People make rude comments to me.

[miggymama]

I am having problems with total strangers telling me that I am huge. I am 28 weeks pregnant with my first. I get some people that say how great I look and others who say "are you having twins?" I am sensitive to these comments and I need some suggestions on how to respond. I find myself very defensive now when the question is asked "when are you due?". I hate feeling this way and I wish that it didn't bother me so much, but it does. Please help with any words of wisdom. Thanks!

[amymarie]

They are just jealous! They wish they were beautifully big with a life growing inside of them,like mama earth!

[earthmama007]

Don't feel sad! I was told at H2O aerobics that "I was HUGE" just as plain as that. I felt sad b/c I was about 28 weeks too. People who say those things usually don't mean them and don't realize that reguardless of the way they meant it, it just doesn't sound nice any way you put it. I try to tell those that choose to go into that subject with a pregnant woman that my doctor saidd I look great and I feel awesome. That usually shuts them up in a nice way and maybe they will realize they shouldn't have said annything at all. That is what I hope for anyways

[Mama2G&E]

{{{hugs}}}

I remember those comments. I used to brush it off with something like...I feel great and the baby is healthy, or the one about my Midwife says I am right on track. What I wanted to say is...I am pregnant, So what is your excuse? I also used to turn it around and ask them if they had any children. Most of the people would say No. I would just say...Oh.

No one is more beautiful than a pregnant woman.

Take care...

[laf369]

I was HUGE, so the comments were warranted, but they hurt, nonetheless. Once, waiting in line at the bank, a lady asked when I was due. I told her, I think I was about six months along. Anyway, she said "Oh dear." and my heart just broke. She then went on and on about her pregnant daughter and how tiny she was, how you would never know she was pregnant, blah blah blah. I was getting really pissed and finally said "Yeah, and she probably has hemorrhoids and acne, have a good day." That lady got the point.

[WickidaWitch]

Originally posted by amymarie
They are just jealous! They wish they were beautifully big with a life growing inside of them,like mama earth!
I would be one of those jelous people. When ever I see a pregnant woman I always think back at how nice it felt to have that little life inside.
I don't make huge remarks though.

[earthmama007]

LaurelArmar:rotflmao :rotflmao :rotflmao :rotflmao That is funny. I wish I could have had some nerve enough to say that. Funny Funny Funny, I love it!

[ekblad9]

Peaople constantly ask me if I'm having twins. Then when I assure them that I'm not they keep asking me if I'm sure. I am huge, I gain about 90 lbs everytime but it's still very insulting. I hate the way that I look. It's not just my belly, it's everywhere. I even still work out alot . Anyway, some people should just keep their mouths SHUT!

[simonee]

I carried tiny, and it really hurt that nobody ever saw or asked anything. There I was, all excited, with my hands rubbing what looked like a flat belly. And the first time somebody stood up for me in the bus was past my due date :(

Try to rub it off. Maybe think up one or two ready-made replies for the times when you really can't handle it anymore? (Like, ask people that are huge themselves when THEIR due date is??) Or just say "the baby's due when s/he's ready" or something. And enjoy feeling a life growing inside yourself. It's too special to be upset.

[Veronica]

I know exactly how you feel "miggymama." I went through two pregnancy being hurt by peoples comments. It seem like everyone had something negative to say. I was so tired of everyone's comment that I would stay in the house as much as possible, to be away form people. I was so tired of crying my eyes out from a negative comment someone had said to me.
I am now pregnant with # 3, and I am NOT putting up with those little comments not even a little bit! A lady I work with the other day said to me, " Your only 3 months and getting big already?!" I looked at her like she was crazy and said, "THAT IS WHAT YOUR SUPPOSED TO DO!" She felt stupid.
My self esteem to different with this pregnancy, I know I am going to hear the word BIG about 100,000 times, but I don't care anymore. If I (or the average pregnant woman) doesn't get big than there is a problem. I am going to enjoy being big! I am going to enjoy having this big old round belly, because it only lasts 9 months!
Did I mention that I was also 10 days late with both pregnancy? So I had plenty of those, when are you due questions. At the end I began to say, "Whenever the baby decides he wants to come out, isn't that how it works?" I always try to flip it around on the person, so they realize they are the one who asked the dumb question.
Most of all PLEASE don't put yourself under all the stress that I have in the past, worrying about how big you are. When people say something to you, say the first thing that comes to your mind, don't hold your tongue! Get it off your chest and be done with it.
Oh, the next time someone ask you if you are having twins say, " The last time I checked I wasn't, but if you would like and really need to know I will ask my dr. again just for you?"
I wish you the very best.
Veronica

[amymarie]

Good for you Veronica! I am very petite and love to see big,beautiful pregnant women. I always want to tell them how divine they look,but I'm worried I might embarrass them...maybe from now on I'll speak my mind.

