swift kick in the rear

[Nankay]

My mother died this past Christmas and I'm still dealing with all the stages of grief. My aunt's mother just died and she,a woman of 65, is having a hard time of it. I was having a hard time listening to it as all I could think of was "Your mom was in her mid 80's for Pete's sake!! You had her for 30 years more than I had mine!!" OH..the SELF-PITY!!!!!!! (meaning me)

Then....I found out our neighbor's daughter is dying of cancer. Her children (neighbor's grandchildren) are ages 7 and 10. So much for self pity..yeah, I lost my mom when I was 35..they're losing their mom at age 7!!!!!:crying The same age as my children ..it makes my stomach hurt.

[Ms. Mom]

I'm so sorry about your mother. I lost my dad a year and half ago at age 33 and it stinks! We're not supposed to loose a parent when we're so young!

Please remember that greif is a very individual thing. You are entitled to your greif and all the feelings that go with it. Just as others are entitled to theirs. I agree that loosing a mother at age 7 is horrible, but that dosn't minimize your greif.

I wish you peace as you move through this.