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Karennnnn
10-14-2004, 10:24 AM
Hi everyone!
I had a blighted ovum at the end of August and ttc'd right away. We didn't get pregnant immediately after, but this previous cycle. My edd should be 6/26 according to the day I ovulated. I had a really short cycle this time, about 3 or 4 days shorter than it had been and I was so surprised when I ovulated since it's almost always around day 14.
Anyhoo, I'm trying to figure out how to handle this pregnancy. I had planned a homebirth with a midwife with the previous one and hadn't even seen a practitioner until I began to m/c. So I had to pick an ob rather quickly so they could monitor me through the m/c.
She told me to call her when I got pregnant and she'd monitor my hcg levels and do an u/s at 6 weeks to verify heartbeat and that kind of thing.
At first I grappled with it but I do want the u/s for peace of mind. I can't wait until 12 weeks (when I'd see the midwife) before I hear a heartbeat/know that there's a baby and not just a sac.
I kind of feel like the hcg monitoring isn't necessary and may call the office to say "Hey I got a positive pregnancy test, can I come into the office in about 2 weeks to have an u/s since the doc suggested it?" Hopefully they'll let me do that before I have to undergo the formal first ob visit which I'd like to avoid.
After the u/s I'll probably write a letter to the office explaining that I'd like a different mode of care. They have 8 ob's and you see a different one each time. Even if I wanted a hospital birth, that makes me very uncomfortable. It should be rather easy to sever ties I'd hope!
So anyway that's pretty much it. I've had heartburn for the last week and even have "uterus ball" in the morning which I found odd but may make sense since perhaps my uterus hadn't gone back to normal size post m/c yet???
Very weird; I had it with both of my other pregnancies; around 6 weeks I'd get a ball in the morning before going to the bathroom and then of course it would go away. I think it's my uterus pressing against my bladder or (ew) guts making them come to the surface. Everyone who has heard that thinks I'm bonkers.
Well enough for now. I hope we all have a wonderful and unremarkable 9 or 10 months!!!
Karen




Max's Mami
10-14-2004, 04:32 PM
Welcome! Glad to have you. Make sure you add your due date to the master due date list (if you havent already)!

aja-belly
10-14-2004, 05:07 PM
hey there! welcome! i'm sorry for your loss, but congratulations on your pregnancy!

i'm in a similar situation to you. i was seeing a dr for fertility treatments, but plan to have a homebirth with a midwife. i went in for all the hcg tests at teh very beginning, and i'm going back to the dr for an ultrasound a week from monday, but that will be the last time that i see them as i will be moving on to my midwife.

it's your pregnancy and your birth. your are your babies only advocate righ now, so you need to be able to ask for what you want. if they will not do an ultrasound without an exam/ob appointment, then i can see your problem. i would call your midwife and see if she has a tech she could recommend for an ultrasound. our midwife does not do ultrasounds, bu they have a woman that comes to the birthing center to do them on the midwives recommendations. i bet if you talk to your midwife about your concerns she will be able to help you. that's what she is there for!

aja

Pepper
10-14-2004, 05:50 PM
Welcome, Karen. It's so nice to have you here with us :)

mom2jack
10-14-2004, 05:52 PM
:w

Karennnnn
10-14-2004, 06:21 PM
I just realized I probably should have posted under the getting to know you thread (the name escapes me right now!).
Anyhow I would really like to do this through the midwife but I'm not sure if it will work. I may call her I may not; I have a feeling that she probably doesn't want to be involved in anyone's care until her standard 12 week minimum. It doesn't hurt to ask though.
I'm thinking though that because she's a private practice midwife and I haven't established care with her, my insurance may not pay for an u/s. I'm also not sure she IS covered by my insurance. In all honesty I don't care if I'm paying off this birth until my child is 18 ;o) I think you all can hear me on that one.
So that said I may just do the u/s with the ob. I don't really know that they'd do the whole first visit business until after the u/s anyway. It wouldn't make sense to go through the exam, the ten vials of blood, only to find out there was another blighted ovum. If they argue with me about it, I may just forgoe it altogether which is something else I considered. They've been very kind to me and pretty accomodating so I don't see why they wouldn't just let me have the u/s and take it from there.
I can't wait to meet the midwife though; I've been waiting for that moment for a long time. To be out of the doctor loop will be weird but so so nice!!! I have this fantasy of inviting my sister to my appointments so she can see how wonderful it is to have a midwife and change her perspectives (She's ttc now).
So anyhoo I'm off to add my due date to the master list. I hesitate to do it but I guess darkening positives can't be wrong ;)
Take care,
Karen

mclisa
10-15-2004, 07:15 AM
Welcome to the group! Your case points out why the midwife doesn't want to do anything until 12 weeks. Why torture you with all that if it is only a blighted ovum.

What a crappy OB group! I wonder if they like seeing all of those different patients and never getting to know their own panel. I would think that would be a frustrating way to practice.

Karennnnn
10-15-2004, 11:09 AM
That's the way it is in MANY practices here; I find it really frustruating. Lots of women worry the whole time if it's going to be the doctor they DON'T like at their delivery (for the whole 20 minutes they spend on your care at the hospital).
Even some of the midwifery practices around here rotate care like that. Seems to me like it wouldn't work, but apparently in some warped way it does.
So to that I say WHATEVER!!! :)
Take care,
Karen

miamommy
10-15-2004, 11:37 AM
When I went to interview a midwife a couple of days ago, they mentioned that they encourage you to seek dual care with an OB if it would ease the financial burden for some of the tests due to insurance coverage and then if you have to go to the hospital for some reason, you can call your OB to be there.

I don't think that I will do the dual care thing, but the midwives actually brought it up to me, so you may want to discuss a situation like that with you midwife.

Awaken
10-15-2004, 12:27 PM
Even some of the midwifery practices around here rotate care like that. Seems to me like it wouldn't work, but apparently in some warped way it does.
So to that I say WHATEVER!!! :)
Take care,
Karen

That's the way our midwife practice works- it is a fairly large practice- maybe 6 cnm's??? They want you to see all of them throughout the pregnancy. But to me it has never been a problem- I truly like and trust all of them and wouldn't mind having any of them at the birth.

Last time it just so happened that when I arrived in labor, I had the new cnm who was in orientation- and she was so wonderful- and then the actual mw on call arrived right before the baby came out, and she was the one I had seen the most and wanted to have there.