[ekblad9]

Yes! Please tell them if you think they look good. I've never had anyone tell me that!

[bloobug]

Ah, yes the 'huge' comments. It's simple. The next time somebody says something just say,"If I told you the same thing, it would be considered rude." Most of them get the hint. I love preg bellies big or small. And I always tell the mamas the same thing,"You look beautiful." There's nothing else that needs to be said.
Megan

[slomomma]

You DO look beautiful! And I know first hand since you're my gorgeous pregnant sister. I love you.:hug
(We're both pg btw)

[seanjoshmom]

People also said the most awful thing sto me, and several pointed at mea nd laughed with their friends--I was big--twins--but still, it was horrible. I always tell pregnant women they look wonderful (not that I go around making unsolicited remarks to everyone or anything!) but I really think pregnant women look magical. And even if someone isn't looking their best, it sure is a pick-me-up to hear someone appreciates the great things your body can do!

[GB's Mom]

I was huge too, and often my rebuttal was, 'that's the sign of a healthy baby.' or something like, 'he's enjoying all the yummie protein I'm feeding him.' We can't all look like we just stuck a pillow under our shirts, even though that's what many people *expect* us to look like. But I'm sorry, I don't care how many babies I'm growing, when I go from eating one thing to eating twice (or three) times as much food, it's going to have an impact!!!

My ds was 9 lbs/2 oz and people to me that was big. I continued to stress HEALTHY. And at 28 mo he now amazes everyone with how healthy and vibrant he is.

Don't worry! You and your baby are beautiful!!!

**edited to add: One thing that really bothered me was near the end of my first pregnancy people would say "Are you STILL pregnant???" Often my scarastic streak would get the best of me (I mean, what a really dumb questions), but it drove me crazy b/c ds was 8 days before his edd, so I never was even "past due." Arghhhh! PEOPLE!

[Christy1980]

I'm just fat, and people ask me when I'm due!!!

:rotflmao

so at least you guys have a reason, I just have a big belly!! :yum

I usually say, "actually I'm not preg." and they look totally apologetic...but sometimes I like to have a little fun and say, "Oh yeah, I'm having a litter," or something like, "eating for 8 can really put on the pounds."

(technically, I only look like I'm early preg, about 4 months or so, I just have one of those tummies, but I might be preg now, I dunno yet...:bouncy :baby 10 wks late and all my home tests say negative...waiting on insurance to kick in to go get a chem screen.):wag

so here's to all big beauties, preg or not!! :Kiss

big=beautiful anyone who thinks otherwise (IMHO) is an asshole and an idiot!!!

:heartbeat to you all!!!

[Elphaba]

christy1980, you stole my response!
i was about to tell miggymama and anyone else that is getting bothered to just say, well yes, I AM having a litter after all.

[lorijds]

Sometimes, when I was pregnant and got the "you're huge"l line, or the "are you sure you aren't having twins" line, I would just brush it off with a sarcastic "Gee, thanks so much.". Sometimes, though, it really hurt, and I would bite back.

With: "well, most people say I look beautiful."
Or if I was feeling kind of mean: "Wow, that was a really nice thing to say. You want to tell me my hair looks like sh*t, too?"
Or if I was feeling really mean: "Actually I'm not even pregnant...it's a tumor on my liver, and I only have a couple of more weeks to live. Thank you so much for reminding me of my impending death." I actually said that last one three times, each time in the grocery store, and you should have seen the horrified looks that I got. It was sweet revenge.

After I have asked a woman when she was due (always knowing first that she is pregnant!:) I make a point of saying she looks fantastic, even if she doesn't. Actually, especially if she doesn't. Because, even if she *is* huge, or swollen, or pale and sallow looking, or has acne or other skin and hair changes, she still is *pregnant* and that truly is beautiful. And no one needs to be told they look bad.

[lilyka]

I had a condition that caused me to huge during pregnancy. All my ab mussels pulled, I out grew maternity clothes, I couldn't sit in a booth at a resteraunt (not that I wanted to leave the house) and my belly stuck out so far it ran into things. And that was all by 25 weeks.

