of luck with amnio and for some peace and R&R soon. :hug

Mizelenius
08-17-2004, 03:18 PM
Lesley, I've been thinking about you today . . .is it a 2 WW for the results? How was the actual test?

:hug :hug :hug :hug :hug :hug

Lousli
08-17-2004, 03:51 PM
The actual test was fine, didn't hurt at all. The full results are a 2ww, but the FISH test (for trisomies 13, 18, and 21 and gender) are back Thursday or Friday. The u/s looked good, but it was still somewhat early to tell (esp. the heart was too small to see as clearly as they wanted). Thanks for keeping me in your thoughts everyone. Just a few days until the FISH results...long days ahead.