Did you or DH/SO "hope" for a girl or boy?

[zebrabelly]

I've got a really strong boy feeling this time (well, take that w/ a grain of salt b/c I thought Margie was a boy too :eyesroll but I don't remember feeling it this strongly). But I gotta say I'm kind of afraid of boys since I've never been around them, so I'd almost rather have just girls. But then of course I feel guilty for wanting one or the other when I should just be happy to be blessed with a child. So if you wouldn't mind answering some poll-type q's for me, I'd appreciate it...

When you were pg, did you prefer one sex over the other?

Why or why not?

Did you get the sex you wished for? How did you feel about that? If not, do you still have a close bond with your child anyway?

For those with boys and girls, do you have a stronger relationship with one or the other?

Anything else?

And I don't know if anyone here has older kids, but probably my biggest worry about a boy is that NONE of the boys I have known as teens or adults have ever been remotely close to their mothers. Is that normal? I don't want to have a child only to not be able to "know" them as a teen and adult, you know? What about older boys you have known - DH/SO, friends, other family. Is there such a thing as a boy who can be close to his mother in a healthy way?

Thanks, guys!

[annakiss]

I was hoping for a girl last time and am hoping for a girl again. This time I feel more clearly that it is a girl, whereas last time I had no idea and kind of felt it would be a boy simply because I wanted a girl. Well last time I had a boy. I had dreams toward the end of my pregnancy that really revealed this to me. I am still very attached to him. Sometimes though I get sad when I see mamas with perfect baby girls, but that's more about DS's cleft than about his being a boy. I love him to death and I hope our relationship doesn't become any less close as he ages, though I suppose in a way I'm expecting it to. I don't think a girl would necessarily stay close with me either. I have a tendency to be more attached to people than they are to me anyway.

[Desdamona]

When you were pg, did you prefer one sex over the other?

Why or why not?

Did you get the sex you wished for? How did you feel about that? If not, do you still have a close bond with your child anyway?

For those with boys and girls, do you have a stronger relationship with one or the other?



With my first I wanted to have a boy. Always saw my first born as the "protective" older brother. And that is exactly what I have in DS# 1.

With my 2nd and 3rd PG's I envisioned having girls. And was wrong both times. But love having 3 boys. Never regretted not having a girl. Boys are my forte thus far.

As for this time 'round... There are not preferrences (speaking for myself). Now DH is scared poop-less of having a daughter. And once we tell the boys I am sure that they will beg for another brother, cause girls are yucky (?).