People never came right out and said I was huge but they would ask my due date, shake thier heads smiling and say "oh that must be wrong. You would never be that big if you were only that far along" So not only big but big and stupid. They would pretty much plow right ahead saying I was out of my mind to think that was the due date and my MW was worthless. We knew our conception date to the day.

For bonus dd came six weeks early, huge and healthy. She was nearly six pounds and never lost an ounce of her birth weight. I am sure people assumed I was indeed wrong about my due date. It is OK I never went back to work there.

[bluevervain]

Go Mamas!

I'm amazed at the crass, idiotic things people say...I take it back, I've worked in retail for 15 years!

big bellies or small ones, you're GORGEOUS!!! and don't let anyone tell you differently! You're growing the perfect baby in there and however big you are is just right.

Love,
Christina

PS Great comeback lines!

[lilyka]

I was talking to my neighbor today and this is what she had someone, a owner at a resale shop (I wonder, does she like having customers, :confused: )

"As short and fat as you are. . . .(somthing about the way the baby would sit)" Hello. Poor girl lost 30 pounds while she was pregnant and was feeling pretty good about herself up until then.

Guess I won't be shopping there anymore.

hey for anyone in the Sioux Falls area, it was TK's Closet. Don't shop there. Its a dive anyway.

[momoftristan]

I know how you feel, while I was pregnant I had family and friends tell me how huge I was, I had my baby early at just under 26 weeks and now all people can say is, if I was to have gone full term I would have been as big as a house. I let them know that I would have rather been as big as a house then to have my baby as early as I did. I gained about 35lbs and was only pregnant for 6.5 months, I didn't know how to take peoples comments and I still don't but all I know is that I have a beautiful baby and those that don't are just jealous. I had made a comment to a very close and dear friend about her clothes being maternity clothes already, not thinking that I might have offended her but I thought she was so cute and adorable. I love her death and I felt so bad after. Some people just don't realize how hurtful their comments could be. Just think about your baby and how wonderful it is to be pregnant, I wish I still was.
Take care, lots of love

[sunmountain]

One of dh's customers said this to me on a really bad day. I immediately started crying right in front of her. Guaranteed she'll never make that mistake again, esp after the chewing out dh gave her when I left!
People can be ignorant, sometimes a tall straight back and a winning smile will make your point beautifully. Or just break down in tears like I did:crying :thumb

[atristin]

Wow--reading this has helped me feel so much better! Thanks to all you mommas who shared your experiences. I went through a period about three weeks ago where I felt like I was going to KILL the next person who told me how huge I was. And "huge" was always the word they used. I finally broke down in tears when my former boss thought it was necessary to have the following conversation with me after not seeing me for a few months:
Him: Wow, you really got huge, huh?
Me: (with a weary smile) Yeah, I guess.
Him: So you must be feeding that baby a ton, huh?
Me: Not really, I've actually gained the exact amount of weight I'm supposed to have gained by this point.
Him: Oh, so you must be retaining a lot of water then, huh?
Me: Well, no... I'm not really bloated at all. I've been swimming a lot, and drinking a lot, so I haven't really been retaining any water. I feel pretty good, actually.
Him: Hm. Well, you sure got huge, anyway.

I waited til he had left to start crying, but I just couldn't believe how insensitive he was! I have felt so good about myself throughout this pregnancy--I actually feel beautiful every time I look in the mirror or down at my belly. But there seem to be a lot of people out there who are just bound and determined to make me feel bad. I can't believe how open to public commentary our bodies become when we are pregnant. This experience has taught me how important it is to tell pregnant women how beautiful they are whenever possible.

[sunmountain]

atristan, he's just jealous ;) because he knows how truly beautiful you really are:love

[GB's Mom]

After writing on this post on Friday, I was at a pool on Saturday, in a bathing suit (as if that doesn't make you vulnerable and self-conscious enough) and I was told, "wow! your stomach is so big at 18 weeks, I can't imagine how big it will be when the baby is born."

I just gave my fake smile and continued playing with my son.

Arghhhhh.

[peacepie]

awww, i want to be 'huge'!
i have my three babies already, i think we r done, but reading these posts has made me... nostalgic?
being pregnant is so temporary; (doesnt feel like that at the time!)... I remember a coupla 'huge' comments, but i think i always took it as a compliment! yes, thank you , i am huge, i have a big beautiful baby growing inside of me, isn't it amazing how BIG my tummy is?
sounds like some have been pretty rude to you all though; ppl just dont get it! as if the hormones weren't enough, don't people know what is and isn't polite, or even politically correct?:shake

congratulations! good luck! don't let the negative get to you! it will all be over and someday you'll reminisce about being big with baby:love

[Chloe]

I feel for you!!! I am 27 weeks, but I look about 20 weeks. I just have small babies, i guess! I woiuld LOVE to have a BIG pregnant belly!!!

For people who make fat comments, just say "thanks, you look huge too!" hehe

All the comments above are good too! Sign of a healthy baby, etc. At least you don't look like you are starving yourself and your baby!!! People would have alot to say if you only gained 4 lbs and you were 28 weeks!!!!



Pregnant is BEAUTIFUL!!!

Francine

[olymom]

I had a close (male) friend make a comment about how big I looked at around 30 weeks and I just told him that pregnant women don't want to be told they are big as your way of being supportive- and I am sure that's what he was trying to be. People, myself included, have body size issues- the whole damn culture does- and that a woman's body is never the object of derogatory discussion with me, and that I didn't think it was with him either, but it sounded that way. It created a really great discussion and helped me feel like I could advocate and educate instead of being so defensive that I would have left mad and him left with some sterotypical thought about hormonal pregnant women!
Thanks for letting me share this story!:hippie


Mom to Emma 1/22/01:p and expecting Fava Bean any day :confused: due 8/22/02

[mirlee]

When I was pregnant, I didn't realize I ate the whole house until about 2 weeks before the "due date." I saw a picture of myself and I was downright huge. I mean, I had gone from 110 to pretty close to 180. I knew I was gaining weight, but I was healthy with nothing weird going on. My doctor said that I was doing great. I was eating well, the baby was doing fabulous, I had normal blood pressure.

I think the best comment I got was when a friend's husband, father of 3, looked at me around my last days of being pregnant and told me he thought I was sexy. It turns out pregnant women turned him on.
:rotflmao

[EnviroBecca]

Christy1980 wrote: big=beautiful anyone who thinks otherwise (IMHO) is an asshole and an idiot!!! Gee, I guess I am an asshole and an idiot, because I am thin and think I am beautiful. Thanks EVER so much for telling me otherwise! I'm not pregnant, but I'm sure anyone who is and isn't showing very much really appreciated your comment too. :angry

[GB's Mom]

EnviroBecca: Don't you think your anger is a little out of line? She didn't say that thin people weren't beautiful, but that if you're not able to see beauty in a larger woman, then you're an *A* and an *I*.

As I was overweight for my entire life (100+ lbs) until about three years ago, I know that many people see beauty only in sizes and it can be a very difficult world to live in. Sometimes it takes standing up and speaking out.

Please read her post again. Unless you think that a large woman can't be beautiful, I don't see where she's referring to you.

[joesmom]

sheesh, becca, misplaced agression, maybe? :rolleyes: i weigh 100 pounds & was not offended by christy's comment; she's not saying that ONLY big is beautiful, just that people are jerks who can't see the beauty of ANY overweight person.

right, christy?

(your sig about the war made me lol!!):D



jenny:hippie

[Viola]

Well, I'm huge before I got pregnant. When I was pregnant the first time, I remember around 20 weeks looking at my stomach in the mirror and noticing that I could finally see that I was showing. I went and showed my husband, "See, can't you really tell I'm pregnant now?" His reply was, "Not really, you look like you always look." Man, was I pissed at him! Then I was 28 weeks and my stomach was really sticking out there, at least in comparison to how it had been. But I didn't have any maternity clothes, so maybe that made the difference. I got a job at a temp company, and no one knew I was pregnant until I mentioned it to someone. "Did you know Amy was pregnant?" "No, wow, she's pregnant?" Aggghhh, I may be big but I'm not THAT big. I was so excited when a stranger finally asked me when I was due!

Today I work maternity clothes and I felt like they made me look pregnant. I feel like most of it is fat and I look more pregnant than I am, so I shouldn't wear them until later. But then I was thinking, "You know, I haven't gained any weight--I've acutally lost 5 pounds." But my stomach is definitely bigger. So maybe some of this really is baby! I'll be 16 weeks on Friday.

[RileysMom]

I had a huge belly with dd even though I only gained about 17 lbs (I was a little chubby to start with) It was just ALL tummy. People made comments and I just told them I didn't want my baby to be living in an apartment when she could have a mansion! I told them I wanted her to have room to kick back and lounge.

Now, given, I have one of those don't F with me faces (lol) and didn't get alot of comments, but they were usually little church ladies that I didn't want to be ugly to, so I tried to be funny.....

[Christy1980]

whoah!:duh

i dunno what happened, but geez.....i haven't seen this post in a while....I never got any notices of replies to my post here, and I kinda forgot about it.

ok, so #1: i didn't mean that thin people were ugly, or a*holes, or jerks, just that people who went up to big pg women and basically said they were big as a house are a*holes and jerks. It was an attempt to make the pg moms and plus-size moms feel better by telling them that they are beautiful, regardless of their size. guess i messed that up. I apologize to everyone offended by my comment. :crap :(

and #2: No, i was never pg, for anyone who was wondering. but i have gained more weight since then! this post was 8 months ago!!!!!:eek

sorry.:sick

[bunny's mama]

well, i think i'm the only one here who loves being told she's huge. i'm due in about a week, and my belly IS huge. so when somebody says that to me, it really doesn't bother me, because it's true. and i just figure they are not trying to hurt my feelings, i really do have a spectacularly enormous and beautiful belly (i sometimes even wear shirts that expose the belly because i think it's so lovely and ripe, like a big watermelon). :love i guess i just have high self-esteem, eh? and i just love love love my pregnant body. i feel sexier than ever. aside from how uncomfortable i am, i love having a HUGE belly with life growing inside of me and i love that folks notice.

[bloodrayne]

I have found that the best way to deal with these comments is to answer honestly, and that way the person realizes (I hope) that maybe it ISN'T polite to make comments.

For example, once a few years ago I had surgery to remove ovarian cysts, one of which had burst. I had an incision that was like a vertical c-section and my belly bulged out a bit, it was very painful. I wasn't thin to begin with, but it somehow made my bulge stand out more.
So the day I got out of the hospital, DH and I went to Walgreens to get my prescription, and there was a lady in there who had a very small baby.

I was in a lot of pain and as I was walking I was holding my belly to keep the jostling to a minimum. She looked at me and said, "are you pregnant?" And I looked her straight in the eye and said NO. Now, I don't think she would have said anything if I hadn't been holding my belly, b/c it was probably not that noticeable otherwise. But I wasn't going to LIE and say yes just so that she wouldn't feel bad for asking.

Now I am pregnant, and I actually started to show pretty early for someone who's a little overweight. My due date is very uncertain (off by maybe even a month), so it's possible that I am farther along than we think. So either way, I seem to be bigger than I should be. No big deal. But somebody had the gall to say to me, "Are you sure there's not TWO in there?!?!" I'm sorry but I think that is so rude, and I refuse to just laugh it off with the person because I think it's totally inappropriate.
So, I say, "no. just one.." and I can see the person finally realizing that yeah, that was kinda rude to say.

Honestly, that's the approach that works for me. I feel the need to make the person understand that what they've said can be rude or hurtful and not just laugh and pretend that it doesn't bother me.

[fourlittlebirds]

Bunny's mama, you're not the only one. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my huge belly when I'm pregnant, so when someone says, astonished, "wow, you're really big" I can't help but say, with a big smug smile, "YES!", and pat my belly proudly. :D (I should say that when I'm not pregnant I do have body issues and I do not appreciate comments on my weight.)

Do all of you who are offended by these comments hear criticism, or do you just not want to be reminded of something you are unhappy about to begin with? If I thought someone was putting me down, I would certainly be offended. Hm, now I'm wondering if some of these people who made comments *were* just being incredibly rude and I was oblivious to it!

[Summer]

Originally posted by bloodrayne
I have found that the best way to deal with these comments is to answer honestly, and that way the person realizes (I hope) that maybe it ISN'T polite to make comments.



I totally agree. I've also found that just not saying anything and looking the offending idiot straight in the eye until they look away works wonders. Or try saying "You know, I've heard stories about strangers saying hurtful things to pregnant women before but this is a first for me."

Of course, to do any of that, I think first it's important to separate the intentionally or negectfully hurtful from someone who's just fishing for something to say and came up with something dumb. If a person means well, I let them slide. If they don't or their comment indicates that they don't care if they're hurtful, then I let them have it. It's only happened once or twice to me, though. Maybe I look so cranky that people don't dare say anything unkind. :)

[Tanibani]

Originally posted by bunny's mama
well, i think i'm the only one here who loves being told she's huge. i'm due in about a week, and my belly IS huge. so when somebody says that to me, it really doesn't bother me, because it's true. and i just figure they are not trying to hurt my feelings, i really do have a spectacularly enormous and beautiful belly (i sometimes even wear shirts that expose the belly because i think it's so lovely and ripe, like a big watermelon). :love i guess i just have high self-esteem, eh? and i just love love love my pregnant body. i feel sexier than ever. aside from how uncomfortable i am, i love having a HUGE belly with life growing inside of me and i love that folks notice.

I agree!!!!

But I also keep my big pie hole shut :LOL with regards to other PG women. Even if I am itching to say "Boy! You are HUGE!" I don't, because you never know how it is going to be received. :foot

And I am tempted to say it ALL the time because PG women ARE huge AND beautiful. I don't even mean body - I'm talking just tummy.

[Annais]

People are rude, but I don't think most of them are doing it on purpose; at least I hope they aren't!

There's an older woman in my office who REALLY doesn't know how to talk to other women. She says things like, "oh, you got your haircut" and walks away. Uh, thanks?
Anyway, I am 22 wks pregnant, and another woman in my office had her baby last October. She's very tiny, and didn't really show until she was maybe 7 months. I'm happily showing right now! So we were discussing how it was hard to believe that my co-worker was even carrying a baby for awhile, and the older woman turned to me and said, "well, you have enough room for two or three babies." Then she went on about how tiny she was when she had her babies. Whatever! I think she's oddly competitive with the other women in my office, even though she's 30 years older than the rest of us.
Grow up, lady!
Hee. Maybe she does mean it, and I shouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt.

[myrrhmaid]

I get lots of looks but not many comments! I must have one of those 'faces' too lol!
I am huge and I love it. I was never a dainty gal anyways. As a weightlifter, landscaper, cement artist it serves me well not to be delicate.
The few folks that have had the cojones to make a comment I just look at them and say 'do I know you?' The implication being that it's none of their business!
When I'm not feeling particularly vulnerable and someone says I'm huge i say 'yeah isn't it great? I love it!'
With my 1st I really never lost my 'wiggle' and with this one its the same.
I make a point of telling expectant moms how great they look because they do.
It is particularly vulnerable for us to have this outward sign of our sexuality, something that many of us guard as private. With my 1st that's what I told the in laws-I guess y'all know we are having sex now! lol!
The comments that annoy me the most and are meant to be funny (and it's not!) is when asked if I know how it happened! DUH! Whats with that?
You mommas are great! I love the ways in which we have come to protect ourselves from dunderheads!!
I particularly like the apt./mansion comment! I want to use that one! lol:love

[doulamoon]

People ALWAYS asked if I was having twins, and when I said no, they'd say, "are you sure?" so finally I just started answering are you having twins, with "No, are you?" Works for you are huge!, too - "So are you!"
I did notice, though, along with all that crap, that everywhere I went, folks were looking tenderly at my giant belly, people smiled at me everywhere, and opened doors for me. I liked that part.

[Velveteen]

Boy, did I hear this a lot! I waitressed at a fancy restaurant right up till delivery 3 times! Every, and I mean every, new table that was seated had to comment on my size. It was dreadful. I grew so tired of hearing it, it was demoralizing. The outfit I was required to wear only emphasised my roundness, didn't make me feel beautiful at all!
Saying something like "Whenever baby is ready" is still honest, and vague. After a while I would never mention my due date, to avoid the whole "Wow!, you are huge!" conversation. Seems like I got very large by 6 months, and then it trailed off. Just filled out more.
A smile and "were you going to get baby a present?" disarms them too!
Or, "Why do you ask?" If the person is rude.
Anyway, I loved being pregnant, despite the remarks. I just learned to handle it better.

[weesej]

I am 13 weeks and a few days. I am BIG already. Technically most of it is leftovers from one and two, but my pants don't fit so I might as well walk around rubbing the whole thing right????:) Last week a the store someone asked me if I am due soon!!!!! SOON, I have until October:jaw

[Brydean3]

Well, when I am pregnant the comments don't really bother me. I love the big ole preggo bellie. Mind you I am normally overweight and would go ballistic or burst into tears if someone commented on my weight! LOL But I am OK with it preggo! But I have found that a comic or smartalec comment shuts most people right up. Anytime anyone asks me if I am having twins, I just look at them and go: No, just puppies! Or too the wow your huge or man you really look pregnant comments. I just say, No, I'm not pregnant, just been eating too much! People never know how too respond and I get a chuckle out of it!:thumb

[KKmama]

I am usually not a tactful person, and I don't know if this counts as a tactful response, but this is what I would say whenever someone made a comment on my pg appearance that I didn't like: "The only comment you can make about a pregnant woman's appearance is that she is beautiful." It usually made people realize what they had said... ;)

Kristine